Mom can fall in love with anyone, but don't fall in love and live with an old man who is a square dancer.
My neighbor Li sister, dancing to meet a male teacher to teach dance, the two good, originally male teacher in the morning beef noodle someone tube, this Li sister jealous, contracted the male teacher's breakfast.
Lunch is usually a male teacher and female students **** meal, and then became a two-person meal, Li sister and male teachers, Li sister to pay the bill. Dinner and bedtime went by the wayside.
Li sister has a problem, like sun, especially like sun his horse brother, on the male teacher, waist straight straight, head also lifted to the sky, feel good funny, Li sister feel handsome.
Once Li sister to take Ma teacher to attend a reunion, Ma teacher weekdays to see most of the square dance sister, the party to see and different, Ma teacher to reveal their nature, chatting and sneak touching was kicked away by the foot, and later touched someone else's buttocks were directly a ear scrape.
Some people will directly to Li sister said: Li Xiuying, in the future to come to their own, do not bring garbage people, we do not welcome.
This Li is not good, so she is still obsessed with her brother Ma, but also every day to keep an eye on the brother Ma, for fear of being secretly asked by other dance partners, every day to live is to ride the money to ride the people but also to manipulate the endless heart.
These are Li's sister after the loss of love to us in person, crying, crying that the old horse was cheated, by the old goblin cheated away, crying hysterical. Later, after the calm point to figure out, Ma teacher's appetite is getting bigger and bigger, more than just eating, drinking and smoking costs, clothes and bags are changed, want to Apple cell phone, Li Sister has a small heart, spending money is also deducted, Ma teacher and the former old good friend Zhang Auntie and good, Zhang Auntie retirement fee is relatively high, a daughter in foreign countries, just a little bit older, a little bit chubby, but on the Ma teacher is better.
So Sister Li broke her heart and left the sailor dance circle in the park before coming to us to cry.
Park various dance circle I am not clear, because not in touch with this, most of the news is Lee's sister weekday chat as a joke to say, this time cheated feel depressed to tell us, pre-hot love when we simply do not know.
In my eyes, the square dance are all jianghu people, water is too deep, can not be touched, normal people do not step into the jianghu. There is a saying: out to mix, always have to return.
To do some work for the mother, you can find, find a normal life, do not look for dancing old man, and your mother life, can guarantee that the dance in the future and your mother only one person to dance?
There is a saying: "It's going to rain, the mother wants to marry, so let her go. What does it mean? It's all very natural, no one can stop it.
According to the information provided by the subject, the man is a man who has nothing but people. Since it is a person who can rent a room to live in, and your mother to save money to let him live in your house, what is a good solution? Zhou Yu is a two-way street.
However, you are still the owner of the house. You can calmly go and communicate with your mother to come, put your personal thoughts all out, let your mother come up with her views and solutions to this problem. This comes down to two outcomes, which you need to be prepared for.
One is that your mother is a very strong person, simply do not listen to you that set, I do what I want, put you in an awkward situation, which is a very annoying result.
The other scenario is that your mother respects your opinion and rents another apartment with the old man. But chances are that the child will no longer be in your care. This may be an outcome you don't want to see, but situations like this are common.
There's also the fact that your mother, who has a lot to learn about your difficulties, is still at home, even though she's moved out. She will use her free time to help you look after your children, which is the best possible outcome. As for your reluctance to let her get along with that old man, both against reason and law, only to let nature take its course, but also lest you find yourself uncomfortable. (2019/07/10)
Auntie Wang met Uncle Li in the marriage, the two because of square dancing sparks, both divorced together, Auntie Wang has a daughter, Uncle Wang has a son, now have become a family.
Auntie Wang and Uncle Li together in the second year after together, Uncle Li half paralyzed due to cerebral infarction, Auntie Wang did not go to the square dance, at home to serve Uncle Li, this service is fifteen years. The two abandoned the original family together, should cherish each other, but in fact they both have their own selfishness, each other do not trust, Auntie Wang think Uncle Li always secretly give the son of the money to spend, do not give themselves to spend, Auntie Wang can not go out too long, or go home to Uncle Li to ask her where to go, and then a fight, so Auntie Wang to dine with a friend, can only be near the home, but also have to call to prove that the friend is a friend, and the friend can not go home. The friend also had to prove on the phone that Auntie Wang was with them.
Wang Auntie said she was very tired and wanted a divorce, but Uncle Li did not agree, and still live like this.
There are also videos that I have seen of square-dancing grandparents who do not respect and love themselves in front of the crowd, which can't help but make people skeptical about the starting point of modern square dancing. Of course, this negative energy is still a minority.
