And now I have tasted all the sadness, and I want to talk about it. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
It's true that as people grow older, the sense of loneliness gradually increases. The reason is very simple, the more you experience, the more trouble you have. If you can't make the mental adjustments in time, there is too much pent-up frustration, and loneliness comes naturally.
For example, the loneliness brought by work is always inevitable. Do not work without a paycheck, can work there will be a constant psychological conflict. If you can't adjust your mindset in time, you will inevitably feel lonely.
Another example is the loneliness of marriage. In the past, it was said that marriage is a great joy in life. The truth is not married lonely, married more lonely. Because, do not get married, how to say are psychological deficiencies, loneliness is normal. Married, family conflicts are inevitable, such as can not be resolved, the inner sense of loneliness will increase with each passing day. This sense of loneliness is an unspeakable loneliness.
Lastly, the loneliness of social life. Nowadays, do not understand, unhappy things abound. I can't figure it out, I can't see through it, I can say it's with me every day. The resulting sense of loneliness is really a constant. If you can't get rid of it in time, you will live a boring life.
So, loneliness every day, the heart is a good hand!
No arc alone in the heart, the sunset is infinitely good
Loneliness should be unrelated to the order of the year. But lonely life is the norm for the elderly, is a new social phenomenon, especially one-child families.
Let's start with loneliness. The question should refer to the feeling of loneliness the older you get. In my opinion, this is a psychological feeling of personal social communication activities, is a kind of psychological awareness of personal cognitive self-existence.
When I was working, I was busy every day, happy, worried, leisure, always accompanied by colleagues and friends, no sense of loneliness.
After retirement, gradually fade out of the work circle, circle of friends, all of a sudden quiet down, and is a long life stereotypes, so gradually will feel a sense of loneliness.
Therefore, there are many elderly people after retirement, they go to the University of the Elderly, writing, painting, poetry and singing, square dancing, fitness and friendship, with grandchildren to do housework, in the busyness of loneliness naturally dissolved.
So, life is rich, full of content will not have the feeling of loneliness. On the other hand, if you have nothing to do and you are full of food, you will be bored and your loneliness will be stronger and stronger. The conclusion is that loneliness is a psychological feeling that occurs at all ages.
From this, I believe that the generation and strength of loneliness depends on the individual's choice of lifestyle, and on the individual's grasp of time and filling.
As for loneliness, I think it is true that the older you get, the lonelier you get. This is a natural law.
One is that children grow up and leave home, which is the beginning of loneliness for parents.
Secondly, when the child gets married and separates from the parents, this is the beginning of loneliness.
Third, the retirement, nothing to do, the time is spent in boredom, this is the acceleration of loneliness.
Fourth, the grandchildren have grown up and are seldom seen, which is the deepening of loneliness.
Fifthly, when you are old, there are fewer and fewer people in your circle of life, and your acquaintances and friends have passed away one after another, and your health is not good, and you need to be accompanied by someone to take care of you, which are the stages when you feel the loneliness the most. From the psychological feeling to the actual life may be practically lonely.
These five stages, in fact, the first four stages are not a problem, as long as the physical and mental health, can live independently, so that the old have something to learn to enjoy, it is to enjoy life, live a good time of their own. It should not be regarded as lonely and pitiful, but rather, living alone, lonely and self-tasting, happy in old age, children and grandchildren also rest assured.
The fifth stage, as long as the arrangement is handled carefully, so that someone to take care of, can be clothed, fed, housed, transported, medical and entertainment without worrying about, but also to enjoy the happiness of old age. That way, there will be no loneliness or sense of isolation.
In short, loneliness and loneliness of the generation and control, is appropriate for each person, is built on the basis of personal lifestyle, learning ability to recognize and experience. With effort, it can be overcome.
It is true that people feel lonelier as they get older. Having such a mindset comes from a number of sources.
The children have their own families, most of them live alone, and they are busy with their own work, not too much time to go home to see. It's normal for the old couple to feel a sense of loneliness when they live in an empty house.
