To be honest, no one can really understand the heart of a woman, or understand it every time. Every principle must have exceptions, and the same goes for women. No matter how accurate your guess is, there will always be times when you are wrong.
Many people ask me, is it easier for women or men to understand? My answer is: Men are easy to understand and difficult to deal with, but women are difficult to understand and easy to deal with. What does it mean? Men, you can know what he wants to do from his words, actions, and gestures, or you can know what is thinking in his head from the process and results, and you can hit it 100 times.
However, knowing is knowing, but you cannot predict or influence his next step after knowing his thoughts. There are too many variables in a man's next step. Mood factors, peer factors, environmental factors, family factors, weather factors and even sperm count will all cause him to have irregular sex in the next step.
But girls are different. Even if you understand a hundred types of people and see through a hundred types of eye movements and body movements, there will always be one type that jumps the needle, and there will always be that bunch of variations, and it would be wrong to guess that you fainted. But even if they don't guess correctly, it doesn't matter because their next step is predictable, influenceable, and controllable. It's like fishing for tropical fish. Each tropical fish looks different and has different thoughts. You don't know how these tropical fish are feeling at the moment, but when you pull up the gill net from behind, all the tropical fish will panic. They ran forward, and without exception, they all ended up in the net bag in front of them.
So it often doesn’t matter whether you guess correctly or not, as long as you can respond appropriately and adapt to the circumstances. As long as you learn to pull the gill net from the back, you can catch tropical fish.
There are three major topics in women’s hearts. The first part is the monkeys’ favorite entertainment, guessing what women are thinking. The second part is coping, how to deal with women’s emotions. Seven emotions and six desires. The third part is about control and strategy, about how to use the characteristics of women's hearts to restrict, change, create, and melt to achieve the results we want.
Once you master a woman's heart, this love struggle will become a chess game. Which move, which move, back and forth, finally heard the voice of "general".
Many people's chess skills only stay at the guessing stage, and it is the most meaningless stage, because even if we guess his next move, we still have to respond when it is our turn. If we guess correctly, it will only take more time. Just thinking. Because I always failed to guess correctly, I became confused and thought that I was young and could not even guess correctly and needed to get better at guessing. Wrong. You can never guess right. If you are better than me, even if you know what the other person is thinking, you still have to make a reservation: "99 means angry." Where is 1? Who knows.
Sometimes a woman’s heart doesn’t even know it herself.
For example, what should I do if she suddenly doesn’t answer the phone, doesn’t reply to text messages, or avoids seeing each other? We are so reckless, we wonder what happened to him? Are you angry? What are you angry about? Did we do something wrong? What's wrong? After guessing for three days and three nights, I typed up two copies of the paper, which I also wanted to pawn. The purpose is not to guess correctly. This is an event question. If a situation arises, what should we do?
Maybe after chatting with her friend A, her mood improved. Maybe after eating a big tub of ice cream, your mood will improve.
So when something happens: "Suddenly not answering the phone, not replying to text messages, not avoiding meetings", you can first guess: Are you angry? Are you depressed? Did you argue with your parents again?
The next response is to go to friend A and ask her to calm down. Or buy ice for her to eat.
Then we need to go one step further and use the act of grasping women's psychology to make her change her mood, turn it into gratitude, turn it into emotion, and turn it into thankfulness that you are by my side. This is a perfect incident handling.
Later, I will start with the common sense of women: how to guess more accurately. Then comes the processing of emotions. Then comes the use of intrigue. The subject of a woman's heart is not to be so proficient that you can play with the other person's feelings in the palm of your hand. The purpose is to follow my joy, my sorrow, and dance with my sleeves. Then only you can fill the music of this love. Full of all notes.
