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When we can be 100% responsible for ourselves, we won't regret it no matter what happens, because we know it's our choice.
Don't believe you look at the singers, actors, most of the hibernation for many years before the fire out of the circle, looking back to the past is to feel good and valuable.
And what about you?
When was the first time you took full responsibility for yourself?
When was the first time you really took full responsibility for yourself, do you remember?
Did you have the support of others?
Or was it the desire in your own heart that made you "go all the way" to do it?
When you really made your first choice, knowing that no one could "pay for you again", you took full responsibility for it.
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When we can be 100% responsible for ourselves, we are truly growing up and "weaning" ourselves from our hearts.
A few years ago, the term "giant baby" began to appear in front of the public, 48-year-old "chewing the old returnee" home for 7 years, 80-year-old mother suffering from uremia physical and mental preparedness sued his son. When the court issued a notice, "gnawing old returnee" still refused to cross out of the house, and began to complain to the camera mother: "Blame you, when I was a child, everything is done, everything is ready-made, so that I have a dependence on you guys, and now you dislike what I will not be, it's your spoiled I hurt. "
"Can you leave me alone, I'm already an adult."
"Minding everything, are you caring or controlling me?"
I often complain to my parents like this.
On the one hand, I hold up the flag of independence with my parents, and on the other hand, when I encounter a little thing, I think of discussing with my parents and letting them make a decision for me, "They have eaten more salt than I have eaten, so it's better to ask for my parents' opinion." If the result of the thing is not as good as I can point the spearhead to them, "What do you blame me for this thing, I was also discussing with you ah, you also agreed to ah, you also have the responsibility, are your fault."
In fact, our parents' control over us is because we don't show independence ourselves, and we want our parents to take responsibility for our affairs so that we can have someone to blame.
When we let our parents see their own independence, growth, parents will slowly put down.
After all, who does not want to live a little easier, who wants to worry about you every day? Who does not want to dance every day, watch TV shows, free and easy?
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When we can be 100% responsible for ourselves, our relationship with others becomes equal.
"I'm a woman, so you should make money for me to spend. Isn't the saying, I'm responsible for looking beautiful and you're responsible for making money for your family."
"I am female, so you should spoil me, love me, and let me."
"I am female, so you should take more responsibility, you are the one who picks the load."
"It doesn't matter if a girl doesn't study well enough, it's better to study well than to marry well."
You should, you should, you should ......
These "you should" behind the real is the status of inequality, the surface shouted "equality between men and women", but from the heart feel weak, feel inferior, feel that they are vulnerable, not willing to take up the responsibility.
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So how can we be 100% responsible for ourselves?
When you really want to do it, dare to do it, believe that you can do it and can take all the consequences for what you want, you have the power to do it.
When we really do it, we become masters of our own lives, free and independent, and you will find that the people around you will also change.
What you get is what you can be responsible for. What you don't get is what you're not ready to be responsible for.
So, are you ready?