Far from it, let's talk about our class! Some boys and girls in the class, academic performance is not good, but for the dress code, can be a "connoisseur. BALENO" shirt, "NIKE" shoes, "adidas" schoolbag, "SONY" MP3 ...... can be described as a set of brand-name in one. Some other boys, usually every day with hundreds of dollars on the body, for the so-called "eat, drink and play", bubble Internet cafes, play games, watch pornographic videos, make friends with delinquent teenagers; and some already have their own cell phone ...... This example is no longer a rare sight on today's campuses. It is no longer a phoenix feather.
Why is this happening? In my opinion, the reason for this situation, there are several reasons: First, the people's living standards improve, the family economic situation compared with the previous has improved; Second, the current family is mostly an only child, parents overly spoiled; Third, the influence of social bad customs. And among them, parents' over-indulgence to children is the main reason. In Chinese family education tradition, parents use pocket money to cultivate children's good behavioral habits and ideological concepts, such as: thrift and frugality, financial self-care. But today, with the affluence of life, parents don't pay much attention to their children's little pocket money. But this sense of overspending is not suitable for secondary school students, will bring them many adverse effects.
First of all, it will prompt them to develop some bad habits. First, the habit of eating snacks, especially junior high school students, once they have money on them, they will buy the snacks they like without restraint when they see them. In front of some schools, there are many kiosks selling snacks and drinks, and there are also many stalls selling cheap ice lollies, cotton candy, fried food, and so on. Eating snacks itself is already not good for the body, not to mention that what is sold in this environment is often some three kinds of food. This is not only a waste of money, but more importantly, not good for your health.
Second, the habit of wasting. Many students think they have money, so they don't value many things. For example, bought a hearty lunch sentence "no appetite" on the original "recycling"; breakfast steamed buns bite a generous left the "trash can", and so on. If someone "minded", they would not care, "Anyway, I spent my own money." But he does not realize that the earth's resources are limited; the money he spends in style has gathered much blood and sweat of his parents.
Secondly, children are prone to compare themselves with each other, which can lead to psychological imbalance in some children. Today, you in the "KFC" rub a meal tens of dollars; tomorrow I in the "XX restaurant" set a table hundreds of dollars, to see who is more elegant. Nowadays, children who do not have a few pocket money in their hands, watching their peers often take money to buy this and that, always envious and embarrassed. This kind of envy, embarrassment to deal with well that is lucky, if it is not dealt with well, the consequences will be unimaginable. April 12, Jiangbei District, a girl of about 7 years old cried to jump off the building. For no other reason than to get pocket money from their parents. And some children may sprout more or less gold-digging, taking money or everything that can be exchanged for money as their belles-lettres.
Once again, it can set a bad example for others and put pressure on their parents. Some children, because of their immaturity and lack of ability to distinguish between right and wrong, see other students with so much money to spend and ask their parents for the same. However, not all parents are rich. I believe that nowadays, many parents are ordinary workers, and their income is also average, but in order to satisfy their children, and even to maintain their "dignity", they have to squeeze out a little bit of money to give to their children. But the kids don't care, and they don't want to spend the money where they shouldn't, and they don't want to spend it enough.
Fourth, it will make the child form a wrong view of money, that "money is everything", "money can make the devil to push the mill", do not know should be serious about learning, do not know how to take up their own responsibility. Some children, the parents' instructions, the teacher's teachings as "wind in the ears", only know how to eat, drink and play, but empty stomach. They have forgotten the responsibility of living independently, supporting their parents and contributing to society.
Finally. The most serious of all, may lead some children to embark on the road of crime. As the saying goes, "It's easy to go from frugality to extravagance, but difficult to go from extravagance to frugality." Maybe today your family is relatively rich, but no one can guarantee that will always be rich, if you have developed the habit of luxury, how to face poverty in the future? Some people may be able to get through it by their own will, but some people will find it difficult to extricate themselves. Not long ago, the newspaper reported that a 14-year-old secondary school student in Guangzhou sneaked into the same word home burglary was discovered, to the classmate's mother stabbed 38 knives is really inhumane.
As parents, who do not love their children, who do not want to give children to pay it? However, parents should give children what? This is a question worthy of deep thought, and a blindly give money is obviously wrong, but should give them knowledge and correct guidance. Money is a double-edged sword, not used properly will hurt people - parents must have a full understanding of this. In dealing with the issue of children's pocket money, parents should first keep in mind: pocket money, but also a means of educating children.
One is to cultivate labor consciousness. Parents can use pocket money as a means of reward. For example, the child did any housework, academic achievement or progress, you can give the child a certain reward as pocket money according to prior agreement. Let the child form the concept of labor is the most glorious.
The second is to cultivate a reasonable concept of consumption. Spending money is also a profound study. Just like learning to swim must be personally in the water, do not let the children master their own, the use of pocket money, they will not learn to spend reasonably, which is not conducive to their later social, independent life.
Thirdly, to cultivate self-reliance. Many parents don't realize that giving their children pocket money is a "growing need" for them. The importance of allowing children to take the bus, buy their own stationery, buy books, is that through the "purchase" of this most basic form of social life, to develop the child's ability to live independently. Experts suggest that at least when the child is seven or eight years old, parents should consciously give their children some pocket money, and with the age of the child to reasonably increase the amount of discretionary funds. Parents can also help their children master some of the most basic financial knowledge, such as spending and saving.
Pocket money is a problem that every family can't avoid. How to deal with money is an important pillar in the moral building of life. A child's attitude towards pocket money has a direct impact on the formation of his or her morality as an adult. As parents, first of all, we must not indulge our children financially, and cultivate the idea of thrift and frugality in them from childhood; secondly, on this basis, we should teach them how to consume and allocate their pocket money, and master some basic economic knowledge. In a word, to make the child rational use of pocket money.