Mastering the Heart of Women Part 2
My readers will probably remember this passage: "A woman's heart is like a needle in the sea." Whenever the male protagonist in a TV series says this sentence , I want to laugh, is it really that difficult? If you put it another way and say "a woman's heart is like a needle on the table", I can accept it. Although it is very subtle and dangerous, as long as you look at it carefully, you can still understand it. Who can hide it in the deep sea? At the beginning, I often had to guess (although it is taboo in my family... but I usually do not guess, but analyze, think, feel, smell...), what the girl is thinking, and most of the time I am successful. Later I found out that the girl is actually It's easy to understand, the "things she does" and the "reactions" she gets are almost the same. That is to say, if you are confused and don't know what she is thinking now, you might as well ask other girls, most of the answers will be the same. (unless you describe it so badly that she cannot get the same situation). And because there are patterns to follow, experience can be accumulated bit by bit.
A woman’s heart needs to be seen thoroughly and guessed accurately. Life experience is necessary, and the experience of repeated pondering is necessary. When I was fifteen or sixteen, I read a book called "Exposing Women's Hearts". A handsome classmate Xiaokai lent it to me. After reading it to this day, I only remember that when a girl talks to you, if you cross your hands on your chest, In front of you, it means that you are very defensive and distrustful of you. Forget everything else.
Is it useful after reading the book? I think the content of the book itself is not the point (it is a foreign translation book, and the customs and customs are not very similar), but that book opened my thinking: behind the actions and language, there are hidden meanings. I spent many years "looking" (pronunciation should be standard...) sister, just like at the card table, why do you play this? Because what else? Why this expression, this answer, this behavior? Is it because of that?
When you try to find the secret behind your movements, words, and smiles, I believe you have begun to move towards the road of becoming strong. Just like thinking about the meaning of each card at the card table, one day you will be able to see through the back of the card.
As I said about guessing a woman’s heart, the boss hasn’t come up with a system yet to give a complete summary of language, body movements, and demeanor. So I can only use examples later, just say whatever comes to mind and just listen to it. Because the answer is not very important, what I want to teach is to use logical and scientific methods to make a reasonable judgment on a woman's heart.
First of all, you don’t have to guess everything. You can’t even guess that she didn’t go to the party last night even if she had acne on her face. The key points to guess are, first, the cause of the emotion, second, guess the current situation (our position), and third, thoughts and concepts.
The reason why emotions occur, you have to guess why you are angry? Why bother? Why are you listless? What's wrong? What's going on? Guessing the cause of the emotional reaction can lead to a good event, because if the cause is successfully dealt with, the other party will feel that you are very close to her heart. The fool who can't guess has to ask, what's wrong with you? Are you okay? He was always answered: "It's okay/it's fine/none of your business." Then Duifang muttered in his heart: He is an idiot again.
When I came out of the teaching assistant's office/supervisor's office, I had a shit face and threw my things on the chair. Was it read? Was it caught? Are you confused? In such a simple situation, there is no need to ask: "What's wrong?" Just say: "It's that xx guy again. Do you know he went too far last time?...Did he tell you...that's right?" , how about we fuck with him? / Don’t be upset, I’ll treat you to food later...” Or maybe you’re in a bad mood and get yelled at: “Don’t mention that name in front of me.” “Okay, but talents have names...”
When I go to a restaurant to eat, I suddenly look around, look at the ceiling, look behind me, and feel it. Is it at the air-conditioning vent? Is it at the air-conditioning vent? Please move your position/ask the waiter to change tables/go behind her and put your coat on her back. On her shoulder, she immediately slipped to the toilet. Same, during the meal, suddenly cover your nose, look to see if anyone is smoking, get up and ask the other person to go outside to smoke (quietly say I'm sorry, my wife is pregnant...), if not, look for a napkin on the table, if not, go get it. Give it to her.
During the meal, I suddenly frowned and felt uncomfortable. I guessed that my aunt was here? Got a bad stomach? You have a cold and you haven’t recovered yet? Something tastes bad? At this time, add some hot soup, and bet your life: "It will be more comfortable to drink some hot soup at this time." During the dinner, if you suddenly move around impatiently, or just yawn, is it because someone said something stupid? ? Are the people around her annoying to her? Want to go home? He stood up and asked, "Excuse me, who am I going to take back later? xx, do you want to give me a ride? Is it too early to leave now?"