When a person puts down his career and enters the simple life of old age, it is difficult to get used to it for a while. At this stage there is nothing to do, there is nothing to socialize, and most of the original friends have lost contact. So, the heart of the empty and life changes, but also produce a sense of loneliness.
How to get out of loneliness, solve Ling must also tie Ling people. During the day, try to go out to walk, participate in some meaningful activities, and some friends more contact more interaction. In the evening, you can watch TV, play with your cell phone, and send videos to your children.
If the body is strong, and have a skill, and again into the community, to be able to old, old and creative, this life is the most fulfilling, this life is more wonderful.
In fact, people to old age, loneliness is also a kind of enjoyment, is also a realm. In the middle of loneliness, recalling the past, decades of life years, everything comes back to ordinary. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need. In the serenity, a cup of tea and a book, a piece of music and a song, not a fairy, like a fairy, what to talk about loneliness.
Is it true that people feel more and more lonely as they get older? Everyone is an independent individual, with the baptism of the years, from a teenager to the old age late, the older the person is not the more you feel lonely? To say lonely, in fact, the youth is also lonely, when going to the community, see some unfair, or their own can not control the situation, slips, etc., and their own inability, in the desperate work to go in order to rent a house, buy a house, in order to change the fate of the family and running around, in order to achieve the ideal goal, is not the night will be lonely and lonely, that loneliness is also thinking about a better life, and turned into a driving force, go! I'm not going to be able to get the money to pay for it, but I'm going to be able to get the money to pay for it!
Middle-aged pressure is not small, the pressure to pay the mortgage, the pressure of work, care for children, parents are old, also need to be taken care of, but we grit our teeth and hold on, when you through their own efforts everything is getting better, everything is to their ideals to achieve, and at this time those who taste the loneliness of the solitude alone, can not talk to anyone about the weakness of the secret flow of tears, are strong after the joy are moving people! mood, will be more love each side of the relatives, friends, they are to help themselves to defeat the power of loneliness, at the beginning of each struggle, are the new hope, new expectations.
In old age, after many years of struggle and hardship, there is a certain capital, this time to sit down, in front of a cup of tea is a cup of clear tea aroma floating, with the tea curls, the past, such as the wind, loneliness is a strain of forget-me-not, loneliness is a gerbera flower, always in the wind and rain after the still upright as young, just less flamboyant, and become calm, and become the wind RuYu elegance. When you are able to control their own emotions, able to look at the mountain or mountain, look at the water on the occasion, only to understand that loneliness is the norm of life, all the experience of the past, are the road to go through, the only way to use a strong heart to tolerate all things to wade through the water rowing boat, twilight heart is not old, and the earth is the spring blossoms.
In fact, life's loneliness and disease, and its own occupation, or unemployment, have a certain relationship, loneliness is walking on earth a key to relief, when you taste the lonely, only out of the confusion, to be strong in the face of life, try to go to the people around you to say hello, try to love life every time you move, so the more people grow older the more lonely? We are not alone, we are always together, grateful to meet you, thank you for listening!
People to the later years, most inevitably with the companion of loneliness, if not properly disposed of, it will be like an invisible blade, when the pain of the human mind and body, many people are willing to sink Lun, and ultimately for the "loneliness" captured, to become a "lonely" slaves. The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and what you are doing.
What is loneliness? Psychologists say: real loneliness does not mean that you live alone in a room, but you are in the crowd but feel unable to communicate. Therefore, the best cure for "loneliness" is to break the self-imposed confinement and learn to communicate.
As the saying goes, "Things come together, people come together". In today's society, the phenomenon of loneliness is by no means an isolated case, those "loners" why not sympathize with each other, forming a "loner alliance", or conversation, or chess and piano painting, or singing and dancing ...... ...If so, the loneliness is far away!
May elderly friends have fun in their old age!
