It is not difficult to find that if you want to live a good life now, you can't be too idle and too busy. The only things you want to be busy are those you want to be busy.
But once you are free, there are many things around you for no reason.
So do people. If you are surrounded by idle people, there is a high probability that you will become idle people.
Talk about other people's gossip together, or do something meaningless to kill time together.
But because the people around you are too idle, you will be out of place if you are not idle, and even if you want to make progress, you will be dragged down by them.
On the one hand, don't be too idle, but also stay away from people who are too idle, for yourself.
In real life, people with brains never make friends with people who are too idle.
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There was such a friend before. How lazy is he? I will call you every day and ask you out.
Every time he calls, I know he must have invited me to dinner again.
In this way, I have dinner with a table of people I don't know well and who are nodding acquaintances of my friends.
After dinner, I went to KTV, where I sang, played cards and chatted. So I went home in the bright moonlight until midnight.
In fact, my friends are very nice, warm and sincere. There is such a habit that people are always invited to drink and eat together.
I have been there several times and found that everyone with him is similar to him, and his work is relatively leisure. I don't know what to do after work.
So we eat and drink together, talk about other people's affairs or meaningless topics, and sometimes we don't get home until midnight.
I am in a hurry and want to go home. Because I had to get up early for work the next day, I chose to leave early, but they regarded it as a wonderful work. My friends even accused me of deliberately looking for reasons to leave.
Sometimes when people are too idle, they will become easy to think, think too much and have too many negative emotions, which will also bring you negative energy.
In fact, it is a kind of consumption for us to associate with people who are too idle.
Waste your own time and ask others to spend the same time as him.
Because of this, we need to quit this circle, although it takes some courage to do so.
In fact, transparent people know how to keep a proper distance from idle people, and will never waste their time because of idle people.
There was once a movie called "The Spice Girl at the Bottom", which told the story of an ordinary girl's final revenge.
She used to eat, drink and have fun with her friends every day, and her grades plummeted.
Mother was in a hurry and sent her to a cram school. Unexpectedly, the cram school teacher helped the girl, and her attitude changed.
In order to get into college, she studies hard every day. Her former sisters still live the same life as before, and sometimes they call her on their own initiative, but she refuses.
Finally, the girl was admitted to her favorite university.
In fact, we are always surrounded by idle friends like girls and sisters, which makes us stop.
They believe that even if they work hard, there will be no reward. Those hard-working women will eventually get married and have children.
Those who want to improve their academic qualifications, in the end, don't just like them and treat other people's efforts as messing around.
The influence of idle friends on you is subtle. You can't feel it at first, but you can feel it after a long time.
Only by rejecting them can you work hard and your ambition will not be denied.
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Why can't you get along with people who are too idle for a long time?
Because people who are too idle have too much time and don't know what to do, their emotions will become sensitive, they will like to think blindly, they will feel uncomfortable, and they will also make people around them unhappy.
If you have a very idle person around you, you will know how annoying it is.
The family around me are very idle and will not talk about marriage in front of you all day. Why not get married and have children?
If your relatives are free, they will talk about you, guess your income and have emotional problems.
With such idle people around, he will spread the quarrel between you and your partner to everyone's ears, and if you accidentally say something wrong, you will amplify it.
If your best friend is free, he will keep looking for you. No offense, but he has a lot of time.
Although his social intercourse is normal, I'm sorry to bother you.
The things you touch are slowly changing. He may be looking at the scenery, but you are reading the work document.
With him, his time is free, but your time is squeezed out.
When you are busy, you should keep your distance from people who are too idle, whether in life or at work.
Because they want too much, you can't spend so much energy and time on them. Besides, I am too idle, and it is easy to complicate one thing.
For example, a look and a word will make them think much, and it is difficult to maintain a relationship with them.
For example, if the other person is your family, then let them do something else, which can be reading or dancing in the square dance to cultivate a hobby.
Compared with others gossiping, such a life will be more interesting and fulfilling. In fact, it is not that life is boring, but that we may be bored.
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I once saw such a story on the Internet. Before that, the girl had a friend who liked chatting and shopping very much.
Chatting on the mobile phone almost every day, always asking her to go shopping to buy clothes.
Because of work, she has a lot of things to do every day, but she can't stand sending messages and asking questions, so she has to chat with her and other friends.
I came to see her again in a couple of days, and several people around me have changed. In this way, she went several times, but she couldn't hold on any longer, so she took the initiative to tell her that she had something to find her. Since she has a lot of work, she will not go to the party.
Since then, she has found her life much easier.
In fact, we always want to be comfortable and live an idle life, doing nothing every day, without our efforts and thinking.
In a short time, we may feel very enjoyable, but after a long time, we feel that life is too boring.
Life is not long, so you must stay away from people who will "bad" you, that is, people who are too idle.
In fact, there are too many things to do in our life, so don't spend time on people and things that are not worth it.
Let's screen out meaningless social activities and get busy, so as to see the high return of life.