Some things you do not do, you want to live will never get
text / Bing Fei Yan
Twenty-two-year-old S girl, in a small city with a good job, but for the marriage of the matter of the trouble, not outstanding appearance and slightly more hanzi character so that her The peach blossom is slow to bloom. She intends to go abroad or change jobs to the big city, but can not make up her mind, on the one hand, the current job is a high-paying state-owned enterprises, on the one hand, afraid of the complex process of going abroad and the fierce competition in the big city, so entangled in six years, to the age of twenty-eight, due to the narrowness of the social circle, she is still the same ordinary-looking rough-minded she just became a leftover woman. Work due to gender and the nature of the organization's restrictions, although already very hard work, but still an ordinary staff. Her high education and single status made her highly regarded in the small city, so she was ruthless and jumped ship to Shanghai.
The new company offered her a position, a dormitory with a courtyard, and a salary several thousand dollars higher than before, so she could save up and put a down payment on it with the income from her previous investments. The job wasn't too difficult for her, and her years of experience made her a fish out of water as she began to reap the rewards of recognition that she had rarely received before. Having just changed jobs and working a lot of overtime, she didn't have a lot of time to meet new people, but the bookstores everywhere, the gym by the office, and the variety of types of activities had made her start to pay attention to fashion, new things, and herself. There are several older girls in the company, and she no longer feels alone or alienated.
Once she went to negotiate on behalf of the company, a young man from the other company saw that she was serious and sincere, asked for her phone number, and then began to ask her to dinner. She suppressed a long time the mood slowly become better, began to think if six years ago to come over on the good, in fact, carefully think about it to know that her conditions are more suitable for valuing the ability of the place, and she is also very much like the rich spiritual life, there are a lot of better than her much better than the single man, she even began to decide to prepare for the departure of the country, just that the six years of the time of the throw away can not come back. She may still not have been able to start a family, but she definitely secured a good position and started to grow fast. Some things you don't do, you don't get the life you want.
Twenty-five-year-old girl K is on the road to dating. Her most recent blind date thinks she's good at everything else, just a little fat, actually not fat, one hundred and twenty-five pounds, just slightly plump, but in this thin for the beauty of the age of the target, even if she is as peach blossom face, can not offset this extra twenty-five pounds.
K has never been thin, so she never thought it was a weight problem, she blamed the world for valuing appearance too much, blamed the boys for being too snobbish, went to such a bad restaurant on a blind date, blamed herself for her own bad fate, but it was still hard to escape the coldness of the other party on the blind date, and the disappearance of the other party after the blind date. The world didn't change for her, but she started to lose her confidence in one disappointment after another. She became fatter, and not as lively and cheerful as before, and even a bit autistic.
She doesn't understand why she is twenty-five years old and hasn't experienced a decent love yet, all of them are invisible girlfriends, long-distance relationships, and even once almost became a mistress. Until this blind date bluntly said you are a little fat oh, she looked at the opposite side of the crooked-looking, talking about the mouth, pay the money to dilly-dallying strange man, suddenly shed tears. Then she began to lose weight, the technique is very intense but also very effective, is pure hunger, three months later she has been 95 pounds of long-legged beauty.
The taller she wears high heels and shorts on the street, coupled with the original very good-looking features, most of the boys are to look twice. All kinds of friends began to take the initiative to find her dinner and chat, everyone found that she turned out to be such a wonderful girl. Her optimism and cheerfulness, her yard full of flowers and plants and a handful of good cooking, her kindness and gentleness and beautiful writing, all shine up under her thin and bumpy figure.
As she looked at the large bouquet of expensive roses on her desk, she felt that the old days were a lifetime ago, and wondered why she had spent so long living a life that was so horrible.
At seventeen you don't lose weight you don't have a first love, at twenty-five you still don't have a first love. Love is as much about conditions as work, just not the same conditions, and there are some things you don't do to get the life you want.
Thirty year old girl Q, running around in the dusty life and the serious emotional blackmail of her parents' brother. She lives by herself in the corner of the basement, wearing clothes from five years ago, her hair dry and yellow, her face heavy and bitter, often crying in the middle of the night, not knowing where the future lies. If the phone rings, it must be her mother calling to complain and ask her for money; all her savings were taken to her brother to buy a house, and now that her little nephew is born, she is still responsible for all kinds of expenses. Occasionally, she does not agree, remembering her mother's old appearance and sickly body, and saddened.
