1. live separately from my mother-in-law.
Never live in the same room as your mother-in-law. If possible, resolutely live separately from your mother-in-law. Children also try to bring their own. After they are 2 years old, they can put their babies in kindergartens near home. They would rather be tired than be told by their mother-in-law.
I lived with my mother-in-law for a month when I was confined. That month really seemed like a year. Even if I am not satisfied with my mother-in-law's parenting concept, I can't say anything, otherwise it will embarrass my husband. I think it's inevitable to quarrel when my mother-in-law helps me take care of the baby in the future, so I will take care of the baby myself when I am out of the month. If you want to eat on weekends, let your parents-in-law meet their children.
2. Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
Many young parents don't want to bring their babies to their mother-in-law, and they don't like her bad upbringing. After a long time, the battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is inevitable It is suggested that such parents should put themselves in others' shoes. If they want to save energy for their mother-in-law to take care of the baby, they should turn a blind eye. I also need to know how to please my mother-in-law. The old man took a baby for a day during the day, and he had to buy food, cook and clean, so he was so tired that his back ached. Bring your baby that weekend, let the old people relax and dance square dance. Treat your mother-in-law well and give her some small gifts on holidays. Many mothers-in-law are very helpful to this set.
Mother-in-law is not her own mother
Although many mother-in-law will tell her daughter-in-law that she should be her daughter, when her daughter-in-law is moved, she also treats her mother-in-law as her mother. In fact, the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, not comparable to her own mother. No matter what you say or do, you should be polite. Never say whatever you want and do whatever you want, that's all wet. Your mother is obedient to you, and you are still your mother. Just keep your mother-in-law's words in mind and report to your husband at any time.
In short, if you want your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to live in peace, then "distance produces beauty", you can be polite.
I'm Xin Ma, Bauer's mother, and I advocate scientific parenting. For more information, please pay attention to "New Horse Parenting".