After all, life is short, who does not want to plan a shortcut to the fastest possible success?
However, the reality is not perfect, we will always keep hitting the wall, and keep going the wrong way. As the I Ching says: "Curve into everything without missing." The development of anything is not a straight line, but meandering back and forth.
Some of the road is accessible, walking more people, the obstacles do not see less; some of the road is winding, time-consuming but not necessarily more.
It can be seen that the road is not necessarily straight to go to save energy, sometimes, take a detour instead of a shortcut!
Life is not a white detour
Eileen Chang in the "must walk the detour" said that at the intersection of youth, there was once so a small road hidden, calling her.
Her mother stopped her, claiming that the path was a detour that her mother had taken, and that she could not take it. Zhang Ailing didn't believe it and had to try it herself. Her mother felt sorry for her, but she had to let her go.
Later, she realized that her mother was right and that it was indeed a crooked road. So she stops others from taking that detour, however, that person reacts in the same way as she did.
Eileen only wanted to express her concern and helplessness as her mother had done, sending her a message to be careful on her way.
Later, she finally realized: "On the road of life, there is a road that every person must walk, that is, the curved road of youth. Do not fall down, do not touch the wall, do not touch a bloody head, how to refine the steel, and how to recognize the direction you want."
The so-called detour, but also the road to growth.
On the road of life, there is no shortcut to speak of, some detours are essential, and the detours are actually a fortune.
The famous German archaeologist Henry Sheriman, who was born in Germany, is one of the most famous archaeologists in the world. Sherryman, he was born in Germany in an ordinary rural family, but since childhood, y enamored of the "Homeric Hymns", and determined to become an archaeologist.
Because of his family's poverty, he was unable to pay for the large amount of expenses for archaeological research. Between the ideal and reality, he had to lower his head and succumb to the cruel reality.
In his formative years, in order to make ends meet, he worked as an apprentice, a salesman, a trainee sailor, and a bank letter carrier ...... thereby accumulating a large sum of money.
However, he did not forget his childhood dream, he put all the wealth of these years, a brain into the archaeological cause of his heart.
A few years later, Henry Sherryman discovered a new archaeological site near Troy. A few years later, Henry Sherman dug the first spade of soil near Troy, which opened the prelude to the archaeological excavation of Troy.
Henry Sheriman's journey has been a long one. Henry Sherryman took a long detour to realize his dream, but it was the detour that became the ladder to the peak of his dream.
The correct realization is often after a detour, as in the "Journey to the West", the Monkey King can obviously take a somersault to the scriptures, but the Buddha preferred to let their master and disciples through the ninety-nine hundred and eighty-one difficulties.
Because, only through the twists and turns of the detours, in order to understand the true meaning of the scriptures, only those detours to achieve the four masters and disciples throughout the ages.
People's extraordinary from not destined, most of them from the accumulation of previous experience, so life is not a white detour, every step of your feet are counted.
A Zen master in the class, a map of China to unfold asked: "What are the characteristics of the rivers on the map?"
"None of them are straight, but curved." "Why don't the rivers go straight and favor curved paths?" The scholar-monks asked in a chorus.
The Zen master said, "The reason is that a curved path is the norm in nature, and a straight path is the exception. Life is also like a river, bumps and setbacks are the norm, do not have to be pessimistic and disappointed, do not have to long sigh. As long as the perseverance, sooner or later can cross those difficult and dangerous, as always arrived at the sea of the distant life."
Some of the outsiders seem to "mountain road eighteen bends" of the dream, you insist on walking down, perhaps your future will no longer be a "dream".
Yue Yunpeng is the "Forrest Gump" of the comedy world who never gives up.
Yue Yunpeng was born in the countryside, not very educated, and worked as a waiter in a noodle shop. 2004 was the year he met Guo Degang, the man of his life.
That year, Yue Yunpeng quit his job and focused on learning comedy. There was no income, no dormitory, he could only live in an old factory where the windows were papier-maché, and he could not afford to eat, so he watched TV, and his energy was dispersed, and his hunger passed.
It is in such difficult conditions, day by day to learn his love of comedy, but he could not get on the stage of the theater, then in the rankings of teachers and brothers, even the top twenty are not his share.
"I can't do it on stage, I can't do it off stage," is what people say about him. Many people advised him not to learn comedy, go back to peace and quiet farming to go, and even a senior brother three times to Guo Degang proposed to fire Yue Yunpeng.
