Fifty years old is a watershed in life.
Many people reach this age and suddenly don't want to deal with others. Those coworkers who seemed to be on good terms at work don't want to be in touch anymore. Why is that, really?
After retirement, do you still contact your coworkers? The following 3 retired women speak from the heart, very realistic, together.
"It's impossible to make friends with coworkers, and most coworkers aren't fit to be friends."
The TV series "thirty only", Jiang Shuzheng played the luxury store salesman Wang Manni, not only because of the sale of goods out of more than coworkers taunted to their faces, took a million level of jewelry customization okay a few times almost by the coworkers across a foot.
At the same time, because there is competition at work, everyone wants a piece of the pie in front of the interests, the feelings are naturally not so pure.
As a recently retired 50-year-old Auntie Wang said:
"It's impossible to make friends with coworkers, and most coworkers aren't fit to be friends. You don't look at work when everyone seems to have a good relationship, but in fact the conversation is centered around the content of the work, away from the work, in fact, we don't have much real affection."
Colleague relations, to put it bluntly, is the relationship we have to maintain during the work, many people are young when they thought colleagues can be friends, and therefore suffered a lot of losses to understand that, to colleagues, you always have to guard against, never make friends.
The older you get, the more you understand that colleagues are colleagues, friends are friends, the two are different, those who float on the surface of the relationship between colleagues, retirement simply will not be contacted again.
"I've had enough of coworkers making things difficult for me during work, and I deleted them all after I retired."
Aunt Wu, who just retired, deleted all of her former coworkers, saying:
"When it comes to my former coworkers, I'm pissed off that they're so good to you on the surface and that they're just going to go to the leaders and snitch on you. These years I really have no less than they stabbed in the back, bad words, so I hate them from the bottom of my heart, if it is not for the sake of surviving to retirement, I may have long been far away from them."
Where there are people, there is a jungle, and every office, every company, is also a small jungle. In this circle, some people are destined to be popular, some to be aggrieved, some to mix well, and some to be stifled.
24 hours a day, many people more than 8 hours a day are in the company, colleagues get along with each other for a long time, everyone's personality, habits, mind is different, naturally, it is easy to produce a gap.
If you meet the scheming, for their own interests by any means, then you may well become someone else's stepping stone on the way to a promotion and salary increase, but also wrong and stifled.
So, it's not easy to retire, finally do not have to face colleagues pretending pleasantries, do not have to cope with their hypocritical awkward chat, many people in the bottom of the heart of the sigh of relief, will not want to contact with former colleagues again.
"Having seen through the hypocrisy between people, I prefer to be clean and stay by myself."
50-year-old Lin Auntie, retired and then did not contact with former colleagues, at first, there will be people say that boredom, to go out to play together, Lin Auntie each time directly refused, she said:
"Go out to play with coworkers, is not to find themselves uncomfortable and uncomfortable? It looks like a lot of fun to eat and drink together, but in fact everyone is either comparing their husbands or their children, or bragging about how many houses they have and how much money they have. Compared to all these, I prefer to stay by myself, and prefer the cleanliness."
People reach a certain age, in fact, a lot of things are looking down. The relationships in the workplace, such as comparison and competition, mixed with vanity and interests, it is difficult to be truly sincere between people, all with a bit of hypocrisy.
People ah, draw camp most of the life, the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the efforts of the people. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty and get out of the way, and then you'll be able to get out of the way and get out of the way.
After retirement, life is something you can choose for yourself.
This time, why don't you slow down and listen to your inner voice, or go back to the countryside to plant vegetables and flowers; or live your own life with your partner in the city; or enjoy your grandchildren.
All in all, when you reach 50 and retire, don't do yourself any favors, and live your life the way you are comfortable.
People to fifty, estranged relatives, old classmates, old colleagues, are no longer contact.
A reader commented: "I'm also 50 years old, I keep flowers at home, drink tea with my husband at home, and cook for my family. With a few good little sister occasionally out to get together. Really like the quiet, always feel that I can not keep up with society."
Some people say that when we were young, we all had no money, and people were equal to each other at that time. But when we get to our 40s and 50s, the economic conditions widen the gap, the rich people may look down on you, and you don't want to flatter them, and those who don't have money you don't want to get in touch with, and maybe they can't be bothered with their own affairs.
Previously, we always said that the reunion, but now more and more feel that those meaningless, have that time as much as to earn some money, think more about how to settle down in their old age, there is more to accompany the family.
When people reach 50, they suddenly don't want to deal with others, especially those estranged relatives, old classmates, old colleagues, who won't contact anyone if there is no economic interaction.
But this is good, the world is cold, cold and warm, if you need to deal with a variety of relationships at this age, really will make people physically and mentally exhausted, live more tired.
How about leaving yourself a clean and comfortable, although it seems out of place, but life is simple, comfortable, is the most important.
People to fifty, no longer count the gains and losses, no longer pleasantries, then, how to enjoy the solitude and tranquility?
1, adhere to the daily walk or Tai Chi square dance, activity body to stay young;
2, adhere to their own cooking, light diet, eat young;
3, there must be things they like to do, to have their own hobbies, such as tea planting flowers, reading books and photography, traveling and painting, so that their spare time is rich and interesting, so that they are in the interest of the, feel full and I'm not alone in this.
4, must have their own three or five confidants, this time the friend is not in more, but in the fine. You may not want to deal with others, but the gossip, listening and companionship of three or five friends will make your old age much happier.
5. Improve the relationship with your children, cherish your old partner beside you, and adjust your mindset so that you can live a relaxed, happy and joyful life.
Fifty years old, regardless of previous grudges, regardless of this life's gains and losses, slowly learn to put it down.
Don't want to deal with others do not play, do not want to and former colleagues do not contact, nothing for not right, there is nothing abnormal, live their own small life, let yourself live healthy and happy, live comfortably on the good.