Nowadays, there are more and more people who get married late and have children, there are those who get married and have children in their 20s, and there are also those who drag themselves to be single in their 30s. And, over 40 years old and still not married. How is the life of people who don't get married at 40? Do you ever regret it?
Also, there are people who, because of the inhumanity of being please when they were young, really met people who could not go with them in their lives, so they chose to divorce, and the divorce could not be found, and a person with a child, and the child with the life. It's hard to live like that, and as long as you're happy in life, the days aren't too hard.
So, how are people who are single at the age of 40, how is their life now? Can they still find the right person to marry?
People who are contented inside are never afraid of age and time
Nowadays, many young people are anxious because they are confused about the future, because they feel the uncertainty and panic of the road ahead, and there is no exact direction inside.
Life is not like a multiple choice question. There are four answers, ABCD. Even if it doesn't work, a random 1/4 may be right. But life is not a multiple choice question, it is a question, what about the future life? Underneath the question and answer is a blank space, the way a person writes with one stroke, full of uncertainty, not knowing what to write, and therefore feeling uneasy and confused about the future.
For them, such a question, there is no certain answer, but from the experience of others, there seems to be an answer. Because as they grow older, there are only those roads to take, and based on the life experiences of those around them, they seem to know what kind of road they are going to take, and there is a foreseeable future, and in the eyes of others, this road is the one that other people often take to get married for the rest of their lives.
40-year-old single still believe in love, a lifetime to find the right person to marry?
But some people stray from the lane, do not choose such a path, and the heart is not confused. How do they do it?
They tend to have more insight and a broader range of experience. They don't have to take the path that ordinary people should take, but choose another path, a path that is dark. But he knew the whereabouts of the path. He had peace in his heart. The subject matter facing him regarding the path ordinary people take and the path he takes is weighed in his mind. So, it was he who chose the better path.
In his heart, because he had a goal for the future and his heart was filled with it, he was not afraid of life, and he did not intend to get married or remarried no matter what people said. Because no matter what happens in the future, he can live a calm life without panicking, facing his heart and coming up with solutions after preparing himself in his heart.
But such a life free was only free for him alone, no matter what there was a lack of people who loved y, a lack of love, a life without love, it was always a pity, it was undeniable. "I thought I didn't need love before I met you. "
Auntie Chen is a fiancé, 43 years old, but has never married and lives alone. I've heard that Auntie Chen loved her boyfriend madly when she was young, but the man ruthlessly abandoned her for a younger woman. It was said that the girl was his true love. Auntie Chen was depressed and disillusioned, believing that there is no truth in the earthly world, and was never very depressed about love.
Living alone, you don't have to take care of other people's moods anymore, you can accommodate them, and you only need to take care of your own appetite when you cook. You don't have to labor to please the other person anymore. She'd been living this uneventful life.
Sometimes on weekends, I go to the park and see other couples going for a walk in the park hand in hand, and I don't really envy Auntie Chen's heart. But think about the past. This sweet price, if the future is based on the sinking parting, in order not to be hurt, it is best never to start.
"In order not to be hurt, never start" This may express the heart of most of our modern people. In anyone's heart, there are wounds that never heal. Many teenagers, no matter how many people they see, this wound has never been able to heal. How many people have been hurt by a single word?
Auntie Chen thinks it is possible to do this all her life. It would not be a lifetime if she could save money now, prepare for her future retirement, and have fun during her lifetime.
But while square dancing, Auntie Chen met someone. The man was divorced, and the two children in the family had grown up and married each. He wasn't married either. Living alone. One day, he met Auntie Chen at the square dance team and was captivated and excited.
After learning that Auntie Chen is also single, he immediately launched a passionate pursuit of Auntie Chen. The means of this pursuit is no worse than that of a hairy teenager. Originally, Auntie Chen was not looking forward to love, but under his fierce pursuit, she gradually softened her thorn and finally accepted him.
The two went to get a marriage license. Auntie Chen's husband's children were also happy to find such a soul mate in their father's middle and old age. They were also very friendly to Auntie Chen, and the two spent warm and peaceful times together.
Auntie Chen said, "I thought I would be alone for the rest of my life, but I never thought I would see you."
What are the benefits of finding a partner?
First, you can become partners in life and help each other
In their forties, both men and women, their bodies are going downhill compared to before, more and more sick, and more trips to the hospital than ever before, and this is the year of the headache, a person to take care of it next to the other, a person to hand over the tea, there is happiness. Life can take care of each other is the most basic, since the two people have a good feeling to go together, we must pay attention to each other's body, the body is not comfortable when said, two people share, maybe it is the meaning of the old companion together.
Second, do not hesitate to become spiritual partners
have entered the middle-aged and old age period, at this stage, the two people together, more memories of the past, summarize their past, can reproduce their own life, but also to make the same exclamation, as long as there is interest, there should be these feelings, experience life
Third, to become a partner in life, together with the bold Try
Young is always bound by a lot of things, no matter what to do, always can not help, of course, want to go, you can go for a long time did not get to go to the place to travel. This time, two people can go with a partner. Then, before going there and while playing there, memories can be made along the way. These memories are ancient spiritual food for the future.
Or learn a skill, and dream when you're young, always bound by many pressures to hold hands often wherever you go, free to settle for food and drink. Enough. This year, finally no pressure, no constraints, and can do what you like with the people you like. That's the fulfillment of life, right?
If you can find someone to love, love boldly. Don't always be stuck in your old rut. An emotionally rich life is great. I'm waiting for you to hit the ground running in your own emotional world.
Gather yourself up before you meet true love, even at the age of 40. It is at that time that you don't sigh in vain for the efforts of today. Spend each day in earnest and make every second worth the effort on the days when you don't meet your true love.
One day you will meet and finally have the words "Hello! I've kept you waiting! "