The lonely old man in the heart of that bleak, can only be left to their own slow taste, some would say: enjoy this loneliness.
Long live alone in their own room, can only see their own shadow, no one to accompany, the heart is full of not enjoy, is the bitter loneliness.
Everyone is to go, to go without losing dignity, to go a little more decent, we must prepare ourselves in advance.
1, do not refuse twilight love, if you really meet the fate, go to enjoy it.
I often go to see the short video, specifically someone is doing the elderly dating program.
In these matchmaking programs, many old men want to find a free babysitter, and actually shamelessly put forward, I can not do anything, I need to be taken care of, and living in AA, these old men's daydreaming can be really fragrant.
Many old ladies want to find an ATM, and when they are in their fifties or sixties, they ask for a bride price of 100,000 yuan at the first meeting, or they ask the old man to pay for a pension insurance policy, or for their children to buy a house or a car. This old lady also lacks self-awareness!
With these mindsets, you won't get a good result, and you'll end up in a mess.
Two elderly people come together, want to live together for the rest of their lives, first of all, must be two people have a correct outlook, living habits should be similar, and be able to do each other compatible.
In terms of finances, both parties are free of stress and have a certain foundation, in which case there will be much fewer problems. It would be much better if they can then get support from their sons and daughters.
Older people live together, there are married. There are those who live in partnerships. Others are like neighbors, keeping each other company during the day and going back to their homes at night.
Either way, if two people find it worthwhile to live together, then their lives must be happier.
It's really hard for older people to find a suitable partner, but there's no need to turn down fate if it's meant to be - after all, loneliness is pretty scary.
2, to have a good relationship with their children.
They are getting older and their health is not as good as it used to be, and their children are growing up and have their own families.
Parents must learn to concede at this time, concede in front of their children, and stop being condescending and condescending to talk to them.
It is not just about having a good attitude in your dealings with your children, it is also about using money to open the way.
Children come to visit you and give money.
You are sick and hospitalized and your children come to take care of you, pay. And pay more than you would pay for a caregiver.
To give your grandchildren a big, generous red packet on New Year's Day.
Don't turn down easily when your children need your help, this is a time when you need to live within your means and help them as much as you can.
But some people would say that there is no filial son before the bed of a long time, but after all, they have a blood relationship with you, is your closest people.
3, the elderly living alone must develop a hobby that is good for their physical and mental health.
Running, bicycling, swimming and playing table tennis are all good ways to exercise. Regular participation in sports can strengthen your body, delight your mind and body, and prolong the time you live on your own as much as possible.
Going into self-publishing is also a great way to do this. Writing articles, making videos, and answering questions can increase your knowledge, exercise your logical thinking, and develop your sense of aesthetics, all of which are great ways to pass the time and improve your taste.
Being a self-publisher can also earn you revenue, which will make you extra happy.
4, save more money.
Elderly people have money in their hands. Facing some difficulties in life, you must use the money in your hand wisely and use it to overcome these difficulties.
In the process of dealing with children, enjoy a variety of family services, their own food, clothing, housing and transportation, as long as you have money in your hands, can get a good result.
If an elderly person, life, see a doctor have to look for their children to get money, then it will certainly be disliked by their children, even if your son and daughter do not dislike, daughter-in-law and son-in-law will also dislike you.
5, and kindly and enthusiastically treat the surrounding neighbors and past friends and acquaintances.
Get along with your neighbors politely, and have some emergency things. They can help, as the old saying goes, "A distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor".
Getting out of the house and communicating with former friends and acquaintances around you can help you get rid of loneliness and pass the time.
Participating in senior travel tours, going to senior universities, and square dancing are all safer group activities. It is true that you can get rid of your loneliness if you go to them appropriately.
The days of being alone in one's old age are quite scary, and this is the law of nature, which must be faced realistically to prepare oneself to face the way back to life openly.
What else can be done to alleviate loneliness?
1, children care more about the elderly
Children should do their own support, filial piety to the elderly responsibility, when they are out of town more care, so that the elderly to enjoy the children and grandchildren around the knees, the younger generation of the happiness of the family, and not to produce the feeling of being left out, abandoned.
2, support the widowed elderly remarriage
Children on the old man again, some feelings are children can not be replaced, the old man's some emotional needs, is when the children can not meet. Therefore, for the widowed elderly, children should be enthusiastic as a "bride", to fulfill them.