The first stage of guessing is to watch your words. Many people said, "This seems to require thoughtfulness and attentiveness..." Yes, go and find out if being considerate and attentive works well. However, observing words and expressions does not mean being considerate or careful, but seriousness. It means that you cherish the other person as a treasure and use all your attention to care, rather than being in a daze and being stupid. If you take care of her as if she is a baby, and the baby cannot speak, how do you know whether the baby is hungry or needs milk? So you have to observe the behavior and then deal with it. And the actions after observing the words and expressions are the expression of consideration.
The second stage of guessing is prediction. How will she feel when she encounters situation A? What will happen to her if problem B occurs? After doing thing C, is she okay now? predict. The purpose of prediction is not to be accurate, but to prepare. Prepare in advance how to solve various situations, prepare props and lines, and prepare your own mood, so that you will not lose your pace on the spot.
For example, how would she react if she suddenly heard that homework/exams were due today? How will she be shocked if her computer/bag/mobile phone is damaged? How will she deal with the fact that the waiter delivers the wrong meal (Oyster omelette is served with egg omelette even though it does not require eggs)? After returning from the party last night, what will your expression be like when you come back today? How will she protest if her supervisor delegates too much work? How embarrassing will it be if you are scolded in front of everyone?
Or, will you be happy when you receive flowers? If you receive a gift, will you return it? Surprise party, will it be annoying? Would it be fun to hold a ten-meter poster and a support group of fifty people to cheer for her?
Once again, the purpose of prediction is not to hit the mark. It is preparation in advance and analysis beforehand. If she is angry, how to make her laugh and soothe her; if she is sad, how to comfort and motivate her (emotional processing is a matter for the next chapter). Pre-analysis is to list all emotional reactions and wait for them to be dealt with one by one.
The third stage of speculation is synchronization. What does it mean? You have to start from observing words and emotions, from predicting, to slowly progressing to having the same mood, the same actions, and the same reactions as her, and adjusting to the same frequency as her, and then synchronization events can occur. For example, friend A said that he wanted to play with the shooting machine, and they both said at the same time: "How old are you to play?" The friend said that he wanted to show off, and the two of them yawned at the same time and said, "Next time." Then they looked at each other and said, "Fuck it." Tell me the same thing." "I said it first/I said it first."
Maybe once or twice is not enough, but over time, the effect will occur. Friends will say: "What are you two doing?/Tell me, are you two having an affair?" She will think to herself: "We still have a tacit understanding." What does it mean to be compatible? It is a manifestation of the same frequency, and those with the same frequency will eventually come together after several shocks.
Although this paragraph is written at the end, it is actually written first. I am a nonsense person and I will feel unhappy if I don’t read it. The boss is a crazy person. He talks more when there are more people, so asking you to make noise will make me get louder. Moreover, if you don’t exercise a little bit of privilege, you won’t feel proud of yourself. But the most important thing is that when I see something that I want to scold but am too lazy to scold, and that leads me in the wrong direction, I get really pissed off.
My cute school girl called me and asked me to ask my senior to help me with my homework. My standard answer would be to laugh: "You just know that I can't refuse you, right?" Then I would tell her. , I have to meet with the teacher today, and I have to write a 20,000-word manuscript. I have to go to a certain place to do something, and I have to go..., so you need the seniors to help you write it, and you have to wait patiently. She would probably answer that the senior is so busy that there is no need.
I would laugh: "Fool, if you can find someone else to write it, you don't have to call me. Be good, I'll give it to you tomorrow. Senior, I probably won't have to sleep today, how are you going to compensate me? I think just sleep with me." Well...it's okay to eat." Eventually she will get her homework. I'll get my date. One of the boss's thirty-six strategies was to take advantage of the situation, and it was at this time that Wao met.
What I want to say is that the person she will date tomorrow has nothing to do with helping her with her homework. However, the person who doesn't help her with her homework but is invited by her is basically a person one meter away from the finish line. Why should she be such a bastard? You can just grab your hand and hug her and leave, so why bother creating danger with your talkative words? How do you feel that you are just a little bit away from the finish line, but you still keep talking and put yourself in the danger of hitting a landmine by mistake? To win money, you also need to win words? I don’t know myself, I just rely on attributes to win, do I really think I rely on my mouth?
