Li Ao said: the joy of adulthood lies in making the dreams of teenagers; the joy of old age lies in no longer making the mistakes of adulthood.
Old age is the norm of life, everyone will grow old. A person's life may be smooth and smooth, or maybe bumpy and unpredictable, but no matter how the past, people in their old age just want to live a stable life.
It is said that parents and children are the most intimate, in real life, the children in the childhood closest to their parents, grown-ups but in turn with their parents estranged. A lot of older people in the old age with their children to live become careful, afraid of being disliked.
So, when you're alone in your old age, will you want to live with your children? Everyone will have a different answer, and now, let's listen to the heart of two old people.
I'm 60 years old, I didn't read any books before, and I'm an honest rural person. I originally had a son and a daughter, but unfortunately the daughter at the age of 5 years old when the disease left us. There the family is poor, to the daughter treatment and spent all the savings, but also owed a lot of debt, I can only go out to work in the workplace.
I have suffered the pain of being uneducated, and it was difficult to put my only son through college. I'm not sure if I've ever had a good time, but I'm sure I've had a good time, and I'm sure I've had a good time, and I'm sure I've never had a good time. I thought I could enjoy my son's happiness, but I didn't realize that my wife was not as lucky as she was, and she left her roots behind when she was fifty years old.
My son married a daughter-in-law and settled down in the city. I took out years of savings to help him get a loan to buy a house, hoping that he could live a good life, unlike my miserable life. After my partner passed away, my son started a family not long ago, and life was tight. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new one.
These ten years, my son thought I could earn my own money, and did not give me any living expenses. I don't care, anyway, I have the strength to work, have food and clothing, but also all the money saved, but also a lot of money. 60 years old, the body is not as good as before, I decided to live in the future to stabilize the days, no longer take the life of the money. The first time I heard of this, I immediately took me over and said I would take care of me, I think my son is filial piety, not in vain, the heart of the happy flowers.
Who knows, it turned out to be too good to be true. The first thing I did was to get the money to pay for the car, and then I had to pay for the car, and then I had to pay for the car. The fact is, I'm not the only one who's been in the business for a long time, and I'm not the only one who's been in the business for a while. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to do, but I do know what to do, and I don't know what to do, and I don't know what to do. After all I've done, my son is the only one who praises me with a smooth tongue. My daughter-in-law never likes me, thinks my habits are too rough, and always suspects me of not being hygienic. I look at her face life, the heart suffocated panic.
My son asked me to buy a school room, and he said, "I don't want you to spend your money on me, but I want you to buy a room for your grandchildren to study in. The first thing you need to do is to buy a house for your grandchildren to study in.
I am old, but not confused. I told my son, "this last pension money I will not give you, I provide you with food and clothing, for you to study, give you to buy a house, the give I have given , I do not need your old age, you do not count me this old money. I go back to my hometown in the countryside, you have the heart to come back to see me, busy I can also understand." Now, I live in the rural home at ease and comfortable, nothing to work on the ground, the body is good, the mood is also open, and will never go to my son's home.
When you are old and alone, will you live with your children? If I were in the past, I would have felt that this question is simply a waste of time to ask, that is certainly will ah! But now my thinking has changed a lot.
My partner passed away early, and my son took me to live with him right after I retired. I also think that this is the best arrangement for me to live in my old age, my son is always my concern, of course, the old man should live with his son. I don't have any other hobbies, I just like square dancing. Before I retired, I also went to the square after dinner to dance for a while, you can relax and relieve the fatigue caused by work, but also can chat with sisters, will not let the solitary self too depressed.
My son's home is not far from my home, I thought after retirement to help my son look at the children, cooking, can meet with my son's grandchildren every day, the days are warm, but also often go to the square dance. However, the wish is very beautiful, but the reality is very bone-skinny. After I moved to my son's house, my son and daughter-in-law left their one-year-old grandson with me 24 hours a day, and when they got off work, they did their own things. They're relaxed, but I'm exhausted.
My daughter-in-law is not very good at cooking and used to pack food in restaurants. After I came, cooking housework is my package, done also have to call them to eat, salty and light is not to their taste, dislike of the words open mouth to come. I worked hard to serve them, but they still disliked me all the time. The more I live in my son's house, the more I feel helpless and aggrieved. The family is someone more lively, but no one understands me respect me, some people instead of the heart.
Because I have to take care of my grandchildren and make dinner, I haven't been able to go to the square to dance for a long time, and I've been asked to go several times by my sisters, but I haven't been able to. I discussed with my daughter-in-law that when she was at work, I would help her with the kids. After work, I'll let her take care of the kids herself. She immediately complained, saying, "Mom, I'm tired of working all day, you're used to being comfortable at home, you don't know how hard it is to make money."
Hearing this, my heart was hard to bear and I couldn't bear it any longer, "You guys are tired of going to work, but I'm not tired of being at home with the kids and doing housework? You need to rest, but I don't need to rest? We are all women, can't you understand my suffering! Anyway, I have my own pension, I don't need you to support me, you live your life, I'd better go back to my own home."
I moved back to my own home from my son's house, let them solve their own problems, I don't care anymore. How much I used to look forward to living with my son ****, how much I fear living with them now. That sentence is really right, the old man should be cruel to the child when you have to be cruel, otherwise it is condoning the child to nibble the old man, suffering is their own. The parents have paid everything for their children, and in their old age it is time to think about themselves.
People in their old age, who want to be alone, rather than with a large family of children in the happy together in their old age? However, if this wish cannot be realized, then it is better to choose freedom. Back to what Li Ao said in the opening paragraph, the joy of old age is to stop making adult mistakes. To pay for the child, can not be said to be a mistake, but if in later life or sacrifice the happiness of later life, let the child nibble on the old, then it really becomes a mistake.
Older people are long for deep thinking, and those who have thoughts will think will make the right choice according to the reality. When the two generations can not be harmonious ****, then each living, have their own space, let the young people to bear the responsibility they should bear, only life will let them grow . And the elderly struggle to pay for the time has passed, the time to consider for themselves, it should be well planned how to enjoy the later years of life.
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