In the past month, Mei Xiaofei has gotten used to being separated from her mother relatively smoothly. In my eyes, this is another growth of Xiao Fei. First of all, because she repeatedly confirmed in the process of separation and reunion with her mother: her mother will definitely come back; secondly, she read her mother's love for her from her mother's stable emotions; thirdly, her grandma gave her the freedom to develop own environment.
When I see my mother, the one thing I always say is: "Mom, look!" Then he will start a display to show me his growth and changes. So, "Mom, look" became a signal between us to launch some kind of show. For example:
One: Mom, look, I can transform!
After the hugging ceremony at the door was completed, Xiaofei put on a "watch" that looked like Peppa Pig and began to perform a "transformation" on me. I saw her tapping this "watch" with her finger, and she would make several transformation movements: squatting down, standing on one leg, tilting her head, or punching, and she looked at me one by one with a proud and smiling face. Show, everything she can create and is willing to show to me, I will appreciate it one by one.
"Wow, Xiaofei, your performance is so creative. Is this a new transformation? Where did you learn it?" What I can communicate with her is still these processes, and confirm myself with her learning and growth process and methods.
"First of all, I learned it by watching TV; then, I created it myself and changed it myself." As she spoke, she showed me the ones she had made up.
"Xiao Fei, Mom especially likes these things you created by yourself. They are so beautiful and cute. You are so creative!" I looked for a way to speak and tried to affirm her own creations. To affirm these is to affirm her. Own.
Therefore, I am honored to often enjoy Xiaofei’s self-created transformation moves. Sometimes I would see her add some things to transform: such as a red convenience bag used as a skirt...
Second: Mom, look, I can choreograph a dance!
Falling in love with dance happened in the past two weeks. Turn on the switch of the electronic keyboard or the story machine, and music will sound in the living room, one song after another. Xiaofei would take advantage of my free time to eat and start dancing. Of course, these dances were choreographed by herself, but now her body's rhythmic changes could be in time with the music.
I put down my food and pretended to be miraculous, but that was actually the case. Because, I completely believe in the magic of Xiaofei's growth, but I must be a 100% appreciator. I either nodded, smiled, was curious, or gave a thumbs up.
Patiently wait for Xiaofei’s performance to be completed. Xiaofei ran over to let her mother hug her. When she saw that Xiaofei's hair was soaked, it seemed that she had done a lot of exercise. Xiaofei, whose limbs were not in harmony with the music, is now gradually becoming more coordinated. But, to me, it doesn’t matter even if she is not coordinated. What is important is that she has been looking for the wonderful feeling of self-breakthrough through repeated experiences, and has completed sensory integration training.
"Fei, did you choreograph the dance just now? I watched every change of the song, and your dance also changed. How did you do it?" I looked at Xiao Fei's face. Eyes asked her.
"Of course, I am great! I made it all up myself. Mom, come and give it a try, you can do it too," Xiaofei invited me.
The music started and we danced together, she had her moves and I had mine. We are different, we all enjoy this beauty. I also saw the independence and persistence of this "powerful" person in front of me. Because when I was too tired to hold on, she kept telling me: Mom, be brave and don’t stop.
Appreciating everything Xiaofei just said, I thought of Jonathan the seagull in the book I just read. Jonathan believed in his potential infinitely, kept practicing and achieved breakthroughs...
Third: Mom, look, I have learned it all!
The small square downstairs is a "paradise" that Xiao Fei and many children enjoy playing endlessly.
It’s just that I don’t go there very often, but when many people see me accompanying Xiaofei, they always say hello to Xiaofei first, and then tentatively ask: Is this your mother? hehe.
On Saturday night, as soon as Xiaofei got off the stairs, she ran into the crowd in the small square. Next, she showed me the movement methods of each piece of sports equipment one by one. Of course, it was also her own inevitable movement. Every movement style brings game creations, many of which I haven't seen before. For example, when swinging, you can lie down on it; you can twist the rope of the swing into a flower, and it will spin when you sit on it. For example, the air walker can be displayed one by one, sitting, standing, with both hands, one hand, front, side and back...
Some of her movements are more conventional, while others The action is unconventional. Those unconventional movements are embarrassing, but she is very comfortable and enjoys one challenge after another.
“Mom, look, I’ve learned it all!” Xiaofei said after showing it for a while.
"Mom, I think you are so amazing. You dared even the things you didn't dare last time, and there are so many thrilling and creative ways to play. How many times do you need to practice this?"
"I made this up myself, I learned this when I watched other children do it, my grandma taught me this, Tongtong taught me this..." Xiao Fei said Just tell me.
It turns out that those more thrilling and particularly creative gameplays were either made up by herself (tried out one after another), or were shown to her by children.
"Xiao Fei, my mother was so surprised this time. If I hadn't seen it in person, my mother wouldn't have believed that Xiao Fei had grown so fast! Thank you for your continuous practice and showing it to my mother." I He knelt down, looked at her, nodded, and wanted her to take a rest.
Fourth: Mom, look! These are all made by me
I saw Xiaofei rolling out dumpling wrappers in a decent manner, and the old man making dumplings. Xiaofei showed me the fruits of her labor and skills. "Mom, look, these are all made by me." When I saw so many dumplings already wrapped, I couldn't help but be dubious, but I also acted like I believed them.
Because a month ago, Xiaofei had rolled out the dumpling wrappers very round and thin. It’s just that I can’t imagine her being able to do so much at once.
See Xiao Fei enjoying herself while rolling out the dough. I asked Xiaofei, "Xiaofei, take a rest for a while and I'll help you! You're getting tired after rolling out so much."
"No, I have to finish rolling them all. Mom, please rest first." "Okay." His words and appearance are like a little adult, which makes him like and feel proud.
Listening to the old man, Xiao Fei was not only able to finish rolling it out without letting the old man do it for her, but she also mastered new methods in the whole process. She was addicted to the continuous practice of new methods and persisted even if she was tired. .
I also saw flour on Xiaofei’s hands, clothes, and face. It doesn’t matter, as long as you are willing to learn and do it.
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I was so moved by all these encounters that I collected them with all my heart.
There is a space in my heart that can accommodate all the stories of children’s growth. There are the joys, sorrows and joys of children’s growth, and there are stories one after another on the ladder of children’s growth. These warm and inspire me to often think about my own studies, learn the laws of life growth, and learn how to be a better myself and set a good example for her.
As a mother, the distance between work and home determines that I cannot be with my children every day, but I can work hard to provide high-quality companionship. Just love her in a way that understands her and your own growth, love them, and grow with your children. I hope that I will often hear "Mom, look!" and that I can often let my children feel their mother's growth - "Baby, look!".
（June 24, 2018）