She is not smart but with hard work girls, so in the work often encountered less than desired things, and no time to fall in love, for the show of affection for the boys and do not know how to respond, these life and emotional pressure often let her breath, plus the family's expectations in her burden, she has a kind of life as if it were dead, but still trying to hold on. Until one day, her brother called again to ask for money, and she had just spent two days and one night on a hard seat to save money on a sleeper berth, she suddenly felt sad and angry because her brother was asking for money just because he refused to install a 2M broadband, and had to install a 4M broadband instead.
She decided it was time to put an end to all this, and called her mother to tell her how hard she had worked for so many years, and that she might have to think of herself in the future. Surprised and angry, her mother accused her of being an eye-witcher and hung up the phone. Her brother called again and questioned why she did it, making her mother sick with anger and criticizing her. She thought about it and flew back to see her family and take good care of her mother, but held firm and gently to her idea. After a few days, her mother suddenly broke out in tears and said, It's thanks to her all these years, and now it's time to think about herself. She hugged her mother tenderly and said that she did not blame them.
After she came back, she was relaxed and calm a lot, took out the provident fund saved for many years to pay the down payment, commercial loans to buy a house, and even capricious overdraft a little credit card, to buy a high-end cell phone, a few pieces of beautiful coats, and do a new hairstyle. She also bought her mother a coat of wool, telling her that her brother was growing up and to trust his ability to live on his own. Surprisingly her brother was supportive and said he would take good care of his mother. Her relationship with her mother's brother is even better than before because of learning to communicate, and she realizes that her mother and brother also want her happiness very much, but just have problems with concepts and expressions.
In this way, she began to slow down a little bit, and because she paid attention to her body, she began to eat well every day, and her face even had a white and red feeling. For the first time, she felt so good to be alive, instead of just facing the fear of exams and the pressure of facing expectations. There are some things you don't do, even at thirty, the life you want is still not available.
The girls above are somewhat fortunate that they finally realized what they really wanted and got what they wanted out of life. Life has just begun for them, although they have taken a long detour, but like walking in the night, they have harvested a sky full of shining stars, and honed their hearts. They still have some regrets, so simple reason why they did not know before, have to use time and lessons in exchange for, in hesitation and ignorance, many of the good and they passed by, if there are daughters in the future, must be early to tell them.
Some things you do not do, you want to think of life will never get.
Still want that job that looks good, you can travel around the world, but also easy and high salary, but your education seems to be not enough, why not go to the education to become higher? But it's only for three or four years. Otherwise you'll still be holding down the job ten years from now that encroaches on all your time but pays you just enough to live on.
You still have a crush on that boy who looks handsome and does things properly, and you look at yourself, grimy, clumsy and rude, but you can't get enough of those equally unkempt boys who are similar to you. Why don't you live a sophisticated life? A beautiful body can be obtained by eating moderately and exercising diligently, temperament can be obtained by a wise and compassionate heart and elegant demeanor, and the face can be groomed by the right hairstyle and glowing skin, and even though you still can't get that boy's favor, why not give it a try? Otherwise eating snacks and watching Korean dramas you will still be the same ten years later, living in vain fantasies and dismal reality, or marrying a boy you can't see and living a resentful life.
Still envious of that girl who speaks four languages and can always make friends easily?
You're still upset about all the little talents you have that have been buried deep in the ground?
There's more to life than static and repetition. We have come to a time when, if your desires are reasonable and you put in the effort, the world will find a way to help you realize them. We have come to a time when everyone is looking for quality in life, and we look forward to being with all the things we love, not just living. Being married to the person you love, doing the things you love, having the intimacy you want, and moving in the direction you love are all things as important to us as breathing.
Some things you don't do for one day, you live one more day in a situation you don't want. And an unwanted today leads to an even more unwanted tomorrow, and an even more unwanted tomorrow leads to a very unwanted day after that. Since the times have given us the right to choose, taught us knowledge, and shown us the way to reach the life we want, why not embark on the quest early?
Life is long, when the road is not too late, the important thing is to run for the desire to be incredibly light.
You see, day by day more glamorous Gao Yuanyuan, Zhou Xun, Liu Ruoying, Da S are wearing a white wedding dress, married to their own very want to marry people.
You see, Oprah has her own TV program, and Jiang Fangzhou, An Yiru, and Anne Baby got a lot of attention and money by writing non-stop. If you go and read their biographies, you'll realize that it takes courage to persevere.
You see Caroline and Max from "The Broke Girls" opened their own colorful Cupcake store and started a cake fever all over the world. You see Victoria stayed a size 0 for years, had a bunch of kids for the handsome Beckham, and lived in the limelight for twenty years like every little girl's dream, but she was once a fat girl too. Look at your mom who has started square dancing, going out on trips, buying a pair of shoes that are a bit expensive, or no longer forcing you to get married, shouldn't you be a bit braver?