When I returned to the provincial capital during the winter vacation, I saw such a scene. An old mother sent her little daughter to school at the gate of the railway station. Looking at the daughter who is about to travel, her eyes are full of nostalgia. She is very happy to say that her daughter has been admitted to a university in the provincial capital and has a bright future.
I believe that many travelers have had such sad expressions in their hearts. Every time we leave home, we will be very sad, but this kind of sadness is very short-lived, and it may not take a day to calm down and forget.
Big cities have friends, brothers and sisters, and careers ... When we are busy, we seldom think of our parents in our hometown and even lack patience to listen to them. Besides, they sometimes get bored talking. They will urge you to find a boyfriend or girlfriend when you are single. Will be urged to have children after marriage; After giving birth, we will say, have a second child soon ... we have all kinds of reasons to argue with them, and in the end, we don't want to talk to them.
However, when parents are old, how lonely they are when they are old. Besides, their world is so small that it's all yours. If you are happy, they will grow old with peace of mind.
Therefore, the sign of a person's maturity is that he can listen to his parents' words, consider problems from their parents' point of view, understand their anxiety, and appease their anxiety through communication, so that they can feel that they are happy no matter whether you are single or unmarried or have children, so that they will be satisfied.
However, how many people can really listen to their parents?
Once when I was working in a supermarket, I saw an old lady who had been shopping in the supermarket for several days. She didn't buy anything. Seeing me doing activities in the grain and oil activity area where I was responsible, she came to chat with me.
She said she was old and she was the only one in the family. Her son and daughter-in-law have gone to work and have no time to accompany her. She doesn't like staying at home alone. She is bored.
His wife left her a few years ago and now she lives with her son. Although they are all busy under one roof, they have no time to talk to her.
Today, my son came back from a family tour and went to eat seafood in the evening, so she could cook noodles by herself. She doesn't want to cook noodles, but she wants to eat some jiaozi. But no one accompanied her to dinner, so she had to go out to the supermarket, at least to be lively.
I talked to her a lot, and she told her a lot of trivial things about family life, and her mood was much smoother.
At 8 o'clock in the evening, the activities will be very busy. I began to be busy greeting customers and told the old lady that you can come and talk to me when you are free. I have been working in this supermarket.
Say that finish, the old lady eyes red, tears fell down. She turned her head at once, afraid to look at me. She said, "No one has listened to my old lady's nagging so patiently for a long time. Thank you, girl. " He waved his hand and said, "Go to work first and get busy." It was just a strange meeting. After listening to her words, the old lady regarded me as a relative, so she trusted and loathed to give up.
I feel very sad. I suddenly thought of my parents and my old age. ...
Sometimes I feel that I am not good enough for my mother, for this strange grandmother. I always don't like listening to them and feel wordy. It suddenly occurred to me that some time ago, my mother asked me to teach her how to use WeChat. I taught her five times in a row, but she still doesn't know how to use it. I was a little impatient and unhappy, but I didn't take it out on my mother.
My mother is an old lady in the countryside. She has only been to the county where she can go, and she didn't have a chance to go to school when she was a child. She doesn't know a few words, so she doesn't know how to use electronic products.
I always thought I was very filial. Knowing that my mother loves beauty, I gave her my skin care products. When I see delicious food when I play outside, I always bring one to my mother. Worried about her health, I also encourage her to exercise more and dance square dance, hoping that she can meet more old ladies; I bought her a new mobile phone and taught her to send WeChat. Not busy once in a while. When I go home on vacation, I will cook for her ... but I never take the time to talk to her, or even lack patience.
I remember once, when I was at work, WeChat rang, which was sent by my mother. Because I played a game with her mobile phone the night before yesterday, I turned off the sound in order not to disturb her rest. The next day, my mother sent me a message saying that others could not hear. What should I do?
I told her where it was and how to turn on the sound, so that she could have a try. After two or three trips, my mother said it was still not working, and I was impatient. I thought it was so simple that I couldn't do anything. So he said to her, "Mom, I'm working. I have no time to help you. When I come back from work. " After this sentence was sent out, my mother was quiet and never sent a message again.
Later my mother really made some good friends. When I was at work, she didn't play much with me, but as long as I went home on holiday, she would accompany me and talk to me a lot, all of which were trivial details.
When I go into the room to change clothes, she will follow me into the room and stand behind me and say; I went to the balcony and she went to the balcony; I went to the bathroom to wash, and she stood by the door ... just like my shadow, she kept talking, and I didn't listen to what she said, just replied one by one.
At the moment we left home, we were always so sad that we even cried.
However, there are actually many ways of filial piety, not just the supplements brought home during the New Year and the clothes and jewelry bought. There is a kind of filial piety, which is simple, but difficult to do. That is to listen to your parents. When we grow up, we see a vast world, but our parents are getting older and their world is getting smaller and smaller. What we can finally grasp is our world.
Yan Jie, my boss, is a resolute and uncompromising woman, but she has one weakness, and that is her mother. Whether she is giving us a meeting or we are going to the movies together, whenever her mother calls, she will immediately answer the phone, and her tone will instantly become soft. No matter what her mother says, she listens patiently, never listens to her lose her temper or show the slightest impatience.
Later, we learned that her father died very early, and her mother brought her up. I finally had fun, but I got Alzheimer's disease.
She said, "When my mother was young, she was also a resolute woman. No matter how hard and tired she was, she didn't bow her head like others until she brought up our five brothers and sisters. Now the child is 65,438+08 years old and goes to college. She seems to be suddenly relieved, but she has Alzheimer's disease without any warning ... "
The old man doesn't know anyone, but he still knows her youngest daughter and likes to call her. At this moment, I thoroughly understood Yan Jie's gentleness.
She told us, "Don't wait until our parents don't know us before expressing our love to our parents. Be patient and listen to them.". In fact, they don't want too much at all. Listen to them more, no matter what they say, just listen. What does it matter? You are their daughter and the person they care about most. If she doesn't tell you, who will tell ... "
Listen to your parents, because from the moment you leave home, you have grown up, and they are getting older and older. ...
The so-called parents and children are just drifting away. They watch us rush to every tomorrow, but they are more and more lonely. At this time, we should also know how to be gentle with our parents and listen patiently.