Why don’t you get any candy after finishing your homework seriously? It’s because I don’t want it, so I should learn how to get your reward instead of learning how to be stupid and ugly in return. So many girls jumped out and scolded me, and they went crazy. It's really...
The boss who walks in the world with his mouth was originally going to write about how he was a scoundrel and how he was a bitch. I will always write about trivial pastimes when I have nothing to write about. However, scoundrels and mean words should always be used in the right place and at the right time. Do you think that if you are scoundrel and mean, the incident will not need to be dealt with? No need to interact? Sleeping at home all day, you get a phone invitation?
To be honest, I didn’t read all of it carefully, I just picked out some sentences. Everyone wants to scold, but no one is too lazy to scold. It's never wrong to be flexible with your mouth, but don't make the wrong direction.
Sunflower said well, be good, come on, I didn’t reply to your letter on purpose and waited for you to come to me, didn’t you know, ha. Sisters who pursue men always write:
Three Ways to Master a Woman's Heart
---There are six ways to the battlefield and three ways to the love place
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It’s strange that I didn’t give the article a subscript before... It’s really huge, probably about 100,000 words when I finish it.
The first part of the thread, the second part of guessing, guessing the location. First, draw a promotion chart: AUO, AUO and above, ambiguous, so you need to distinguish these three stages. Because the strategies of these three positions are relatively different, the weapons that can be used, and the things that can be done are different, so you must know the positions clearly. If you don’t know the topography of the terrain in war, how can you formulate tactics and strategies? The same is true in love situations.
Strictly speaking, AUO is not a position, it is basically a starting point. Anyone who has played the promotion map knows that "Return to the starting point" will be drawn from time to time. If you don't chase well, you will hit the wall and be knocked down, and you will bounce back to AUO's position.
What about AUO’s above? It's about the level of a good friend or a close friend (getting a good guy card is not satisfactory, but you can't get a fake good guy card: I don't want to compromise your self-esteem, just give you random reasons for rejection), no matter how many times you hit the wall, you won't bounce back to the starting point. Those who can only freeze frames are AUO and above.
Ambiguousness is simple. The exchanges are back and forth, the conversation is ambiguous and sweet, the physical contact is OK, the attack will not go backwards, and there is a distance of one meter before the end.
What are the strategic differences between these positions? AUO strives to be above AUO, above AUO to ambiguity, and from AUO to lover. Of course, AUO can also directly strive for ambiguity, or even rush directly to the finish line. The general strategy refers to moving forward step by step in a steady style and ensuring safety (Zhuge Liang's turtle-hair tactics: be cautious and never take risks). If you like strong winds and waves, and like to bounce back to the starting point, you don’t have to consider the position, you only need to consider whether you can continue playing.
If you know the position without guessing, of course, follow the tactics. Don't know the location? You need to guess. The method of guessing is not to imagine out of thin air or go to the temple to ask for fortune. You must use observation and verification to find key information, maybe a word, a small action, a look, an unusual performance, and use this information to measure yourself. location. When you have observed, but the information is lacking, or the authorities are confused and fall into confusion, you need to go further and use testing methods to verify your position.
AUO, starting point, what should we observe? It should be said that after observing certain information, you will suddenly realize: Oh, it turns out that the self of Ge Laozi is still at the starting point.
This is a sobering basin of cold water. It is important information that only by fully understanding the wrongs of yesterday can we create the right things of tomorrow. What information should be observed at this location? What method to verify?
First, privilege or not. Are you treated the same as other friends? If you can't tell by observation, then try making some unreasonable requests and see if you get privileges.
Second, rejection frequency. Are occasional invitations successful or occasional invitations unsuccessful? Does everyone succeed occasionally, or are we the only ones who succeed occasionally? When you are confused, please use double verification. First use the safest invitation (time, place, and occasion that is easiest to agree to) to check the results, and then use the most dangerous invitation (special day, special place) to check the results.
