A, pre-marriage
1. Matchmaking
This program is a must, no matter whether you are childhood sweethearts or two small, and no matter whether you are as good as paint or has been good to the head of the meat, and no matter whether you are life and death with the **** or difficult to separate, this program is a must. It's not that the parents have much face, or that they want to carry on the old adage of "the parents' order and the words of the matchmaker", but in fact it's the parents standing guard for you, that is to say, when you have a crisis in your development, it's a card to block the arrows.
Of course, some parents will naturally consider the so-called door-to-door factors, there are parents will be the object of your choice to a second inspection, good import pass, there are women's parents do have the idea of marriage, in short, the parents have their own parents have some good intentions.
2. See pro
that is, "matchmaking". By the matchmaker to the male family to introduce the female crystal appearance, family situation, the male family initially agreed to send the matchmaker to invite gung post, called the discussion of marriage. There is also the first matchmaking. Generally unmarried men are afraid of shyness, by married brothers or uncles to see. And the girl is often deliberately avoided, only to see her siblings, in order to speculate on her appearance, commonly known as "touching the marriage". So there is "kissing uncle" proverb. Newer marriages do not have this riddle-like prelude.
3. Marriage
Matchmakers will be the woman's gung post sent to the parents of the man, the man's family will be pressed gung post in front of the Zaojun shrine, such as within three days of the home without the dish bowl broken, the child fell or quarrels and other inauspicious small things, it will be initially through, and then ask for a signature poem or fortune-teller to marry. After the liberation of the countryside, this kind of culture still exists. Even if not superstitious, but familiar with the situation of the woman's family is not suitable for marriage, it is exactly the pretext of the gods to avoid grudges, the woman's family can also take the opportunity to recover the "face".
4. betrothal
After the man's family is satisfied with the marriage, the matchmaker will be sent to the woman's family by the man's gung post "open", and then the two sides agreed on the number of bride price and trousseau thickness, etc., known as the "negotiation of recruitment". Then the male family sent to the female family "small fixed" to the ring and four gifts for hire, the female side to shoes and socks and other gifts. The man's family then sends the bride-price, bride price and "sugar and milk". When the wedding date is set, the woman is notified, and this is called the "day of delivery". Both sides hosted a banquet and invited guests, called "drinking wine", guests to send dowry goods.
5. Sending the year
It is to the state of ripeness, go to the fortune-teller to see the year of Mr. choose the day of marriage, that is, the last time to the woman's family to make some taste.
Second, the wedding
1, gifts: according to general custom, to participate in the wedding banquet are to prepare a small congratulatory gift, with red paper or specially printed double happiness word seal package, which puts into the appropriate congratulatory gift gold, the number of gifts according to the guests of the economic situation and the relationship with the bride and groom, the bride's near and far proximity to depend on the number of guests, but it is best to take the number of doubles, containing six for the "Loc", eight for the "hair", 100 for the "old together" meaning.
2, take a seat: to participate in the wedding in accordance with the host or the host's guide to be seated, if no one to guide, you can sit with familiar friends and relatives, but should pay attention to do not take the initiative to sit at the "table of the newcomer" or "table of the parents". Seats to take food, food to be polite
3, toast: the groom, the bride to the toast to thank the seat, everyone stood up and raised his glass, and the newcomer first gently clink, and then said "congratulations". Do not get the bride and groom drunk, do not pull the wool over the eyes of the bride and groom, to the newcomer at each table toasting time control within 3 minutes, in order to let them successfully end the banquet, early into the room. At the same time, themselves in the banquet, do not yell and scream, to moderate drinking, so as to avoid drunken ranting and disrespect.
4, sprinkle confetti: wedding ceremony, people laughed at the colorful confetti scattered to the sky, sprinkled to the bride and groom, but also sprinkled to the guests who came to congratulate. This custom originated in Italy. In the Middle Ages, Italy, who participated in the wedding, to the new couple to sprinkle a handful of colorful and small candies, blessing the new couple to live a sweet life. To the 19th century, people scattered candy to sprinkle colorful confetti.