Yes, people are old, the girl married, if there is a son, the son is also sure to work outside, the last can be left is their own old man, very lonely, if the old companion and then go a word, it is even more lonely. How to do it, in the countryside and not much money, if you have the money to send the elderly to the nursing home can also be, that place, and lively, three meals a day someone to do for her, to the evening do not have to worry about the elderly alone at home alone. I hope that the family has the elderly no one to take care of the elderly, it is best to send to the nursing home, outside the son or daughter to save a little bit every month, to send them there to go very well.
My grandfather is in Wuhan, two sons are workers, conditions are very good, the grandfather also has a retirement fund, that is, no one to take care of, a long time ago to see the nursing home, every holiday, New Year's Day to take the grandfather back, the sons asked him to be in the inside good, he said a good very good, and more people, every day to play a small mahjong, inside everything has to eat. He said that he was used to being inside, and that he was lonely at home when you were at work. I'm not sure if I'll be able to get a good deal on this," he said.
Loneliness comes from the inner feelings, coupled with the contrast produced by the strong contrast with others.
Age, a thing that changes with time, when you are young, there are no peers to play with, but parents can always coax the happy. As an adult, will it be so? The loneliness that comes with it often comes from a lack of understanding and self-imposed isolation.
Changes
Loneliness comes with age, but it's a matter of different environments, different experiences, different self-regulation, and different abilities to adapt, which ultimately makes a world of difference.
Being able to recognize this change, and recognize the shortcomings of others, and strive for a manageable range, we can also reduce the sense of loneliness step by step.
Departure
Sometimes look at others do not have loneliness, but everyone's inner most vulnerable place do not know where.
The most important thing you can do to look at yourself and reduce your loneliness is to get out there. In the recent hit movie Green Book, the main character, Don, seems to be the most famous pianist in the world, but in the rain, the clip speaks of his own heart, in the dilemma between the black compatriots and the white people, seems to be bright, but the most lonely.
Anyone will be lonely, but this is the scale, is their own grasp, put the loneliness in the most marginal place, so that it can not go to affect you.
I hope everyone commented to leave their own lonely years!
The famous writer Eileen Chang once said: people in middle age, often feel lonely. Because as soon as you open your eyes, are dependent on you, but there is no one you can rely on. As one grows older, one's sense of loneliness grows stronger. This is not due to subjective factors, but real objective factors to form. For one thing, there is less interpersonal interaction. After not working, interpersonal relationships become simpler and simpler, the relationship between coworkers and friends becomes more and more diluted, and in the end, only family and relatives are left. Secondly, there are fewer people who take the initiative to contact you. Especially some who have been leaders, from adaptation to loss, loneliness is stronger. Third, less socializing. In the past, every now and then, a few friends have a small get-together, push the cups and have a good time. Older, taking into account the state of health, socializing is not active, not active, not enthusiastic. Over time, life becomes a straight line, from home to the market, and then from the market to home. Fourth, children are not around. Children are older, have to earn money to support the family, and work outside all year round. There is less time for family reunion, especially for the elderly who live alone, and the sense of loneliness is stronger. Fifthly, they are worried about the future. The body is deteriorating, and when you see people around you suddenly pass away due to illness, you are always worried that you will be in the same situation one day, and your children are not with you.
All of us love to have a good time, but loneliness is the norm in life!
Before the age of twenty, carefree, parents will always open up all the roads for you, you just need to walk through flat, in the absence of pressure, every day is happy, you do not feel the existence of loneliness!
After graduating from college, you enter society and leave home, far away from mom and dad and your familiar relatives and friends, every day repeating the trivialities of life, with a dream, loaded forward! On the road to adulthood, you must be mature, independent, smile and tell all the people who care about you: you live a good life. But are you homesick late at night, wanting to talk to your mom and dad about your heart, your grievances?
The more you grow up, it seems that the face of all people or things are more than a trace of defense, after work to return home, in the face of the empty room, you will suddenly find that slowly as if the friends have become less. The first thing you need to do is to find out what you want to share with your friends, and then you'll be able to do it!