The filial piety of both parents is our duty, since ancient times, the hundred good filial piety first, but the reality is that a person can really do to hurt their own people smile?
The birth of a child is a major event in a woman's life, and this turning point will allow many women to set their hearts on being a good wife and mother.
But also at this important juncture in life, many women are to see the ugliness of human nature, and from then on left a lifetime of criticism.
Anyone who knows that having a baby is not the end of the story after experiencing the pain, after the birth of the day is the most abrasive, and just after the birth of a child sitting in the month of the woman, is the most fragile and most helpless and most in need of help.
A friend has been married for ten years, from the beginning of the filial respect for her mother-in-law, to today's cold eyes, people who do not know her story are scornful of her, think she is an ungrateful woman, and even curse her behind her back.
A friend had also framed her relationship with her mother-in-law in terms of kinship, and would not reject her for a thousand miles when she was not her own mother.
On the whole, she was right in her definition, being courteous, not overstepping the bounds of propriety, being polite to her mother-in-law, and being dutiful. But on the contrary, the mother-in-law had a sense of selfishness that only cared about herself. Even so, my friend didn't care, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along just fine.
In her fifth year of marriage, my friend was pregnant with twins, and the best part was that she was pregnant with twins.
But the tragedy is that, in addition to her biological mother coming to take care of her every once in a while, she carried the rest of the days by herself. Her husband had to work on weekdays, and her mother-in-law, who lived close by, only came over occasionally, and never even prepared a meal for her.
The time when she was almost in labor, her friend's stomach got so big that she couldn't get up and move around by herself. At that time, she and her husband went to ask her mother-in-law for help and to come over to take care of her, but she refused on the grounds that there was no one in the house to cook, and that the two men, her father-in-law and her younger brother, would not be able to eat.
Mother-in-law's mother is far away, but still try to run over, when her mother comes, her days are better, do not come, she can only call to urge her husband to come home quickly.
It was not easy to give birth to, C-section, still in the hospital, mother-in-law just sent two meals, children and bedridden her, are her husband and mother to take care of, she did not complain, after all, but also busy.
Discharged home, because there are two children, so the mother and husband to take care of the two babies, as well as sitting in the month of her, the two people are busy, but despite this, the mother-in-law is still here to sit for a while on the way out, and even did not take a hand.
Halfway through the month, my mother had a problem at home and had to go back, so my husband drove my mother back. The first thing I did was to ask my mother-in-law to come over and look after her for a couple of hours.
The mother-in-law agreed, but after her husband and mother left, she didn't come over to help for the next four hours.
She was breastfeeding by herself, changing both children's diapers by herself, making formula for the children through the pain of her wounds, and finding food for herself.
When his friend's husband came home, he saw that his own mother had not come to take care of his wife, and he also saw that she had an open wound oozing blood due to the fact that she had been taking care of the baby and working non-stop, which caused her to turn white with pain.
He called over to question his mother and got the reply, "Oops, I forgot, it's okay, now you should be able to take care of yourself, not so delicate, I used to give birth to you when I gave birth to be able to get out of bed to take care of you and take care of yourself, which is so delicate ah."
From that moment on, she realized that she should not count on her mother-in-law when she was in a desperate situation.
From then on, my friend distanced herself from her mother-in-law, who didn't speak ill of her, didn't treat her cruelly, but just let her daughter-in-law feel despair when she was most helpless.
To this day, my friend said, "I still can't forget the way she put me in the way, I usually did not treat her badly ah, how can she be so cold-blooded, so I let myself die, during that period of time I was so helpless that I really feel like the sky is going to fall like."
Recently, I heard that my friend's mother-in-law was sick, and during the hospitalization period, my friend took the excuse that her two children had to be taken care of, and never went to visit her.
Mother-in-law, however, sent a message: "Usually you look like a dog, now I'm dying you do not come to see a glance."
No matter what her husband said, she still didn't go.
She said: "I have no way to forget that period of your mother when I was a stranger's attitude, even on the road to see a strange pregnant woman will help ah, but she, from pregnancy to the child so big, did not help me over my one point. Then there is no need for me to her ......"
Relatives and friends of her husband's family, are scolding her for being unfilial, but she laughed it off: you don't understand, despite what you say, it doesn't matter.
The hundred good filial piety first right, but filial piety before the mother-in-law, there is an opportunity for you to take care of the daughter-in-law, you do not take care of the daughter-in-law, how to make the future daughter-in-law for your old age?
People and people are each other, not necessarily you are the elders must be to you from the end.
My hometown village has a famous shrew, husband is an honest man, mother-in-law is paralyzed in bed, the woman, that is a tough, the mouth of what words can be scolded out of the mouth, treating the mother-in-law's attitude, in the eyes of the eyes of the onlookers seems to be "abuse".
Walking through the door of her house, the most heard words are: "You also have today ah, how you treated me, I came to pay the debt."
The village gossips then dragged her to the entrance of the village and asked her about what her mother-in-law had done in the first place.
The shrew said, "Good man, this old man, at first tortured me so bad na, I married over to make it difficult for me, everywhere looking for trouble, I had a doll during the period, almost starved to death in her hands, and now paralyzed, begged me, I have what to take care of her?"
Then began to blah blah blah a whole lot of memories, to put it bluntly is to make things difficult for the daughter-in-law, and during the month is even more buried seeds of hatred.
The village called the shrew heartless, but only she remembers what she went through.
Human nature is good, no one will show an evil face to an unrelated person, and no one can be generous enough to smile at the people who hurt them.
Women are born fragile, so thoughtful, who is good to her not good to her she remembers, this is to lay the foundation for the protection of their own, and for the mother is just, half of it is for the children, half because of helplessness, the family's chills can only stand up on their own after the, or starve themselves to death starving children.
Can not say that every mother-in-law is bad, not that every ungrateful daughter-in-law is justified, perhaps, a good mother-in-law may not be able to change a good daughter-in-law in old age, but a daughter-in-law in the heart of the daughter-in-law left behind a criticism of the mother-in-law, don't expect the daughter-in-law to treat you well.
What people what life, what things what fruit. In fact, think about it, life is the cycle, what you do, are doubled back the kind of cycle.
Many mothers-in-law think that I count on my son, do not count on the daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law is an outsider, old age depends on my son. This idea is really self-defeating, a man's life destiny is to earn money, no man can do to give up his job has been taking care of his mother until he left.
And the care of the elderly is usually the work of the daughter-in-law, the son is only responsible for greetings, three meals a day still have to count on the daughter-in-law.
Nowadays, in this society, a woman who has given birth to a child suffers from depression, it is not an exception, but this disease is still not taken seriously, and they all think that it is pretentious, and in the end, it will lead to a tragedy.
In fact, the root cause of depression is that she herself can not solve the tedious things after giving birth to a child, and no one to help, the fate of the people also encountered cynical family, enduring physical pain in the face of the child's hunger, a long time have not slept for more than two hours of sleep, not depression of the strange.
Surviving depression, see through the hearts of people, try to be strong, did not survive, are with children choose to leave this world.
If the woman in the month can be treated gently, who is willing to go on the road to death.
The birth of a child prepares a woman to be a good mother, but those who are new mothers do not have the ability to cope with everything on their own.
So don't be so quick to show disinterest or even malice towards a woman who has just given birth to a child, a woman who has been reborn against all odds in despair is more vindictive than anyone else.
In the daily trivial life, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict may be a slap in the face, but during the month, whether it is good or bad, all depends on what the mother-in-law did.