I'm a grandmother, now helping my son and daughter-in-law with their granddaughter, and every day I have to buy groceries, cook, wash clothes and clean up. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do it on your own. In terms of parenting, we are not so bad, we can learn more and keep up with the times. I have a principle of parenting not to participate in their own children, they make their own decisions, even the child to wear what clothes is her mother said, thin thick not to participate.
I also help my daughter to look at the baby. My principle is that my daughter has already started a family and has her own life and advocates, and I have never been involved in any of her little family's affairs, nor have I ever interfered in the affairs of the young couple. Both of them work, my husband and I bring the baby to my daughter's home during the day, and when we have time, we wash the baby's clothes and enjoy the happiness of the family. In the evening, we always let the baby parents give the baby a bath, play with the baby *** with the baby, put the baby to sleep, I just look at the side to assist, 19:30 or so I went back to my own home. In the event of special circumstances to bring the baby back to my own home to play for two days. As for the child's clothing, baby supplies and so on are bought by the mother herself, never ask. Childcare costs a lot of money, I have the ability to help financially, if the day is good and there is time to drive out to play, I always consult the children first, never subjective. Family life is inevitably trivial, my daughter is usually favored, but always sometimes like a comic like a slight mix-up, I just face huh, behind the scenes a little reminder of their own daughters to the point. In short, the elders and children's ideas and practices are not consistent, so do not impose too much on it.
In our normal life, no matter in the city or rural elderly, once the age, can not work in agriculture or retired idle at home, in order to reduce the burden of children, according to their own physical condition, or will do for their children to do chores, such as bringing children, but also indirectly support the work and life of children.
However, as anyone who has ever had a child knows, taking care of a child's three meals a day and daily life at home is a very tedious and responsible thing, so don't think that just taking care of the child will be fine. Children are active by nature and have a strong interest in the unknown, so some elderly people have to take their children to participate in all kinds of social activities and training under the premise of safety, but also try to do everything possible to consider the problem from the point of view of their children, to reduce their burden, but everything needs to be communicated, even their own children, after all, the children have become a family man or woman, and they also have some experience in society and life, and also have a certain amount of experience of anything. The children who understand the good intentions of their parents, will not say anything, and will be grateful, but for the children of strong autonomy, it is another story, because, in their eyes, in their family life, their parents to help bring up the child, is only to take care of a little bit, in the education and other aspects, do not need to interfere with their own parents, because in their hearts, they think that this will disrupt the family life, but also in the family life. In their minds, they think that this will disrupt all their plans, and everything will have to start all over again, causing unnecessary trouble. However, they do not consider the problem from their parents' standpoint, and everything they do is not as good as you would like it to be, but the starting point is for the sake of the child. But the starting point is for the children, for you that family?
As a parent, if your child accuses you of making too many decisions for them? You can also not go to worry so much? After all, older, and young people's thoughts certainly can not be synchronized? In the premise of being able to move, in the premise of out of safety with a good grandson or grandchildren, is the biggest help, too much involvement in their lives things, will cause unnecessary impact on the children's lives? Especially a daughter in law? I am not saying here that daughters-in-law are outsiders? In our life, there are daughters in law than their own son and daughter-in-law to filial piety, but, after all, in the life of daughters in law, to think more about all the people and things in the family over there? Involved in all aspects of a lot of, involved in the emotional also a lot of, in short, with a good child, take good care of their own bodies, more than one thing is better than one thing, the mood is also cheerful, nothing to jump square dance, more participation in the community life of the elderly, will add a lot of fun for your old age.
The old man has been wronged.
I'll tell my story.
I was sixty-six years old when my grandson was born, a year after the little doll he refused to play at home, to me to bring to play, my daughter gave me three supreme instructions:
First, do not teach him any knowledge, such as children's songs to recognize the word, etc.,
Second, do not give him to buy any snacks, bring their own food and water,
Third, the two distance to keep within one meter, in order to timely help.
Eight o'clock in the morning to his home, 8:30 out, 10:30 home, lunch at his home, eat dinner back to my home to rest, 3:30 pm past, 5:30 finish!
Pure play group! All the problems are left to the daughter.
I'm off on Sunday.
The child is three and a half years old and goes to school (kindergarten), so I'm free.
In the meantime, I was happy and tired.
This year, he is eight years old, and I have a deep affection.
My experience is: I work under the guidance of my daughter, I play under the leadership of the doll, do not take the lead!
I've been bringing up my grandchildren for eighteen years, bringing up the big ones and the little ones, one after the other. I'm not sure how much I'm going to get out of this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to get out of it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to get out of it. All year round, I get up at 6:00 a.m. and go to bed at 10:00 p.m. Life is quite regular. The children are good, excellent is the credit of the parents, the children have problems, have bad habits, is the fault of grandparents, grandparents spoiled. Therefore, my principle is to manage the food and drink, manage the safety, where exactly the effort is not good, do not do and can not, make do.
I retired with a granddaughter, monthly son to me a few thousand dollars, usually buy clothes and shoes, are son to buy, happy to cook, do not want to do not do, cosmetics are daughter-in-law to buy me, I am still 侹 free, but they are a small family I never participate in, the elderly or do not participate in the matter of the little two, with a good child on the line,
I am my own children, especially understand the child with the It's not easy, I told my mom, after my son married and had a child, I certainly do not give him to bring, mother-in-law with children, how do you do, daughter-in-law are not satisfied, because with children is a fine long work, effort and effort, a little negligence can not be, but if the woman does not black and white days with children, things will not be able to appreciate, but also love to complain about the old man, I walk on behalf of the baby met a lot of old people complained of, so I'm not going to bring it.
I'm also a grandmother with a grandson, and I've learned a lot of things from my grandchildren. I'm not sure if I'm the right person for this job, but I'm sure I'm the right person for this job. I feel that I have done a better job than my son and daughter-in-law. So I have had verbal conflicts with my daughter-in-law. My grandson is almost 3 years old and I want to set rules for him. Mom doesn't care about that.
Since the conflict I have let go and grown straight and crooked. Let her be. As a grandmother. Why do you need to do that effortless thing.
I am a grandmother, now with a small grandson, and you are different is that I did not live with my son and daughter-in-law, the child and I live together, the weekend back to my mother's home
In my children's everything is my say, food and clothing transport to kindergarten, daughter-in-law, nothing is not involved in and interfere with the child, rest assured that the child is handed over to me
But the couple's life and work Everything, I never interfere, let them focus on their work, and I have never interfered with their work, I have never interfered with their work. I have never interfered, let them concentrate on their work, couple love is good, they have their own living space, something on the help, do not care about most
I only dedication to take good care of the grandson is good, this is when the grandmother of the Ropeway, but also for the son to ease the pressure of it! As long as they live well, everything 0K, take good care of my precious grandchildren is the top priority, the child is good family happiness