Every retired woman in not yet retired before will look forward to a good life after retirement, planning where they go Travel, to realize their dreams when they were young, or to help children with children.
The ideal is very beautiful, the reality is bone. Until really retired down, only to find that a lot of inner dreams can only stay in the heart to think about, the reality will sometimes your dream shattered to the body.
Many retired women feel bored, do not know how to pass the time, in addition to go to the square turn, go to the labor union to play cards, and then there is no end to brush the drama, do not feel the retirement days of the joy of the beautiful.
The 56-year-old Zhang in the hospital said: To retire the rest of the life is wonderful and beautiful, we must learn to treat ourselves gently. Only in this way can you really be quiet and quiet to do what you like, and can find the inner produce **** Ming partner.
I'm 56 years old, retired for 6 years, my partner has 2 years to retire, my only son is working in the field has not been married, but I'm not too anxious, the young people are not the same as we used to be, more than 30 years old married a lot of people, let nature take its course.
When I first retired, I was confused for a while. Today I wanted to go to square dance with others, tomorrow I wanted to learn Tai Chi with others, and the day after that I wanted to go out with others.
Seeing those retired sisters who live beautifully and wonderfully, I was so envious. I feel that if I follow them, I will be able to live a good retirement life myself.
Who knows, not yet half a year, I found out, as long as there are people where there is right and wrong jianghu. Initially because of the participation in the competition performance. Because anyone who wants to participate, anyone who wants to stand in the front row, but the position is only so much, there is always someone will lose.
Then, things come, a variety of slurs will appear, and even there are people for such a thing as mutual exclusion, so that in the end, the split, each pulling the head of the mountain, with whom to go offended another, had to forget, alone to play on the good.
Later, participated in the city's Tai Chi Association, organized and disciplined, feel much better. At this point, the state of mind and mentality is different from that of the newly retired, and I can do what I want to do, and I don't want to show myself easily, so I don't have to worry about a lot of things.
We have seen a lot of collective rights and wrongs and quarrels, and we feel that it is very difficult to be alone, so we choose to do our own work, exercise is the first thing, and the other things are not who we love, not to ask, not to participate in, not to support, and not to take a position.
Later, in the network, I saw the online learning program, I think this is a good choice, neither with whom to deal with, and do not have to be compared with whom to do their own good.
Beginning in the network to enroll in courses to learn to write text, slowly follow the teacher to do together, feel that this life is very good. I'd like to take a few days out of my week to go back to the plaza and practice with people, dance, and chat, and I think I feel pretty good about it.
Perhaps this is the kind of thing that you see every day, and you'll get tired of it.
In fact, light hearted people, good people, will not put the square of those disputes on the heart; but those who are heavy hearted, introverted personality, will be the other people's sentence, an action are in the heart, repeatedly tortured themselves .
Last year's epidemic, this year's recurrence, let me really feel, a person only to adjust their own mind, you can really feel the sweetness of life.
Like the "Golden Years" will be grandmother, No matter what happens, have to live their own exquisite life, not due to the vicissitudes of the world and life changes, can change is their state of mind, so that they live more and more understandable and transparent is the years.
Will grandmother's permeability is the reason for her longevity, but also her experience of the precipitation of the years. We are the same, in the polishing of the years, in the washing of time, so that the rest of their lives more beautiful and wonderful, we must learn to treat ourselves gently, as well as those around us.
Only then can we withstand the polishing and changes of the years. Zeng Guofan once said: Young people can not withstand the smooth, middle-aged can not withstand the idle, old people can not withstand the adversity.
We are now in the middle of the old age, or to keep themselves busy and full, no matter what you choose to do, as long as it is their favorite things.
There is a sister who chose to take care of her parents' living after retirement. She poured her love for her parents into every meal, accompanied her parents to go out in the sun on a good day, and accompanied them to play poker at home on a cloudy day.
First of all, we have to learn to adjust the state of mind mentality, has been retired, unnecessary social do not have to think so much, do not want to participate in the direct say no, do not want to take care of people and things, but also a direct answer to no, there is no need to repeatedly think about their own so that they are not inappropriate, their own so that, who will not be happy. You are not RMB, why care about everyone like you?
Secondly, we need to learn to put down and let go. For children who have grown up, let them go to the fight, do not have to use the words of pain in WeChat, the phone chase, so you tired of them also annoyed; and for their own gradual aging of the old partner, to learn to put down, do not have to dwell on those feelings between them or the past, each other, each other, put down, each other, and mutual understanding of the good after the rest of the life is the best.
The last thing you need to do is to go home and visit your parents in a timely manner.
The last thing you need to do is to go home and visit your parents in a timely manner. Frequent home visits, forget the once unhappy, even if the parents of a bowl of water end uneven, but also to learn to put down, after all, and parents only in this world, no love in the next life.
Retired life, for women, is a rebirth, but also a nirvana. Only by treating yourself gently can you really live a happy life from the inside.
Some women are unhappy after retirement because they feel aggrieved that they are retired and have to work hard to cook and take care of others at home, and that they do not enjoy the pleasure of life.
In fact, on the other hand, think about it, they retired, happy, happy, beautiful and wonderful life, are their own out of the world, never others can give, only their own heart really feel these, only to be able to appreciate the beauty of life and the beauty of life.
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Author Bio:Hua Gui Zen Xin, a retired woman who loves life, practicing Tai Chi with her left hand, writing with her right hand, and enjoying the rest of her life!