5, food dumplings: the bride before the wedding departure, to eat dumplings with her parents and brothers and girlfriends, said the parting, the mother fed her daughter dumplings, the bride cried.
6, to please: the groom and the female family to meet, should hold the bouquet to the room to be married to the bride, at this time, the bride's girlfriend to deliberately stop the groom, but the conditions to the groom to agree to, usually to the red envelope gift deal.
7, goodbye: the bride should kowtow to her parents to say goodbye, and the groom can only bow and salute.
8, out the door: the bride should be a blessed high female elders holding a bamboo plaque or black umbrella to protect their walk to the limousine, because the bride can not see the sun on top of the head, the other party wants to be like the female elders, live a happy and fulfilling life. (Note: Prepare the bamboo plaque and put the word "happy" on it)
9. The limousine: the bamboo plaque can be placed on the back cover of the limousine.
10, honoring the fan: the bride on the gift car before the bride by an auspicious boy holding a fan to the bride (placed on a tea tray), the bride is returned to the red packet to thank. (Note: Prepare a fan with two small red envelopes tied)
11, do not say goodbye: when all leave the door of the woman's home, never say goodbye to the woman's family.
12, throwing fan: after the start of the limousine, the bride should throw the fan out the window, meaning that the bad nature of the in-laws will not be brought, the boy will pick up the fan to the woman's family, the woman's family back to the red packet in appreciation.
13, firecrackers: the ceremony car leaves the woman's home to set off firecrackers.
14, touch the orange: the gift car to the man's home, by a child with two oranges to meet the new couple, the bride to lightly touch the orange, and then give red packets of thanks.
15, holding the bride: the bride off the bus, the male party should be a blessed elder holding a bamboo plaque on top of the bride's head, and support the bride into the hall.
16, avoid stepping on the threshold: to cross the threshold
17, over the fire pot, step on the tile: the bride into the hall, to cross the fire pot, and step on the broken tiles.
18, into the bridal chamber: the newlyweds sit together on a bench pre-padded with the groom's pants, which means that the two of them will be united in their desire to have a male child in the future. No man is allowed to enter the bridal chamber. (Into the bridal chamber to choose to book the hour)
19, avoid sitting on the new bed: the wedding day, no one can not sit on the new bed, the bride can not lie down to avoid a year of illness in bed. In addition, after the bed to the wedding night, to find an underage boy, and the groom to sleep in bed together.
It should be in the eighties, that time most of us in the south of Henan region the day before the wedding is the woman first in the home hospitality (that is, set up banquets to entertain friends and relatives). The next day the man's home hospitality, the woman has to lift the dowry labor (commonly known as "crooked neck"), and elders and other components of the marriage team (commonly known as "send guests"), the beginning of the dowry by the stretcher and other lifting the dowry over, and a few years later a little bit better with a tractor dowry pulling.
When it comes to the wedding day is even more lively and festive, the male party early in the morning from home to marry (locals called marrying a new bride), there are stubborn mouth (responsible for cannon, coordinating the marriage), marrying the nikke (generally have a male sister-in-law or close to the door of the aunt) two or four into a pair, and then a close relatives of the young man on a bicycle with the bride (the time when the bridegroom does not go with the car to the bride's home), (and then later on the prestigious use of jeep). (and then later on the prestigious jeep, has been considered the highest level) are generally six or eight people (need to become a pair of symbols of good things come true), all the way to the firecrackers, ten miles and eight villages to hear all know that there is a family to marry a daughter-in-law ah.
As for the marriage there are a lot of rules and customs, can not be expressed, but then the customs are pure and simple, human nature is simple, because there is no other more entertainment, so whenever someone in the village to get married, often every family has a gift to send over, (for example, sheets, towels and quilts and so on), the main family also set up banquets to entertain the right and left neighbors, friends and relatives, and so the village will be a party of festivities, bustling up! ......