Some young people, after a successful career or marriage, often think of bringing their parents from the countryside to live in the city, so that the family looks lively and tidy.
Only the parents from the countryside to the city life, is not really filial piety.
At first glance, you may feel very uncomfortable, traditional virtues are "filial piety" first, parents raised me a small, to the old, I brought my parents to the side of the enjoyment of happiness, how is it not filial piety?
It is the convenience of taking care of one's own mother, but one neglects the fact that her mother is very lonely in the big city, although she lives well, wears well, and uses well, but her mother is out of the familiar environment, familiar friends, and dietary changes, etc.
It is the fact that the mother's mother has been in the big city for a long time, but she is not in the big city for a long time.
It is not that it is ungrateful to take one's parents to one's side, but it is really ungrateful to say that taking one's parents to one's side will lead to a bad life for them instead, for various reasons.
The reason why the parents are not doing well is analyzed:
1. The parents left the original environment, the new environment is not adapted to all kinds of things, such as: climate, soil and water, customs
2. The parents broke off decades of contacts, and came to the unfamiliar city, there is no one to talk to
3. The parents came to the daughter-in-law does not like, there is a generation gap, often resulting in mother-in-law conflict.
4. Parents from the countryside to the city, not accustomed to eating meals in the city, in the countryside often eat steamed buns, drink porridge, but the city every day rice
5. Doing what is inconvenient, the need to get a license to keep a dog, enter the door to enter the password, household appliances turned on do not know how to turn off and so on
6. Some parents like the rural areas of the quiet, dislike of the city at night square dance, car whistles, barbecue
After reading these points, you will find that parents from the countryside to live in the city, is a "special group", a special group, but can not be special care, if you can not quickly integrate into the new environment, you can only get used to can not get used to the habit.
Eventually you will find that parents who have lived most of their lives in the countryside, often facing the soil, are also simply unable to integrate into the bustling city life, and even still have a very repulsive view of city life.
You would think that bringing your parents from the countryside would not only allow them to enjoy a good life, but also open their eyes to the world, and it's nice to have children around your knees, but that's not the case.
So, if you really filial piety, do not easily bring your parents to live with you, this is the big truth.
Parents if both have a pension, the body is still healthy, then they want to live in the old home, you will be more attentive, usually go to see, if the parents do not have a pension, the body is very bad, life can not take care of themselves.
Then, in line with the "you raise my small, I raise your old" principle, is to take over to live together, although take over will break the small family's existing rhythm of life and calm, but this is also something that can not be helped, the parents are in such a situation, you can not be ruthless refusal to ignore!
All in all, the parents to the city to live, depending on the situation, more respect for the parents' views, parents do not want to come, then do not force, and occasionally take over a few days to live, but also will make the relationship more intimate.