Third, the degree of fame. You are not well known among her friend group. The real starting point character has zero popularity. Those who bounce back to the starting point, their popularity depends on their performance. Those who fall vigorously will get special caring looks: Oh, you are him. Still a simple idiot: Ha, so you are. Or simply block it directly, no need to pay attention to the name. Inquiring is a dangerous but necessary action, so try to use safer language: Didn't she tell you about me? Because I can repair computers/have discounts in department stores/can get scalper tickets, I thought she would tell you, and talk to me again if necessary.
Fourth, things that were returned. Gifts, letters, even attempts at attentiveness were declined. Msn has not been online for a long time (deleted? blocked?), and calls and text messages are almost never answered. Sometimes it's even worse than starting from the starting point because the game is almost unplayable.
Youda or above, a good position to advance, attack, retreat and defend. But don't think that this position will not return to the starting point. No matter how good the position of the mine is, it will be ruined. What kind of information can be considered as AUO or above?
First, emergencies cannot be refused. Whether you can't refuse or can't refuse, it's proof that you have a powerful card. If you're not sure you're making progress, try playing this card.
Second, those who disappear on purpose will be found. What does it mean to disappear on purpose? Didn't show up when he was supposed to appear, didn't show up where he was supposed to be, contacted diligently for a while and then suddenly disappeared, and there was no news at regular and scheduled time points. If the other party comes to look for him (not casually asking: Where has he gone) ? but really found), can be regarded as a feature of AUO or above.
Third, assault can be survivable. Using this technique to test is called gambling on life. Since it is gambling on life, no matter how reluctant you are, you must leave some way out for yourself (that is, the attack should be smaller and more vague...). For example, pretend to be drunk, hold the other person's hand and say: Do you know? I have liked you for a long time. Or pretending to be filled with tears, looking extremely haggard, and saying tiredly: Can you let me lean against you for ten seconds? Or maybe say something sincere and sincere: I obviously like you so much, why don't I just chase you? /Have I ever told you that I like you very much? /Actually, I liked you from the first time I saw you.
After the assault, what does survival mean? You can still maintain the previous interactions, and you can get away with it by pretending to be stupid and pretending it didn't happen, or you can pretend to be dead when being questioned and won't chase after you, so you are alive. Those who live a little worse, such as pretending to be pitiful, changing the focus, and exchanging time for memory disappearance, can still be considered confused.
Fourth, you can agree on a fixed appointment: find a reasonable excuse, reasonable entertainment, reasonable location, time and content, and you can meet every week or even every day (such as teaching, sports, class) Etc.), it doesn’t matter if the invitation fails, as long as you can say this without feeling weird, the friendship is considered good.
Ambiguous, one meter before the end point. Although it is a good position, it is only time-limited and often contains landmines. When a person is not paying attention and is still addicted to happiness, the ambiguous period has passed and he becomes an overly familiar friend who cannot move, or he explodes and becomes impossible again. Rejection of contacts. The tests in the ambiguous period are:
First, physical contact will not cause you to be shot. Being shot is a very vague definition. It probably means not being rejected verbally, being glared at, being pushed away by force, or yelled at, etc.
Physical touching is also a dangerous test. It is best to give a reason and lay the groundwork. For example, first say "your wrist is so thin/your frame is so big", then stretch out your hand and "let me measure it", or hit him To create a high atmosphere and warn you, "I'll tickle you/bite you."
Second, words, gifts, and frequency of contact exceed the boundaries of friends. The boundaries of speech include often saying "I miss you", calling you "baby", "big beauty" and other borderline epithets, or talking on the phone for eternity, while gifts are too expensive, meaningful (necklaces, rings, etc.), and dangerous time (lover). festivals, recognition anniversaries, etc.), the frequency of contact is too high and excessive.
Third, the important information about ambiguity is when two people are shopping alone and are asked by anyone (shopkeepers, acquaintances): "Are you boyfriend and girlfriend?" "She is your girlfriend, right?" "You don't want to introduce such a beautiful girlfriend?", the other party's attitude is non-committal/waiting for your response/not in a hurry to refute/challenging attitude (he wants to, stinky, he? Not so).
