-- From "The Influence of Mother"
I don't know if you have paid attention to how mothers are depicted in the biographies of many celebrities:
A mother is gentle, virtuous, and understanding, and she has always been quietly devoted to her children without complaining, and her mother is strong, kind, and opinionated as if nothing can overwhelm her mother. Things can be difficult to defeat the mother's ......
These words are not familiar? It is such mothers who may have raised such wonderful children.
The American thinker Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the kind of person a child ultimately becomes depends largely on the quality of love, companionship, and modeling he receives from his first educator. The child has an instinctive dependence on his mother at an early age, and her character, words, and behavior influence the child's life.
The family is the first school that molds a child's character, and the mother is the child's first teacher. A good mother will respect her child's hobbies, increase her child's insights, become friends with her child, and teach her child to be strong.
1, have the bones of the mother, teach children to be strong
In some of the people's thinking, are the woman as a weak representative, it seems that only men can be worthy of the word "strong". In fact, in real life, really encountered difficulties, can not be afraid of hardship, has been insisted on is often those who seem to be relatively weak women, they are even in some aspects than the men show more strong persistence.
Ms. Wang Gui-chuan (Liang Qichao's second wife), like Liang Qichao passed away, with nine children through the unimaginable years, even in the era of turmoil has not shaken her strong beliefs, after her death, Liang Sicheng and siblings together in his father's tomb next to the planting of a "Mother Tree" in memory of the great strength of the mother. The first time I saw this, it was a great opportunity for me to see what I could do with my life.
The mother's attitude towards difficulties is the best teaching material for the child's life. The best thing about the world is that it's not just about the people, it's about the people, it's about the people, it's about the people.
2, smart mom, teach children to be independent
When the child came to ask his mother questions, the mother must not behave as in the unit so smart and capable, pretend "ignorance" is not a good way.
For example, when a child asks his mother "how to pronounce this word", it is best not to answer him right away, the worst answer is "how do you even this word do not know". The smart mom will look at it and say, "Oops, I don't know it either, let's look it up in the dictionary together, okay?"
After a few times, the mother will teach the child to use the dictionary, and at the same time, the child will have a sense of accomplishment after checking the dictionary to recognize the word, and after many times, they will develop the habit of not relying on the mother to check the information.
When a child has a question, the mother can't say the answer like "pouring beans out of a bamboo tube", while saying that the side of the self-congratulation, which is not good for the child's growth, and after a few times, the child will avoid asking the mother's question and become very inferior. On the contrary, the mother should encourage the child to use their brains to rely on their own strength to figure out the problem, or can be with the child to consult the books or with the help of the Internet.
3, open-minded mom, know how to respect the child's ideas
As a member of the family, the child in the family should have and parents equal status. Mom should not think that because the child is small, he does not understand, everything is the parents say, the child as a tool of obedience, which will not only make the child lose the right to be respected, but also make the mother and the child to have a gap.
Although the child is small, but also have their own will, let the child to participate in the discussion of family affairs, not only is the child's respect, but also can get unexpected gains. This is also an opportunity to develop the child's thinking ability, decision-making ability, will exercise the child's independence and autonomy.
What attitude a mom has towards her child is what the child will have towards her in return. Respect for the child, the child as a thoughtful, conscious and independent person, the child will also take themselves as a person with the ability to act autonomously to cooperate with the mother, which is the premise of good communication between the two generations.
4, the wisdom of the mother, to give the child a big pattern
We can not expect a square dance grandmother can develop a ballet grandson; can not be expected to get high on gossip chatting mom cultivate a son with leadership qualities.
If a mother's mouth is most often chattering about rice, oil and salt, parents; in the small things can not be wiped out, stalking, broken; blindly save money, this is bound to teach a pattern of children.
A mom with a pattern tends to look at things more comprehensively, more long-term, and more rationally.
A mom with a small pattern doesn't necessarily produce a bad child, but it's also hard to produce a successful child.
5, broad-minded mom, teach children not to care
Broad-minded people, are often the people who become a big thing, the same narrow-minded people, are often small people. As the old saying goes, "the prime minister's belly can support the ship" is said to be the heart.
In the process of children's interactions with peers, mothers should pay attention to teach children to learn to understand others, understand that everyone has shortcomings. The first thing you need to know is that you can't be a good person, and you can't be a good person. And classmates and fellowship, and friends to get along, there is no need to blame all. It is possible to seek common ground while reserving differences, as long as the shortcomings of the students and friends are not quality, not anti-social, parents should encourage and support the children to normalize their relationship with them.
Of course, tolerance is not a fear of people, not cowardice, not blindly follow, not people cloud, this point must be made clear to the children. Must let the child know that tolerance is to distinguish between right and wrong after the classmates, friends of the concessions, rather than to the bad people and bad things of the compromise. There is no need to be tolerant of bad people and people who get the better of you.
Teach your children to learn to be unskilled, teach by example more than words. Mom tolerance, generosity, not calculating, and neighbors, colleagues get along with each other, the child will learn to deal with the parents of the appearance of the relationship between classmates, will also become tolerant, good, happy to get along with others.
A woman's greatest happiness is not necessarily to raise a good child.
But a woman who can raise an excellent child must be a great mother!