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A couple of days ago, a friend called and cried that she had recently talked to a boyfriend, the young man is good, high education, handsome and clean-looking, family conditions can be, but with the two in-depth relationship, she found that this boy does not move to pull his mom to say things, and the psychological feeling of immaturity, she would not have met a "mama's boy". "The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure that I'm going to be able to do it.
I said, yes, it can be 90% sure. However, whether you want to continue to develop, this you have to take a pinch, I'm just a suggestion.
When it comes to moms, there are many examples. Of course, mombo men are not just a new phenomenon that has emerged over the years. If you look at our history books, you can find such people everywhere.
What is a "mama's boy"? To put it simply, a "mama's boy" is a man who listens to his mother and puts her at the center of everything. Although they have already reached the standard of adults, but psychologically they have not been "weaned", there is a serious sense of dependence on the mother.
So how do you tell if a person is a "mom's baby"? Here are a few characteristics:
First, everything is my mother said, or how my mother. If you meet a boy, and you talk, or do things together, he moved to say how my mother, how my mother, never take their mother as a shield, without their own views and advocates, this is a very important feature of the "mom treasure man".
Secondly, I like to stay with my mother and have no inhibitions in front of her. Most of the mom treasure man, for the mother is particularly dependent on, their lives can not even take care of themselves, in their eyes, the mother is bound together with their own, is absolutely inseparable. Such people, there is also, in front of their own mother has no taboos, such as wearing nude, naked, and mother still sleep together and so on.
Finally, the spirit is not independent, lack of initiative, no matter right or wrong, are obedient to the parents mean. The vast majority of "mom's baby", do not have the psychological quality of adults should be, to give people the impact of the general lack of initiative, no confidence. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes and boots.
If you meet someone who has the above characteristics, then he is a "mom's baby boy" is certain.
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So, what do women do when faced with a "mommy's boy"?
If you're not married and still in a relationship, there are two ways to handle it:
First, get away from it as soon as possible. In the case of the two of you feelings have not been in-depth development, as soon as possible to end this relationship, do not waste energy and waste of time, and come back is endless pain and disappointment. You must be clear, such a man, life not only will not bring you happiness, but also dilute your feelings for the hot pillow, so that in the end the two go their separate ways.
Secondly, if you really can't let go of him, and can't let go of this relationship, then you have to learn to "transform him".
How to transform? That will require you to play your "smart". Here is a brief description, we can target the characteristics of "mom's baby man" to start. The vast majority of these people, they rely on the heart heavy, manifested in the lack of initiative, do not dare to make decisions, self-confidence is weak, we can bypass the female friends "male treasure mother" (his mother), let him make their own decisions, put forward their own views and opinions, and usually more encouragement and relief for them, this is a good way to transform the mom's treasure male.
If you're already married, the crux of the problem lies in the "male baby mom".
Your mother-in-law is the key to normalizing your marriage. And the homework you need to do is how to get along with your mother-in-law, so as to dissolve her "control" over her husband.
First, learn more about your mother-in-law and put yourself in her shoes.
If there is a conflict between you, communication is the best way to solve it, not fighting and cold war. What you need to do is to understand more about her inner thoughts, more from her point of view, to see if things can have a turnaround possible. In fact, the source of many problems, are due to poor communication caused by you to say more "soft words", rather than and her front hard line, so that you in the resolution of conflicts, in order to be in an active position.
Secondly, to distract her attention.
A lot of "male baby moms", either single-parent families, or couples do not have a good relationship, or her own life and work, do not get love and warmth, will be transferred to this emotion in their own children, in the hope that this to fill the lack of their own emotions.
Then, what you need to do is to divert her attention from her husband. The practical way is to find things for her to do, such as you two early to have a child, so that she will shift her attention to the grandchildren, or pull her more to participate in the senior society, square dancing, more travel and so on, which is also a breakthrough.
Finally, play the role of your own hostess.
The so-called play your own role as a hostess, not to force her to do things according to your will, but to guide her and dredge. You have to show her that she is not to fight with her son, is to come and she *** with the care of his own ability and confidence to take care of the family, take care of her son, please rest assured that she will "power" to themselves.
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The creation of mom's baby boy, there are factors of our historical and cultural traditions, as well as the influence of the "one-child" policy. The fact is, there are both internal and external factors that contribute to the development of the child.
The vast majority of female friends, in the face of their own love and marriage, to carefully screening and multiple considerations, do not let the "mom treasure male" delay their own, and do not let him ruin our own life. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on the right person, and you'll be able to do it in a way that's easy for you.
Of course, mom's baby boy is not terrible to the extreme, but you need to have a patient, "wisdom to resolve", to help them grow, so you can harvest happiness.
Finally, all the love in the world is to get together, but only the mother's love, is to separate. So, the reason why the mother's love is great is that she is selfless to give, but do not want to return. I hope that all of you "baby moms", can really understand, but also dare to let go.
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