At 25 I thought so, by the time I was 30 I didn't. Some truths are just truths, and even if I knew them earlier I couldn't do them.
It's just that even if it's ordinary, even if there's nothing worth writing about, there's always something left. I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I think it's a good idea to have one or two moments of clarity in your life. 25 years old, how can you possibly be nothing?
Don't be so obsessed with the older man, cherish the opportunity to fall in love with the younger boy. You will witness the time when a young boy becomes an uncle, but you will never be a part of the years when an uncle is young.
Don't fall in love with a married man, he won't divorce for you.
Young boys say to you, all the language you don't understand is I love you, don't doubt it.
I had known that even if there are many people around, it will not reduce my appreciation of loneliness. Loneliness and loneliness are not the same, loneliness can be discharged, but loneliness will never disappear. Loneliness is around even if there are many people, still feel like a person. Loneliness is not waiting for a lover and it can cease to exist.
Always choose what you truly love and don't give up, shelve, compromise, or compromise for fear it won't feed you. Because your heart will bring you back, and someday you'll still make the choice all over again. Being righteous in the beginning is less costly in terms of time as well as emotional damage than later committing.
Everyone needs a passionate lifelong career
I don't want some kind of once-and-for-all life, but rather a lifelong career that I am willing to be passionate about, even if I live to be 80 years old. When I get old, I don't have to square dance in anticipation of my children returning home once a year, but rather, still be able to do what I love, what I'm good at, and still be able to continue to generate value.
Don't just love your family in the circle of friends
New Year's Eve is still about going home. Family means more than seeing each other once a year, so how many more times in this lifetime?
Elderly people, spend as much time with them as you can once more, even if you're not that close. Because blood ties are a strange thing. When you lose it, you'll be sadder than you think.
If you live in a big city, bite the bullet and get a foothold there, don't go back to a second or third-tier city and fantasize that you'll have a car and a house, flowers and a dog, and that you'll be able to live a life where you only have to work three times as hard. No matter where you are, effort doesn't get a minus. Second and third tier cities have opaque relationships, are more exhausting, and have to drink. Imagine your future child born here, and the child grows up, chases stars, and can't even fulfill his or her desire to see a concert!
Friendship tips about friendship
Don't complain that your friend is a different person when she falls in love. Maybe she was like that before and you just didn't realize it.
Never share your favorite music or movie more than twice to someone. They'll be perfunctory and you'll be disappointed.
Never associate your dreams with your friends. They will fall in love, get married, and start a family, just like you will fall in love, get married, and start a family. Only the one who goes slow will be disappointed first.
At 25, it feels like you've reached the goodbye sign with a lot of people. Chances are, what you thought hadn't even begun is actually all there is.