Fourth, the frequency of being actively contacted. From the first day of interaction (or the first day of pursuit), if you can't even count the frequency of interaction, you really have very few muscles. Now that you know the frequency of interaction, let's feel how the frequency of active and passive changes. When the frequency of passive increases, it will probably reach a one-to-one ratio, which may be a sign of entering the ambiguous period.
The fourth part of mastering women's hearts
After guessing the emotions and guessing the positions, what remains to be guessed are the thoughts and concepts.
The purpose of guessing thoughts and concepts is to work hard for endless coincidences in the future. A correct guess is an opportunity to create a coincidence; a correct guess is a creation of spiritual harmony.
I remember many years ago, a department senior was responsible for taking care of us freshmen. After the senior said a few words, she stood by and accompanied us with a smile. During meal time, I asked: Senior sister, you used to read Bei Yi Nu? She laughed and said: How do you know? I nodded: Aquarius? Her eyes lit up: Yes! I was a bit pretentious: the eldest in the family? She got high: "Yes!" The next step is a bit difficult, I still choose to gamble: So there is a sister?
She spent the whole afternoon asking me why. I'm not psychic, I didn't do a wealth survey first, I didn't inquire, I was just guessing. (Those who are smarter should know that you can also act out this drama by investigating and asking first.)
The category of ideas includes living habits, hobbies and interests, etc. It covers a wide range of things. It can be said that any small idea is as long as Fixedness and normality are the goals we speculate on, such as hating the sound of machines and liking to eat snacks and chew gum.
In addition to these ideas being known through observation and inquiry, there is also room for guessing, and it will not matter if these guesses are not correct. If they are correct, you can use them, such as "You must like to eat glutinous rice products, right?" ?” “Looking at your figure, I know you are good at dancing.” “Just listening to your voice, I know you stay in bed every day.” Guessing these details can be of little use, and one day a coincidence can become a big use.
How to use guesswork to create coincidences?
Go to class/work at nine o'clock, live in Shilin, often be late/arrive early, have no transportation, take the bus? Take the MRT? What time does the bus take? Shilin Station? Jiantan Station? With a few days and some thought, you can create a coincidence like "Good morning, are you taking this bus too?"
I love drinking coffee and always have Starbucks/85 degrees C in my hand. Where is the nearby store? Where is the store near her home? You can create a scene that says, “So you’re buying coffee here too.”
Coincidence is not just a chance encounter. Buying the same product can create: No doubt, you also have xx mobile phone charm/you also use xx products, for the same goal, such as a large-scale event or party, you are going to Queue? Want to go together? /Want to go backstage? Do you want xx's signature?
Conjectures about concepts are mainly judgments about values. The guessing here can be said to be preparation for taking the exam. Once the values ????are different, once a question is answered incorrectly, there may not even be a chance to retake the exam. For example, the architect who is pursuing my wife’s family has a view on money that involves debt consumption. My wife’s family doesn’t like this idea very much, so they keep him outside the wall in their hearts.
The concept of money is generally that the wife takes care of all the money, active investment type, conservative investment type, fixed savings type, etc. The answers are stupid and bad-minded, such as spending all the money and being in debt. Just forget it...
The concept of family is generally filial piety, good interaction, non-interference, independence, etc. Many people hate living with their parents-in-law and hate being an only child and widowed mother, so don’t think that you are extremely filial. That’s a good answer.
The concept of children, how many children to have, whether to have children or not, and how to educate them. Sometimes it is a judgment about whether a man is a man or not (carrying on the family line, favoring boys over girls, girls taking care of the family when they have children, etc.), sometimes it is a test of responsibility, an exam without prizes, so please answer sincerely.
In terms of friendship, friends are more important than lovers? Is it more important to go out and play alone than to be alone? What are the types of friends? How many close friends do you have? What’s your view on lending? How is the interaction with friends?
An outlook on life, optimism and enterprising, ambitious goals, traveling around the world, being willing to be ordinary, and simple happiness. Where is the ideal and where is the direction of life, will also be factors to consider growing together.
The future, what is the current situation, and what are the plans. Every time I think of the line in Yamato Money Digger: I can’t see you in five years. Create a look, many monkeys like to see the future together.