In such a situation of "internal and external problems", Yue Yunpeng cried, but after crying, he still firmly stayed, he said: "Even in the theater sweeping the floor, I have to learn comedy."
Finally, Yue Yunpeng had a chance to go on stage, but he was blown off the stage by the audience without speaking for a few minutes. After that, he didn't have a chance to go on stage for a long time, and he had to watch his brothers on stage while he was sweeping the floor.
Until a few pillars have left the De Yunshe, Yue Yunpeng was enabled again, but this time, he is no longer nervous, no longer timid, but the baggage frequently shake, a lot of laughs.
From then on, Yue Yunpeng was on fire.
But people only see the splendor of the grassroots to become a star, but do not know how much this grassroots is to take a detour to the top of the life.
A detour, may wrestle, will hit the wall, will experience the wind and rain, but do not wrestle, and how to know how to prevent wrestling? If you don't hit the wall, how will you recognize the direction next time?
Without experiencing the night, how can we understand the preciousness of "light"? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Everyone's dream journey, most of the repeated detours, but the only way to go on, to bend the road. Because all the detours, are the warm-up before success.
Nietzsche said: "All straight, are deceptive."
The children who did not feel their way through the detours from childhood are either at a loss in the face of the future, or walking down the wrong road one after another.
A senior boy, Luo Wanhao, was on the platform of the large-scale teenage confession program "Teenagers Say".
Since he was a child, his parents have set various goals for his life and studies, but in high school, his parents no longer set goals for him, and he is used to his parents' planning, but now he is very confused and hopes that his parents can continue to set goals for him.
A child who has always relied on his parents to hold him in line has a hard time controlling his life after his parents let go of him.
Jane Nelson in Positive Discipline says: "To take over all the difficulties a child encounters or to be overprotective of the child is to deprive the child of the opportunity to develop a belief in himself - in his own ability to capitalize on the ups and downs of life."
Parents can't be with their children for the rest of their lives, much less spend their lives setting goals and making choices for their children so that they avoid all sorts of detours and stay on the so-called right path.
Smart parents never let go of any opportunity to let their children grow, they must dare to let their children take a detour, because letting their children explore the trial and error on the "detour" is the opportunity to let their children grow quickly.
When Yuan Quan was a child, her father chose a path for her as a table tennis player and sent her to a gymnasium for training, but she loved arts and culture.
When she was 11 years old, Yuan Quan was selected by the China Academy of Drama's secondary school.
Her parents asked her, "Think about it, do you really want to study Peking Opera?" She said, "Yeah, I really want to go."
Perhaps the child is taking a detour that she can't see the future of, and even though she has a lot of worries in her heart, her parents respect her choice and support her without hesitation.
In her sleepy and tired time, her parents did not pour cold water on her and blame her for taking the wrong path, but gave her firm and reassuring love and encouragement:
"Being a parent understands you, and we feel sorry for you. We will never ask you to fight for your life when you can't reach your goal for the time being despite your best efforts. Quanquan, remember to not get discouraged in the face of setbacks, to maintain a good mood, cheer up."
The best parents are those who respect their children's choices, let them go their own way, and send them their deepest love and support.
The "detours" that children choose to take are not necessarily the wrong ones. Sometimes it's a way to explore the world and learn to grow, and sometimes it's a well-considered will to live.
Each road has its own setbacks and storms, as well as its own rewards and scenery.
Michelle Obama told us in her book Becoming that parents should respect their children's choices, know how to listen to their wishes, and give them help and support when needed.
True love is not about bondage and control, but freedom and support.
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Some people say that the straight road allows people to look at the end of the road at a glance, but the curved road can be in the constant fight against monsters to break through the barrier at the same time, to see the scenery of the other side of the world and continue to make progress of their own.
There is no white road in life, every detour is a gift of life.
It allows us to taste all the sweet and sour, but it is the flavors of the world, so that we find their own value, so that you and I from the stubborn stone to become a beautiful jade, from the gravel into a pearl.
Not after the bend in the carving and baptism, we may become mediocre in the ordinary, will become greasy in the years, will become unable to perceive happiness in life.
We will not know whether the peak in the distance has the ability to climb, we can only walk through the foot of the mountain, and never see the most beautiful and farthest scenery.
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Disclaimer: This article is written by the authors stationed in Sohu, in addition to the official account of Sohu, the views only on behalf of the authors themselves, does not represent the position of Sohu.