Marriage, like a force, how much force paid in life, will feedback how much back.
Marriage, contains too many men and women's emotions. Husband and wife are birds of the same feather, with the love of life together, need to care for, and manage this relationship with care.
The love between husband and wife, through the accumulation of precipitation. If you are young and do not inject much love, then when you are old, there will not be much "love".
In the world of marriage, love is always the preservative, it allows men and women to slowly close to each other's hearts, so that this love in the development of married life, sublimation, which is the meaning of the two people love each other.
Love exists in marriage when the woman is willing to pay for the man, keep home and marriage.
But if the man in the marriage, do not know how to cherish and gratitude, let the woman in the marriage upheaval, eat all the bitterness of life, will let the woman in the marriage despair.
When the years have passed, the face has been old, need to be taken care of and accompanied by people, the cold-hearted woman despite living under the same roof, but no longer feel the warmth from her heart.
The story of a marriage that took place in a neighbor's home, Lin Chun (a pseudonym) married Zhang Hai (a pseudonym) when the family was not well off, and was still living in the countryside, there was no decent wedding, just a simple set of two tables at home. Even the banquet, Lin Chun wear red wedding dress, are Zhang Hai borrowed from others.
After the wedding, Zhang Hai and Lin Chun lived in a simple house, because of love, Lin Chun did not feel that life was too difficult. She took care of all the household chores in the house, and also rolled up her sleeves and worked in the fields when it was busy.
With their efforts, the harvest was better every year, but Zhang Hai was used to living in poverty, so he was still used to being frugal in his life. He also told his wife to follow his lead and not to spend a penny more than she had to.
He always told his wife, "We have to save the money to create better conditions for our children, so that they can go to university and live in foreign buildings." At the time, Lin Chun also felt that her husband was writing the future for her and her children.
Zhang Hai was so poor that he couldn't afford to eat or wear anything good, and let his wife suffer along with him. In order to save money, not let his wife to buy clothes, shoes, and even she went out on the street to buy herself some snacks, will be read by him.
Later, in order to earn more money, Zhang Hai went abroad alone.
At that time, his wife was pregnant, but she carried the whole family, not only to take care of the house in order, but also raised a flock of chickens and ducks, chickens and ducks out of the eggs, but also can not afford to eat, are taken to sell money.
No more than two years, outside the Zhang Hai work more and more smoothly, the wage is also gradually long, every month are on time to send money to his wife. I thought the days of poverty were finally over.
But Zhang Hai still can't afford to spend money for himself and his wife. Every time Zhang Hai sends home money, he always says to his wife: "Buy some good food and fun for your children, don't treat them badly. The extra money, save it well, don't spend it recklessly."
Gradually, Lin Chun realized that her husband didn't care about her at all. Every time she called, he only asked about the children and how her parents were doing, but he never cared about her.
In the face of her husband's neglect, Lin Chun gradually got cold feet in her marriage. She remembered the suffering and poverty she had endured with him, and unknowingly shed tears.
When there is love, a wife does not mind suffering and being poor with a man. However, if a man does not cherish her and does not love her, the pain and suffering she has endured will become a thorn in her side.
Later, Zhang Hai got richer and richer, and bought a suite in the city for his son's better education.
When his son got married, Zhang Hai gave him a down payment to buy a wedding house. Later, when his grandson was born, Zhang Hai joyfully bought his grandson a golden boy lock, which he said would keep him safe.
He hardly ever skimped on diapers, milk powder and toys for his grandson.
Because of his son's busy schedule, his grandson was always taken care of by Lin Chun, and Zhang Hai always gave his grandson the best of what he wanted, never skimping on anything.
The wife, who was fifty years old that year, did not buy herself a piece of jewelry, she went to a jewelry store, she wanted to buy a bracelet, see to spend more than 10,000 yuan, the heart can not afford it, and finally spent more than 1,000 yuan to buy a ring for themselves.
Who knows, back home, just because of this one ring, her husband blamed her for spending money, the two argued fiercely, and finally she was her husband hit a slap. She said she could never forget that when her husband hit her, he said the words, "Every penny in the house is earned by me, what are you qualified to spend?"
The slap didn't hurt in the face, but in the heart. Despite not being divorced, she looked back on her life with nothing but sourness in her heart and no happiness.
The years have gone by, and Zhang Hai is in his twilight years, and his son is not coming home all the time, but he is working on his career, and his grandchildren are also older and studying abroad. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said.
But when he was young, he was not rich, he was not kind to her, and in his old age, he did not give his wife a tolerance.
Lin Chun just take care of Zhang Hai's three meals a day, do not accompany him to talk to him, do not give him a relief, in the wife that do not feel any warmth. Zhang Hai couldn't help but ask his wife why she was treating him so indifferently.
The wife said: "My heart was already dead when I was young. I've suffered so much with you, and I've been so poor, but you still only think about your children and grandchildren, and you've never treated me well. Now that you are old and sick, your good son and grandson have all gone to busy themselves with their own future, and I am still an old woman by your side. But, you don't get any kind treatment from me either."
In his wife's indifference, Zhang Hai only regretted that he had not been rich when he was young and had not treated her well, and in his old age, he could not get her good treatment. Zhang Hai regretted that they are the fruit of their own seed.
Not long after, the poor support themselves, rich support children and grandchildren of Zhang Hai, the late years were not treated well, with regret, lonely gone.
Managing a marriage requires the care of two people, men and women, is the lack of "love" will make the marriage into a skeleton.
The couple's feelings of indifference, because of the lack of management, the lack of "empathy".
The story of Zhang Hai only know how to support himself, not ever seen his wife in the marriage, in the life of the bitter, suffered from the poor. He has never treated her well with a sense of gratitude.
Young, husband and wife are separated, Zhang Hai is only concerned about the children and parents, but only never cared about his wife. The wife could not feel her husband's love, and her heart went cold.
Zhang Hai has never run the relationship between husband and wife, and has never thought about what his wife needs. That is why in life, not ever good treatment. It is also because the husband has not been treated well, to the later years, cold hearted wife, but also not willing to treat Zhang Hai.
The young husband and wife are old, young, men know how to treat their wives, to the old age, the wife will also treat their husbands, willing to take care of him, to give him a care and warmth.
While children, too, need the love of their parents, but in marriage, the husband and wife relationship must be greater than the parent-child relationship, in order for the marriage to reap a tenderness.
In marriage, love is not just only sweet, it will also fade over the years, and sometimes slowly transformed into affection.
The love between husband and wife needs to be cultivated in the life of the little things, the rest of the life of the infinite warmth to breed out.
In the young, young couple's life is rich in love, to the middle age, will be close to each other, to the old, to warm each other.
Love is to slowly blossom in the little life, is the need for men and women to cultivate by heart, only then, love will be left in the heart of the idea, in old age to cherish each other's feelings.
Couples have love, in order to cultivate a stronger husband and wife, know how to treat each other in life, in order to warm each other's hearts, in order to walk hand in hand for the rest of their lives.
Love is like a flame, let the years go by, wind and rain, love will be extinguished. Without the love of marriage, like a cold cellar, full of cold.
Men who want to be happy in their later years have to treat women well when they are young, be thankful for her contribution, and enrich their wives. Love is all about the power of return, how much you pay, how much you will return.