Many boys say that the girl's anger is irrational, do not know when they will be angry, and do not know exactly what angry, anyway, is suddenly unhappy, coaxing do not know how to coax. There are also some boys will talk about some of the axioms, this is very people can not understand, looking for a boyfriend, but not a political teacher, axioms are also many girls do not like.
Two days ago, I saw a topic very hot, is about "girls quarrel is not to listen to reason" classic topic. A boy righteously said to the girl: "Everyone can coax you to spoil you, if you just need me to coax you, then you can also go to someone else, I think as your closest people, I should be a more severe way to remind you. The girl said helplessly, "Why do you have to reason with me when I'm pampering you, what I want isn't reason, one sentence of you cajoling a girl is much more useful than ten sentences of you reasoning."
Boys' words from a rational point of view these words do not seem to be unreasonable, but each of them makes the girl in love feel suffocated. Of course, girls know those simple truths, but love is emotional, and the importance of emotional output in a relationship is much higher than logical discussion. If you are in a relationship, you have to argue, you have to say who has the most sense, then why do you need to be in a relationship? Just go to a debate competition.
A man with high emotional intelligence never reason with a woman, because he knows that all reasons are not as good as a gentle hug and a word of understanding. Women themselves are very emotional, say a soft word than a hundred axioms are useful, so that, very often, the woman's bitterness and dissatisfaction, does not lie in how much work they do, but in the man did not make her happy, lies in the repression of the emotions, the woman's focus and the man's focus is different.
When two people start to argue, the reason who understand, the woman cares just you will not feel her mood. She needs to accept the message is just: you have to love me ah, make me happy is love me ah! You have to value me ah, listen to me is to value me ah! Men also do not always feel that other women are very reasonable, is their own woman unreasonable, in fact, women are the same. Other people's women in your opinion sensible, because you are her outsider, she does not care about you at all, that's all.
A woman is unreasonable to you because she takes you as her own, loves you, trusts you, and desires your love . If you are still hard to reason with her, it can only be IQ IQ double low, detonation of family disharmony. Men with high IQ know how to coax their wives, rather than reason with them, even if the reasoning won, but the wife is not happy, you will not be happy. The kind of must reason with the woman, is the lowest behavior of men's emotional intelligence, a soft word is enough to make a woman happy for half a day.
People are divided into two kinds, one is their own people, one is an outsider. Wife is their own people, to their own people can only talk about feelings, to be reasonable, with outsiders to go. Regardless of any dispute, the woman's idea is very simple, that is: I understand the reasoning, but relative to the reasoning, I would like to hear you say, "I love you, I am willing to accommodate you". Love is originally a matter of love and not reason, if you are in love with all the reasoning, then your love is really no reason! Conflicts between men and women never rely on reasoning to solve, because the woman cares more, but is the man's attitude.
More often than not, men think that the woman is hassling, is thought that the other side does not understand the reasoning, so more detailed list of some of the reasoning to prove that, thinking that this will suppress the woman's anger, not knowing that this is simply hot soup to stop the boiling. To deal with the emotional way, of course, is the first to solve the emotion. How to solve, of course, is to win with emotion. The most stupid man, is the side of the woman as a rival, always trying to use arguments to refute each other, not realizing that the result is to make the flame burn more fiercely. Men should know that women are to be touched, not persuaded.
Love which has reason to speak, reasonable not called love, called the abacus and trade. Girls want to go to the salad tour, you prefer to let her go to eat hot pot, radicalized emotions, a lot of contradictions is the small things in life, a party compromise will become very simple. Love is nothing more than you worship me, I favor your relationship, to achieve such a perfect relationship, timely "soft", so that she felt you on her favor, each other will be hand in hand, go farther.
In fact, many times, in the quarrel, girls want not to argue, many times, just a simple embrace, touch the head can be, love words need to practice, embrace does not need. If you love her, do not reason with her, a fight, mutual understanding, in order to be more permanent.