We don't need to keep urging her not to be sad, these will block her emotions, tell her, we love you, you still have us. Acceptance is the first step to change, admit that they are sad, in order to embrace the sadness, if she is sad, we do not because of his sadness and their own entangled pain, in the face of this kind of thing only tears and sadness to release the emotions, in order to slowly come out. Allow the grief, allow the sadness because we have to deal with it all, all wounds need time. Bless you.
Grandma died, mom especially sad to come out. Need to spend more time with mom at that time. Affection needs affection to comfort. Ten years ago, I also lost my dearest dad, that time I really hurt so much that I couldn't breathe, several times I cried out. I thought that my dad had told me the night before that he especially liked the noodles I laid down, and that he would eat noodles for lunch tomorrow. He promised well, and then he suddenly left at 6:00 a.m. in the morning. I was sad, I felt guilty. I can't accept it. When I thought of how good my dad was to me, suddenly I could never see him again, I didn't even have the heart to work, I was depressed for a long time. I was depressed for a long time. It was my son who stayed with me and told me that old age, sickness and death are natural laws that everyone has to go through and everyone has to accept, and that there is still you when Grandpa is gone, and there is still me when you are old and one day gone. If one day in the future you also left, do not I want to live? I just slowly walked out. You have to persuade mom, this natural law can not run away, one day everyone will leave, maybe leave just to other places, one day will meet again. The bloodline all continues like this, without grandma, mom you are there, mom you still have me, I will have children later, children's children. We have to go on living, we still need you a lot. Mom has figured it out and will come out of it.
Then you communicate with your mother ah, mom so love grandma, so miss the old, grandma in the world must be very love mom, must be very loving mom, you can communicate with your mother: "Mom, I know grandma died you are very sad, our late generation is also very heartbreaking, grandma in the world, very pain you love you, but also care about us, grandma has gone! She has gone to Elysium, where there is no sickness, no labor, no worry and no anxiety. You stay at home, thinking bitterly and torturing yourself with tears, can you let your grandma go in peace? The fact is, if you're going to be able to get a good deal on your own, you'll be able to do so with out worrying about anything! If you torture yourself like this, will you let her go in peace? Grandma will surely be heartbroken! Grandma left us, we can't see her, we can't touch her, but the love she left for us is still there, we live in many places where she used to be, and I always feel that she has been with us, just that we don't see her, if you continue to torment yourself like this, grandma will be unhappy too, won't she? Don't go on like this, I know you love grandma very much, love grandma let grandma feel at ease, okay?"
What is kinship? Affinity has a blood relationship and the connection into the relationship < such as husband and wife, recognize relatives, etc. >, both sides in dealing with things will be considered for each other and easy to communicate, thus reinforcing the bond of connection, both sides will be melted into a one-person circle of life, once a party left the circle of life, it is difficult to forget, which is human nature.
Sincere affection for each other hope that the other safe and happy, each other well, they are also happy, the people have gone, if the living loved ones continue to grieve, the spirits of the departed are also difficult to peace, so the living loved ones to live well, is the best memorial to their own deceased people!
In this case, the grandmother passed away, as a daughter should continue to live well, in order to afford the deep love with the grandmother!
Theoretically, the rest is the way of doing things, let mom do something interesting or take mom travel to distract her attention, out of the sadness of the haze.
In the face of death, some people say it's heaven, some say it's hell, and some say it's the best place to be, but of course everyone has a different understanding.
The loss of loved ones will be painful, from the yin and yang are separated, cut off, and will never see each other again, but the dream can still see.
Sooner or later, life will tell us that in the face of death everyone is equal, not another. Old age, sickness and death is life must face, just sooner or later.
So, you have to persuade your mom to be open-minded, don't dwell on your grandma's death, only to be open-minded to live a good life. Sooner or later, people will die, and death is also a relief and rebirth, the end of life and the beginning of life.
Death is also a kind of happiness, I envy the dead people, people die a hundred. Although I am not very old, but always feel tired of living. Like me, the sky does not accept, hell do not want people, into the heaven can not fly up, down to hell and drill can not go down, live a waste of food, want to die in Hades and do not want to, Hades are disgusted with me, really live more painful than death.
I want to be relieved and can not be relieved, or dead people good ah, alas!
After reading what I said above, is there any realization?
Overall, time is the cure for the pain of losing a loved one, and as time goes by, everything will be fine. So, give your mom some time, and naturally your mom will return to her normal life after a long time. You should not worry too much.
The meaning of life is the transmission of love. Your grandma gave all her love to your mom and you in her life, so she completed her mission and left you for another world. Then her old man's wish is that you can succeed her to pass on this love all the time, and hope that her favorite relatives can live a happy and happy life. Keep your thoughts about your elders in your heart, understand that their greatest wish is that you live happily and joyfully, and translate your love for your elders to your children. This is how all human beings have prospered, a fact that has remained unchanged for ages. What your mom needs to do today is to accept the reality, keep herself busy and give her love to her juniors, and finally wish your mom happiness and joy for the rest of her life!
The ship sailing on the sea, slowly disappeared in we can not see the place, you can say the ship is gone? In fact, it just went to another place. In fact, your grandma just went to another place in advance, mom will meet her in the future, she went to a new place, planting flowers and trees waiting for loved ones to go over and reunite with them in the future. The other world is very beautiful,, we will also go to the future ah, do not have to be too sad, life is a separation, sad and happy process.
1, more companion mom, companionship is the best love.
2, if you can put down the hands of the work, take your mom out for a walk, tourism is a good way to change the mood, take your mom to see the country's great mountains and rivers, in the beauty of nature, earthly troubles, pain will disappear without a trace. See the local customs and taste the food of different places. Let her vision broader. See more, think more, will not be entangled in one thing out of the way.
3, let her develop some interesting hobbies, no matter how old we are to have their own hobbies. For example, practicing writing, reading. You can also dance square dance, both fitness, and can talk to people of her age. With their own hobbies can ease the pain, a better life
Do not raise children do not know the parents grace, just because the mother gave birth to you to know the grandma's not easy, she felt that she had not had time to filial piety grandma, she is gone. In our lifetime must be good filial piety our parents. Don't wait until your son wants to raise your children but your parents are not there.
It is a great pleasure to answer this question because I have personal experience and feel the same way.
I remember in 2009, the year my father left, I was the same, I feel the sky has collapsed, the whole year how many times the night was woken up by their own crying.
My dad is very strict on our education, but life is very cheerful people, usually my sister and I are too much my father is very nagging, see our clothes wear less, said the cooling more wear, eat something also love to say we eat more, anyway, my sister and I are too much for him nagging. I remember one day in 2009, he got up too hard, sudden cerebral infarction, after a week in the hospital, never woke up.
Since then, in the long year, I can not sleep well, always want to Dad you live, I no longer think you nagging, I want to listen to you nagging, want to hear your endless nagging, because at least there is a real heart in the world, love me, love my people. How many times have I woken up crying in my dreams, I really realized the pain of my own loved ones when they left.
And there is no cure for this kind of pain, only time can let you slowly come out from the pain and longing.
It may take a long, long time to get used to it, to get used to it, to spend more time with her.
When I was a child, my grandmother died early, and I remember my mother was sad for many years. The first time I saw this, I was able to see my mother's face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face, and I was able to see her face. This is the deepest mark of my childhood ......