In Baidu, I searched for "Indian women" and the keywords that popped up were "the status of women in India" and "the tragic life of women in India".
When I searched in Zhihu, most of the postings related to the current situation in India described the low status of women and their vulnerability in the society.
There are more postings describing India in a bad light, including articles about female tourists from abroad who were sexually assaulted while traveling in India, which made me develop a mentality of avoiding the country, and if I chose to go on a trip, India wouldn't be on my radar at the moment.
Of course, there may be some truth in this that is not entirely factual. I have not seen it with my own eyes, and I do not know the country of India, so I am not going to judge the good and the bad of this country.
So, why do I have to check the information related to India before writing?
Because this movie, if you look at it out of the context of the country as a whole, you'll pick out a number of reasons that can be argued against, but look at it in the context of the country of India, and all of it holds up reasonably well.
So I want to talk about the feelings about humanity, about fatherhood, about dreams, about honor that are reflected in the movie.
"Wrestlemania! Dad" This movie was released in the overall word of mouth bomb, the rating is very high, but there are still a lot of different voices appeared.
Some say the movie is a reflection of straight cancer, full of male power and patriarchy, a selfish father who has to impose his dreams on his daughter.
Honestly, when I watched it for the first time, after just the opening few minutes, and seeing the disappointment of the father's desire to have a son, who ultimately never got his wish, I did feel the difference between the status of men and the status of women in India. The feeling is that a daughter is "useless", and only a boy has hope, because only a son can fulfill his dreams.
But is the movie promoting this spirit?
Obviously not, it's just a statement about the state of society at the time.
And then, when the father almost gives up on his dream, and suddenly realizes that his daughters can also fulfill his dream, he starts to abuse the two daughters, and begins to train them like the devil, and the mood at this time is depicted in the lyrics of the movie's interlude song. （
At the time, I was listening to the song, which was cheerful, but my heart was also like the lyrics, thinking that this father is not too cold and heartless.
If you only look at the surface of the first shallow, you will feel that this father is a bit selfish, why just to complete their own dreams on the sacrifice of their daughters' childhood, so that they are not willing to do things. If the thought is only on the surface of this shallow appearance, then it's the same thought as those who scored this movie low.
Let's think differently about what the movie is trying to say.
Is he really a cold and selfish dad?
Why must he fulfill his dream? What is the dream? How hard is it to fulfill this dream?
Does Dad love his daughter? What kind of love is the right way to love your child?
I found the answers by combing through this movie.
I watched this movie twice, and there are a few scenes that bring tears to my eyes every time I see them.
The first scene is when the father wants to cut his daughter's hair and the daughter pleads with him.
The second scene is when the daughters come to their senses, start training hard, and win applause at their first game.
The third scene is: the sister, who is losing confidence in the international competition because of self-relaxation, calls her father with the encouragement of her sister. On both ends of the phone, the sister cries sadly and apologetically, and the dad's eyes are full of tears, with heartache written all over his expression.
Each of us, on the road to growth, character and the direction of the future, are inseparable from the guidance of parents.
When children are young, they have no absolute autonomy, every child is a blank sheet of paper, parents teach us what, parents are what kind of character, children will be affected.
Although many young parents are now advocating for the education of children to be democratic, to be free, to let the children have a happy childhood, to let the children do what they want to do, but this is really in the community to work?
If this were the case, then more and more parents would not be sending their children to learn dance, painting, English, piano, and all sorts of specialties from kindergarten onwards.
When the child starts first grade, there is a series of planning, and he or she attends all kinds of tutorial classes in his or her spare time.
Almost every single parent around me, every single one, without exception, has planned their child's future this way, including myself.
Do children at this time have the right to say 'no'?
Of course they have the right, but does it work?
Of course they have the right, but will it work?
Everyone has inertia and wants to stay in their comfort zone, and children are no exception.
However, in today's competitive society, if you are really from childhood, nothing to learn, just silly play, let free play, is comfortable, is free to grow up, wait until you grow up, into the community, other people will be, you will not, other people chatting you do not understand, in addition to the free-spirited character, what else do you have? You don't have any advantage at all.
This society is cruel and realistic, and no one will be willing to play with you if you don't know how to play, and no one will be willing to play with you if you are not good.
This cruelty is not only reflected in the society, even in the children who just went to elementary school.
A friend of mine told me that her child was in first grade, and she was very confident in her class because her grades were always in the top few, but there were some kids who didn't have good grades, and no one in the class was willing to play with these kids who didn't have good grades.
You don't say that people are too realistic, that's just the way it is.
Well, that's a fact that's put in the movie, in the context of India.
Then, when you look at the movie in the context of India, you can understand why the father wants to cut his daughter's hair.
The act of cutting the daughter's hair is to cut off her illusions, not to be distracted by other things, and to devote herself to her training.
Because you can only get closer to the top of the victory if you remove the distractions first and keep your mind in front of the goal.
In the beginning, everyone's inherent notion was that wrestling was a man's sport, and how could a woman possibly wrestle.
But Dad saw hope when he saw his daughter beating the snot out of a boy who was bullying him by seeing him.
