The aunt's disdain aroused my strong curiosity, so I went over to talk to her: "Hello, sorry, I accidentally overheard you talking, I'm a psychology student, forgive me for saying so, those aunts criticized you very sharply ah, but you're not in a hurry at all, and you even complimented them, I think you're really great."
The aunts smiled slightly: "Why don't we talk about something that people love to hear, a few words can make people happy for a day, why not, and they often help us to take care of the family and the little Teddy".
As a psychology student, I have always known that listening is the most effective communication skills, and Dou Wen Tao this skill is used to perfection, while listening to the side of the side seam scratching, can let others say sound. So I let the aunt open the box:
"They keep saying that when I'm too old to move, no children to serve will not be able to live, to the old can not move, more than three to five years, less than a few months will not be there, before passing away the life of those few months is life, is not it that the life of these decades is not life?"
"We chose Dink is not a whim, is my uncle and I seriously discuss the decision made after careful, these decades, we have been to more than 60 countries, all the characteristics of the domestic city to go to sojourn over the Northwest Desert speeding, in the Jiangnan water towns linger in the border of the motherland to enjoy the moon, in the vast ocean song, like to stay for a few months, don't like it! I'm not going to be able to do that, but I'm not going to be able to do that."
"We have not taken care of the children, and now we do not have to take care of the grandchildren, the car has changed several, the total mileage of a few million kilometers, the world is colorful, happy and interesting, if you are confined to a small piece of heaven and earth all your life, and the frogs in the bottom of the well, what's the difference?"
I couldn't help nodding my head yes, the aunt went on to say:
"Before we retired, we were all university teachers, the income can also be, so far there is only this a two-bedroom house, there is not much savings, in addition to the basic furniture in the room does not have any valuables, there are only a few flowers and grasses and a small Teddy is missed, we go out, we will entrust these A few aunts to look after it."
"We gave nephews, nephews have said, we do not have children, and when old, who take care of us, to whom the house, and now they are more filial than pro son. Then look at these aunts, twenty-something years old began to bring children, it is not easy to bring the child up to the child to buy a house to marry a daughter-in-law, and now you have to take the grandchildren, the aunt wearing a flowery cotton-padded jacket is now a very tense relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, are running seventy people, every day to take the child, but also to look at the face of the daughter-in-law, is this the meaning of life?"
I said, "Auntie, listening to you is better than reading ten years of books, you really live through."
The aunty said, "I can't talk about penetration, we have been to this world once, we have eaten and seen, no regrets, if there is a next life, we don't come back, go to the other world to see."
I said: "Auntie, you are a senior intellectual, surely after a hard study and struggle, only today's learning and thinking, there is a depth of cognition different from the average person, only to live so permeable, I really admire you. I respect everyone's choice, just I think you are so learned and thoughtful, really never thought of having a personal legacy?"
I saw a hint of darkness flashing in my aunt's eyes, and she said, "Forget it, like people drink water, cold and warm, everyone has their own life, just follow your own heart, have to figure out whether someone else regrets it or not, and what's the point."