Nowadays, in this era, we emphasize the equality of men and women, especially in a family, people will feel that the birth of a boy or a girl is the same. Nowadays, many families do not have the idea of favoring boys over girls,
Girls can do the same for their parents when they grow up,
and daughters can be more careful than boys in some aspects.
But there are some families that still have the idea that the boy is responsible for carrying on the family line, so they look down on the girl, and even think it's a shame to not have a boy in the family.
Jiajia has just given birth to a child, and outside the hospital, her mother-in-law learned that she had given birth to a girl, and immediately said to Jiajia's mother, "In-laws, I'm not feeling well these days, so you'll have to take care of your daughter.
In fact, Jiajia also knows that her mother-in-law just disliked the fact that she gave birth to a daughter. When Jiajia was pregnant, her mother-in-law was busy for her all day long, and she gave her pork chop soup every day in the hope that she could give birth to a big fat grandson.
Jiajia and her husband, Liu Junyu, have been married for three years and this daughter is their first official child.
Liu Junyu was born into a traditional family with three generations of single parents. Therefore, the family is very important to Jiajia, because the family's mission of "succession" is in the hands of Jiajia alone.
When Jiajia first got married, her mother-in-law kept urging her to have a baby. But Jiajia felt that she had just gotten married and didn't want to hold a child so soon, so Jiajia has always been very reluctant to do so.
Who knows, the mother-in-law said, "Daughter-in-law, you married here, is to our family to carry on the family, you have to know, you have a responsibility to the family, this can not be you".
Jiajia had a lot of anger in her heart at the time, and she wasn't the family's "birthing machine".
Later, Jiajia became pregnant. The first time I saw her, my mother-in-law said that she would let her do a checkup earlier, Jia Jia thought that her mother-in-law was concerned about her health, but I didn't expect her mother-in-law to ask her whether she was pregnant with a man or a woman every time she was pregnant.
When the child was five months old, her mother-in-law went to the hospital with Jiajia for a checkup, and after the checkup, her mother-in-law asked the doctor whether Jiajia was pregnant with a boy or a girl, and the doctor said, "Ninety percent of the time, it's a girl.
The mother-in-law's face immediately changed, back home to Jiajia said, "daughter-in-law, you don't want this child, first give us a boy, while we are still young, can hold grandchildren early, the doctor also told you, you may be a daughter of the child, and if you want to have a child again, you have to wait until two or three years later.
Jiajia is also a stubborn person, Jiajia thinks, her own child, why don't you want, mother-in-law because of this matter and Jiajia grinding for a month.
Jiajia did not agree with her mother-in-law's opinion, but the baby was not saved. Because of a mistake, Jiajia accidentally slipped and fell down, the mother-in-law learned that Jiajia fell down, secretly happy in her heart, this time, but also finally as her wish.
After she lost her first child, her mother-in-law immediately urged her to get pregnant again, and she had a few fights with her mother-in-law over the matter.
A year later, Jiajia was pregnant again, Jiajia in the pregnancy of this child, worried about a lot, she was afraid that her mother-in-law will be out of the way again.
This time, her mother-in-law was just like before, when she was just two months pregnant, she urged her to hurry up and go to the maternity clinic, and still asked if she was pregnant with a boy or a girl.
When the baby was four months old, Jiajia went to the hospital alone for a checkup, and the doctor told her that there was a possibility that she was still pregnant with a daughter, and Jiajia felt that even if it was a daughter, she still had to have one, and what kind of mother would want to abandon her own child?
Jiajia told her mother-in-law that she was pregnant with a boy in order to stabilize her. The mother-in-law couldn't keep her mouth shut when she heard the news.
Seeing Jiajia standing, she pulled Jiajia directly to the sofa and sat down, saying to Jiajia, "My good daughter-in-law, you are really a great benefactor of our old Liu family, I'll do all the laundry and cooking from now on.
Jiajia was so happy, but she could also see that her mother-in-law's "patriarchal" thinking was really serious.
Jiajia was served by her mother-in-law until the day she gave birth. In the past few months, her mother-in-law has been cooking for Jiajia every day, saying that it's for Jiajia, but in fact, it's for the child in Jiajia's tummy.
On the day Jiajia gave birth, all of her parents and in-laws came to the hospital and stood by outside the hospital room.
The moment she heard the baby cry, her mother-in-law's heart was torn out of her chest as she waited with joy for her grandchild, but the doctor told her that it was a girl.
After learning the news, the mother-in-law's face was pulled into a long face, and she turned to Jiajia's mother and said, "In-laws, I'm not feeling well lately, so I can't take care of Jiajia for the rest of her life, so why don't you take care of your daughter".
Jiajia's mother is not a good person, immediately disliked, "who is not good health can not say that you are not good health, some time ago I also saw you dancing, you do not think my daughter is a girl, if you do not want to take care of it is okay, in the future, the child with our family name".
The mother-in-law, although she does not like girls, but not so much so that their granddaughter to follow someone else's last name, helpless, after Jiajia was discharged from the hospital, she took Jiajia back.
Jiajia's mother-in-law's "patriarchal" thinking has been y rooted in her mind. In her opinion, only boys are the pillars of the family.
In order for her daughter-in-law to give birth to a son, she would not hesitate to advise her daughter-in-law to have her child aborted, and she has been a mother, so under the sun, what mother would want to lose her own child?
When it comes to problems to have empathy, stand in the other's point of view to think about it, as an elder, said that kind of words, but also really not good.
At the same time, the woman in the marriage if encountered this situation, but also to stand up and dare to resist, Jiajia is a good example, to protect their children, but also a mother should be responsible for.