Who says, only men can win gold medals, win gold medals, both men and women.
Mom said, what if you get hurt?
Dad said, then cure them.
The character of dad, from the beginning for not having a boy is a sense of loss, to the back, full of confidence in their own daughters, always believe that their daughters can do it, in the patriarchal system of the country in India, did not suffer from this concept, but feel that men and women are the same. Isn't such a dad admirable?
So, having a dad like that makes the daughter's friend who had to marry her unknowing husband at an early age envious.
If not for this friend's words, the two daughters still will not understand the father's good intentions.
If you did not learn to wrestle, the final result may be the same as the friend, every day to do housework, to the age of being married to a strange man do not like, and then continue for another family to repeat the fate of most women. Maybe you also wonder why you have to wrestle to change your fate, can't you learn something else? But think about it, Dad's family circumstances are not good, wrestling is his strength, he can give his daughter is the best he can give.
If you are in a country like India, there are two ways for you to choose.
One is to win a gold medal for your country and change your destiny so that you can influence the minds of some people and change the destiny of women in this country. However, you will pay for this by working much harder than normal people.
One is to do nothing, according to the inherent thinking of what women should do to live. You will not be so hard maybe also very hard, it depends entirely on the good and bad conditions of your family.
So which way do you go?
The sisters, chose the first path, so it was they who won in the end.
Dad is already a national champion, but there is still a dream to get a gold medal for this country, which is his personal dream also for this country to complete the dream.
This dream is a little tough.
The reason for the difficulty is that the country does not pay attention.
Dad ended up giving up his dream when he first won the national championship because his family was poor.
At that time, dad's father had said "how far can you go without the support of the country"
But this dream has been pressed in dad's heart and he wanted to realize it.
Dad was rejected when he applied for training funds so that his daughter could have a professional mat, when the words "The reason why India can't win medals is that there are bureaucrats like you who don't do anything."
With the general environment being so hard, did dad give up?
Not really.
This is also the idea of the movie, there are difficulties to solve it rather than give up.
When the sisters won the national championship separately, they thought that their dad would be happy, thinking that they had realized their dad's dream.
Dad said, "My dream will come true when you win a gold medal for our country, not for yourself. It's great.
Have you or I ever thought of doing something for our country?
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty and get out of the way.
I didn't do it, so I admire those who did.
That's what makes Aamir Khan, an Indian actor, so deserving of a place on the map. Khan, an Indian actor, deserves a lot of respect.
He made this movie and actually did something to change the country of India.
Even if I am not familiar with India as a country, and have no particular impression of good or bad, I would have a better feeling about India because of this actor.
I also feel and hope that China will have a good actor like this.
If you have children, will you believe in your children unconditionally? Will you always support your child and give him/her confidence? Or are there times when you feel that your child is just not as good as someone else's child.
As a child, would you want your parents to support you, give you confidence and believe that you can do it, whether you succeed or fail.
The dad in the movie is the kind of person who is incredibly confident in his daughter and believes she can do it at all times.
His daughter, a national champion, enters the National Sports Institute to study, and his father, who has always had a strong aura of defiance, asks the coach to coach his daughter in order to let her get a good learning experience.
But the daughter was superstitious about the new coach's fancy skills, and was surrounded by a vain sense of vanity, began to look down on dad's old methods, slowly began to lower their own requirements, self-relaxation, in the international competition at the beginning of the loss, dad did not have doubts about his daughter's ability. Instead, he helped his daughter to analyze the reasons for her failure, overcome it, and triumph over it.
This is a model full of positive energy.
On the contrary, the national coach is really a typical representative of selfishness and self-interest.
For the failure, only false powerless consolation, say something "some people originally did not have the life of the championship" "you can get a bronze medal is good" this is someone else's child does not concern me attitude.
Self-confidence, this word is important at any time, on any occasion.
If you want someone to succeed, first build their self-confidence.
If you want someone to fail, destroy his self-confidence.
When my oldest daughter was competing, the message my dad kept sending her was, you can do it, you haven't lost yet.
Especially in the last game when the daughter asked her dad what the strategy was.
Dad said "There is only one strategy, make people remember you. Winning a gold medal is what keeps you from being forgotten and gives people hope"
That hope, too, is the hope of Indian women.
"It's the hope of girls who are considered inferior to boys, girls who are forced to do tedious household chores, girls who are married off to have children, that tomorrow you will not only be competing against the Australians, but also against these people who despise women!"
Finally, Aamir Khan is an actor who I can only write about in big letters.
Finally, Aamir Khan is an actor I can only describe with a capital 'Handsome'.
Aamir Khan is India's "national treasure" and Bollywood's "all-rounder".
He is 52 years old.
A 52-year-old man can fatten himself up to 56 pounds to make a movie, and then spend five months losing 50 pounds.
Can an ordinary person do that?
If ordinary people who can do it can certainly end up being inspirational role models and a new generation of internet celebrities.
So, no one can just succeed.
Success, all need to pay the price of hard work.
yamei
2017.5.22 ?day 62