As unmarried women, we all hope to find a loving husband, and preferably a sensible in-laws; and as a mother-in-law, we hope to find a filial daughter-in-law, not only to take good care of their own son, and preferably also to their own obedience. Both of these ideas are certainly correct. However, once the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sandwiched in the middle of the husband can be a disaster. So many families have chosen not to take the in-laws after marriage to live together, but not to avoid appearing ungrateful, was said to have married a daughter-in-law forget the mother, in the end, how should we choose it? Or to follow the actual situation, take a look at the lessons learned from the past, they speak but very thorough Oh.
First, look at the age of the mother-in-law
Married early, the age of the mother-in-law is not too big, and some even less than the age of retirement has been when the in-laws, life is completely able to take care of themselves, there is no need to move over to live together ah. This is not only to maintain the privacy of their own lives, they can live in style, but also to avoid a lot of conflict in life.
Just take your kids back to your in-laws' house on Sundays and holidays, help them with the housework, or go out on a trip together as a family, which will not only enhance your family's relationship, but also create a good family environment for the next generation, so that they know how to be filial to their parents.
Two, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law together, prone to conflict
Do not do moral abduction in the name of filial piety, must be the mother-in-law to take over to live together. You know, no matter how filial daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and then reasonable, the two people are also in different educational background, living habits are certainly not the same, and even the habit of doing housework are not the same.
Do not underestimate these details, the dike is destroyed in an ant hole, living under one roof, how can not happen for a long time, how can not produce conflict? The first thing you need to know is whether or not you are living with your mother-in-law, so don't let other people's opinions get in the way.
Three, on the issue of children's education
Now everyone is not in favor of intergenerational education, it is ah, of course, their own children or husband and wife to educate themselves. Two generations of people's educational philosophy is not consistent, the general parents will be more strict on the education of children, and the older generation mostly love grandchildren, grandchildren, some parents do not allow children to eat, do not allow children to do things, but can be in the old man to take care of the children's stall was secretly allowed.
In this way, the contradiction also arose, favoring the clear official difficult to break the family affairs, the conflict of gas can not be said. Another point is that after living together, the mother-in-law will generally take the initiative to apply for child care, even if the two generations agree on the way to educate the child, the heavy work of child care, but also tired of the mother-in-law, the original good health may also be due to overworked and sick, it is simply not worth the loss.
The young couple have their own life, parents should also have their own life, dancing, or on the senior university, go out with the neighbors to chat, play chess, like to go out can also take advantage of the retirement of nothing to go out and travel, each living their own wonderful, so the life is healthy and taste. The first thing you need to do is to keep a distance from each other, not to infringe on each other, to respect each other, and to live your life to the fullest.
I am the mother of two children, a senior nursery nurse and illustrator, about the child's education, physiology, psychology, nutrition, daily health care and nursing care problems, ask me.
I am a mother of two, a senior nurse and an illustrator.