When it comes to women, the original definition of society may be "to teach children", as long as the marriage is good enough to fulfill the mission. However, life is not a fairy tale, "the prince and the princess live happily ever after the end". We are not a prince and princess, but also can not give the end of life, after the wedding night, you will find that life is really only the beginning.
In the field of mixing almost 10 years, I have seen all kinds of good girls, classmates, colleagues, friends, including myself without exception in the beginning of the 20 center of life is in love, after 25 years old center of life is to get married, and then over the center of life is the child, if 30 or so have not been in love, then the center of life is a blind date.
Everyone is discussing what kind of boyfriend or husband I should find. No one cares about what kind of job to do and how to settle down.
The famous quote from Vivienne Qu, "Don't argue with fools", as a girl, we should also look at the long term. You have to say, reason you understand, but you have to jump into the fire pit, then really do not look down. Because I also really do not want to wake up a person pretending to sleep.
Management is very worrying, but also need to self-tension, may also need to complete their own work at the same time but also to take into account the supervision of subordinates, but this is a workplace survival must go through.
The most intuitive part of the job is the income, your income may not be equal to the amount of work you do, but it must be equal to your comprehensive value, this comprehensive value includes your face value, work ability and emotional intelligence, if there is a foreign language plus, if there is a skill plus, if there is a mouth cannon plus. If you are not a graduate of a prestigious school, if you are not a family work arrangement, graduation income are similar, the important thing is how to go on the road of 22-30.
My coworker Nini and I are examples, Nini a year older than me, I was 24 years old when the two of us income is equal, but my work is complicated, every day to see me running back and forth, and Nini sitting at the front desk, nothing can be on Taobao, buy buy buy. Nini occasionally taunted me, I also showed envy of her leisure, turn around I continue to work, for I am responsible for every small activities responsible.
Then Nini married and had a child, changed a lot of jobs, are idle administrative positions, and Nini happy leisure, often find opportunities to go out shopping, and leave, the child is sick to take leave, the body is not comfortable to take leave, travel abroad to take leave. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones.
Difficult, of course, difficult. 31 years old to change jobs need to start from the bottom of the beginning to learn, to do, with a lot of colleagues than you with a lot of cooperation, and even listen to their command, this gap will not be able to tolerate anyone. The point is, the market is busy necessarily is used to the comfort of Nini can adapt.
The laziness you stole when you were young will be returned someday. Six years after we met, I was a supervisor, she was still an administrator, and I was worth 2-3 times her market value, and that gap would grow wider and wider down the line.
After 30, if you are not yet a supervisor, you have to compete with more newcomers who are younger than you. Because many companies have a ceiling on the salary of the commissioner position, it is very likely that because your expected salary is higher than the ceiling and regret to give up on you. You will face an awkward situation, you want the salary is the salary of the management position, but you do not have management experience, unless you are in a very professional field to be able to make exceptions, or what you take to negotiate conditions.
As a woman, I don't think most partners would mind if you chose to be a bumbling clerk. But relatively, you will be a family-centered, eyes only stay in the buy buy buy, do not pay attention to self-improvement of women. It's like you're a cartoon at 24, you're still a cartoon at 30, but your partner probably doesn't like cartoons anymore. You can't blame your partner for being cold and uncaring, you're just shallow and tasteless. For marriage and partner, I think *** with the growth is the most important, at any time to find each other fresh point. If one day your partner becomes the management, if you are still a small staff, go home and complain about your boss, you will find that you will not be able to understand his frustration with the management of subordinates and coping with the skills of the boss, he would like to ask you what to do about this, but you obviously do not understand, can not give any advice.
There are many marriages that are so far away, and in the old age, you watch your ball, I jumped my square dance, and I can say that the words are only limited to the chicken skin.
For the in-laws, I can only say that the economic foundation determines the superstructure. I'm not sure if you're a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm not sure if you're a good person. I think if Lisa had met her first boyfriend five years later, his mother wouldn't have asked her to work for her company, and she wouldn't have turned her back on Lisa for not accepting her "goodwill", because she would have respected her more for her high job and high salary, instead of treating her with contempt.
Another good friend of mine, Meow Meow, has a higher face value than the average girl, but her mother's family is weak, and she married into a boy's family with a relatively good family background. At first, meow meow also want to work free, have time to raise children, in-laws are also very satisfied with this state, the surface of a harmonious. Meow meow after giving birth to a child is still this kind of work status, the situation has changed. Buy a pair of shoes mother-in-law to ask how much money, and then throw a sentence, buy so expensive shoes. Bringing up children in-laws call eight times a day, the beautiful name of concern, in fact, are all accusations. Meow meow if you have any ideas need to ask your mother-in-law, because you need your mother-in-law to support ah.
10 months after the birth of the child, meow meow enough of this life, she changed a job, because the previous work is not lazy, the work ability and value of the meow meow directly to do the management position, income soared. The mother-in-law, never asked meow meow shoes how much money, but also everything to ask meow meow, and even the phone rarely call meow meow, because she knows she is very busy. Meow Meow also no longer need the support of the in-laws, how they want to bring up the child how they want to bring up the child, what they like to buy for the child. That's when the real family harmony came.
Many women give up career development reason is to take care of the child, but in fact the child is the need for the mother in the career. A managerial mother, or a mother who has her own career, or a mother who is self-seeking, will undoubtedly be a self-confident mother who is not overly anxious and has a certain vision, which is a great help to the child's education.
A good education in the economy can also give your child a perfect childhood. I am a very good example, because some of the toys that I loved in my childhood were not satisfied, and when I grew up, I loved children's toys, as if there is always a voice in my subconscious that expresses the desire for them at any time. I have observed that many children from families that did not have a rich childhood have such childhood shadows, and even though those toys can no longer satisfy us now, they can satisfy the little one inside us.
On a more mundane level, a mother with a well-developed career can also bring relatively good resources and prospects to her children. For example, our manager was able to bring convenience to his classroom teachers because of his own resourcefulness, and so the teachers took care of their children in many ways. In the long run, a mother with a career can also give her children better advice on education and employment, which will also narrow the generation gap between them and their children. When I was a kid, I had to make my own choices for middle school, high school, and college because my mom didn't have any ideas, and I missed out on better schools several times when I had enough points, so I had to figure it out on my own.
Management, and not what we see, as if to do reporting, nothing to do to muddle through. Management is actually a difficult path that requires constant self-improvement, especially for women, who have to sacrifice a lot of time and even face socializing that they don't like. However, this is growth, relative management in addition to bring a good income, but also can bring a relatively free time, I can use this time to recharge, learning, enhancement, and strive to reach another level.