Why do you hate your mom more and more as you get older and are going to be a mom yourself

Talking about my mom! Doesn't work! Loves all kinds of parties all her life! Play mahjong! Shopping and buying! She's a good friend of the family! Cursing! Mantra: "Marry a man, dress a man, eat a man. Never think differently! A devil who helps his brother! In her eyes, her brothers, nieces and nephews are family! It's my dad's job to make money to help them! She'll be scolded even if she has to pay her own child's tuition! When you have money, you go to help outsiders, and when you need to contribute, you remember that you have children! If you don't agree with her, you'll be scolded and cry! It's not pleasant to the ear! She even hit me! I always wanted her to improve! Now I'm completely heartbroken and desperate! She's been married for over 70 years now and that's all she's done! She still likes to go shopping! She's much better at shopping than I am! If you want to get care, love and encouragement from her, that's a dream! She didn't even pick up or drop off my kids once! Other parents like hard-working kids, but my family likes lazy, dirty ones! I love to work and she says it's not my destiny to be a housekeeper! I used to get scolded and beaten for being clean! Because she didn't like to clean! How unhygienic can it be? Let me give you an example! She thinks the range hood doesn't need to be wiped down from the time it's bought to the time it's scrapped, and that it's a mess! I'm physically and mentally damaged by this kind of mom! I don't know how to love her for the rest of my life!