There is a fable: a kind-hearted farmer saw the struggle of the butterfly that broke the cocoon, so he brought scissors to help the butterfly out. But because of this, the butterfly's wings were wet on both sides of its body, and its body was weightless, so it could only crawl on the ground. It is because of the lack of cocoon before the trials and struggles, the butterfly can not fly.
Parents want their children to grow into beautiful butterflies from tiny chrysalises. But we are often like the farmer, because too much love for children, always want to be able to use their own power to help children, with our adult way to easily help them remove the roadblock. But they didn't go through the process themselves, so how can they have a deep understanding? How can they grow in courage? How can they face the next challenge?
We are in the middle of it, understand their confusion and problems at each stage, accompany and guide, let the children to experience, to realize. Life is a joumey not a destination ----- life should be their own slowly experience and realize, and we often due to the love of the children, the children to experience the freedom of life brutally stifled.
? Think back, swaddled in the baby's efforts to eat the hand, we found that we forced the little hand pulled out; but we are precisely in the baby's oral period, deprived of the baby's mouth to perceive the world; in the baby just began to learn to crawl when he picked him up from the ground, said that the ground is dirty; but we do this, so that our babies have lost the perfect sensory integration training opportunities; when the baby will stand up to walk, the little guy is very excited: he will be able to walk, and the baby will be able to walk, the baby will be able to walk, the baby will be able to walk. The little guy was so excited: he had learned a new skill! But what did we do? We picked him up on the uphill and downhill slopes, missing out on the practice of balance; we pulled him around obstacles, making him timid and not courageous ------
Behind the misbehavior of the left-behind child, Hao Hao, is a lack of security; his father's excessive intervention led to Hao Hao's silence; and his child's mother's public questioning of the child when he won the third place in the training camp! As parents, we should face up to our failures and be proud of our children's efforts!
Education is a science, not just experience. Parents take a small step forward, the child grows a big step. ? ------- Lan Hai
Education experts, growth consultant Lan Hai in the book "Let's read the child", told us that the child's growth must be experienced by themselves, others can not be replaced by ------
As a parent, love the child must learn to let go, to give them the freedom of the stage and space, to give them the trust at the same time to obtain the child's trust.
? May every child have a pair of beautiful wings, spread their wings and fly!