3, cultivate personal interests
From reading, calligraphy, painting, practicing the piano, boxing, fencing, planting flowers, raising animals and other activities to get fun. All of these help to free oneself from a lonely clique. Even though one may be alone when engaging in these activities, the feeling of loneliness quietly disappears once one devotes oneself to them.
4, daily adherence to a moderate amount of exercise
Every day must adhere to the physical exercise for about an hour, walking in pairs, simple and easy, the effect is good. Exercise can also improve mental health, adjust positive emotions, eliminate mental stress and loneliness. Medical psychology experts pointed out that psychological adaptation, the most important thing is for interpersonal relationships. Exercise has become a good form of promoting the psychological adaptability of the elderly.
5, family members often talk to the elderly
Elderly people at home all day long, small range of activities, and old, frail and sick, coupled with the children's attachment to the old friends and thoughts, often not calm. These mental anguish, boredom, worry need to vent to the outside, to tell people. If the younger generation can take the time to talk to the old man often talk about family life, can make the old man's psychological satisfaction, but also conducive to the harmony of the family atmosphere. Marriage, should not act as a dishonorable interloper.
6, to explore the home inside and outside the countless ways of leisure and self-indulgence
Elderly people are uniquely suited to the "leisure people", some people say that retirement is the beginning of the "second life", there are no children to follow, unloaded the burden of nurturing, can find their own fun. Fish, insects, flowers and birds, visiting friends and relatives, leisurely (tourism), the body and mind happy. Even a little bit of fetish is no harm, humor and leisure master Lin Yutang said: "fame, fortune, color, power, can make people confused, only this interesting word, is good for the body and mind." Visible with this leisure self-indulgence, rely on sound, optimistic mindset, will feel the more you live the more flavorful.
7, cognitive therapy
Elderly friends should first see that the children "leave the nest" is the inevitable trend of family development. Children grow up and leave from their parents, start a family and nurture their own offspring, should be a sign of maturity of the children. If children are unwilling to leave home when they grow up and live with their parents for a long time, it is a sign of family misfortune. Therefore, the elderly should be happy that their children are leaving the nest.
8, continue to learn to enrich themselves
Elderly people can continue to learn new knowledge after retirement, reading books and newspapers, concerned about national events, the conditions can participate in the University of the Elderly, enriching their lives, slowing down the aging of the brain, to prevent the occurrence of dementia. In the process of continuous learning, the elderly not only enhance their self-worth, but also relieve loneliness in learning. Through learning, it also strengthens the connection between the elderly and society and enhances the elderly's own sense of social value.
9, life therapy
The best way to get rid of loneliness is to create a good life situation. There are two meanings here. Children leaving the nest is not the same as severing their relationship with each other. After the children leave home to establish a new living space, the elderly should also continue to strengthen the contact with their children, try to enhance the mutual understanding between the two generations, to give them appropriate help. Alternatively, when conditions permit, the elderly can take turns living in their children's homes to avoid being left alone. This is the creation of a living situation.
10, behavioral therapy
When you feel lonely, you can make a plan to set up a different level of difficulty in the task of interaction. At the beginning, the task of interaction can be simpler, and then gradually strengthen the difficulty of interaction. In the process of interacting with various people, you should respect the characteristics and habits of others and try to get along with them.
If you are too proud to ask for help when you are in trouble, or if you don't care about other people's difficulties, you are bound to feel more lonely. Therefore, on the one hand, we should be good at helping others, from which we can win their respect and sincere friendship, and on the other hand, we should be good at asking for help, and through the help of others, we can make our own mood become cheerful.
11, learn to self-appreciation
Many retired seniors will have a kind of their own old can't do, was eliminated by society's negative thinking, in fact, this is not true. The elderly should learn to appreciate themselves. We are old, not incompetent or waste. When we were young, we had already made our due contribution to our families and society.
Old even if no longer old, as long as alive is the dedication to the family and society. There is no need to feel inferior, no need to be depressed, to see their own strengths and advantages, full of self-confidence to live happily and laugh at life. Do not be too thrifty, the enjoyment to enjoy, to dress up carefully to modify their own, wear shiny fashionable clothes, elegant demeanor to participate in a variety of social activities.