We go back to the question, dad died many faces, mom if another partner is no excuse, as long as mom think clearly, as a child should support, now you should be supportive of mom, just have doubts, to put it bluntly is the heart is not down to earth. You live in the house has been transferred to your name, this do not have to worry about, you just worry that he is not much income, is not greedy to enjoy life, only with your mother together, and you feel that he is just an outsider, is indeed an outsider, to how to rule out this sense of rejection? Appropriate use of the agreement to protect mom, to protect their own home. Of course, I hope the result is good, otherwise how sad mom should be.
That's good, the elderly have their own lives, especially if they can find someone to live with, the children will be much easier.
You are very lucky, my mother-in-law after the death of his father-in-law has been single, living alone, the character is getting more and more eccentric, how many years my wife went to spend two days with her every weekend, but she is still not satisfied, my wife tormented want to die, there is no way, we are ready to send her to the nursing home how to do? Support! Do you want to see your mother alone for the rest of her life? Do you think you can stay with her for the rest of her life without doing anything? If you can't do that, don't dwell on it. In order to make mom happy and happy the rest of her life, in order to let her have a companion around her who can take care of her. You don't say that you take the initiative to get her married even if you do, that is, if she has found the right one, you should support her! I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that!
So do mother is also happy, but also solved your worries, why not do it? What is filial piety? Mom raised you to adulthood, as long as she is willing to do things, as long as she is happy with things, you go along with her. Supporting her is called filial piety. There are a lot of remarried old people around me who are doing quite well, quite happy. If you've been raised so well, you can't just think of yourself and ignore the elderly. Can you be with your mom all the time? Can you eat three meals a day with her? The children have children's lives, the old man has the old man's life, this is not quite good?
In fact, a lot of children do not agree, most of them are not because they feel so old shame or something, (after all, this is the age) but the heart has its own small. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get a new one.
First of all, support, children support the elderly is natural. The father is not alive to support it, someone instead of their own father to accompany your mother, this is no loss to you, right? Are you glad that your father died early to save yourself the trouble? If not, then you didn't have to pay anything more, and even had less trouble. For this reason, shouldn't you be thankful that people are willing to take care of your mother? Unlike young people, the elderly are busy and they can easily feel lonely. Filial piety children should encourage the elderly to find again rather than be a stumbling block to their remarriage.
The issue of inheritance, in fact, I most despise is because of the fear of people to share the inheritance and control the private life of the elderly! The old man to raise you is a favor, you have hands and feet, and even started a family actually still think of the old man's life to save the family money? The old man can give his money to whomever he likes, why should you care? If the parents would rather give the money to others than to their children, should we reflect on why? Some parents are not close to their children or are biased, I don't think this is a problem, the real problem is that you think you have the right to dominate your parents, why? You love them for their money? If they don't give you money you are unbalanced and feel you don't have to honor your parents? What a ridiculous and selfish idea. You and your parents' affinity in their raising you have existed, the parents of the grace of a lifetime can not be finished, you still think of scraping something inappropriate, right?
Children's issues, the elderly have no reason to raise you have to help you look at the child, each generation has its own hardships, have to carry their own burden, do not count on anything parents, do not take advantage of the death is not finished. Now there are still people baba said not to help look after the children will not give old age, something this is! The old man struggled all his life, to help you is the friendship, not to help you is also this, is the old man is born to serve you? In that case it is better to directly give birth to you to sell and subsidize under their own it!
Above all, I think, do children do not interfere too much in the life of the elderly, their choice and you have no interest. On the contrary, the old man, why would you choose to cohabit instead of marriage? Still not afraid of children noisy afraid of people share money? Afraid of one more point of responsibility? This time the children do not give the old man pressure, to be more for the parents gatekeeper, after all, the old scum is the old scum, the old green tea is also the old green tea. Running money to run to the house, clear with the old man said, do not want to do these children, but can not let the old man was cheated after the two empty. If really good for the elderly, these are nothing, perhaps, the elderly would rather take these for their own old age have a partner. It's like Su Daqiang. You talk to him clearly form, they know you do not oppose their remarriage, will naturally watch their hands capital.
Forgive me for being blunt and honest: they are retired and have children, so why do they still want to find a so-called 'dance partner' to live with? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new one. (Unless the reason is domestic violence during their lifetime) Otherwise: I (only my personal opinion) think it is a case of disrespect for the old, and no wonder they are resented and hated by the younger generation! Isn't there any shame in such a parent (father or mother)? A father or mother who lets their children lose face outside is not a good parent? In order to their own flirtation and wanderlust at the expense of harming the deceased (husband or wife), it is difficult to come out of the enclosure: the dog man with the dog woman! No good results! (personal opinion) do not spray
First of all, give the mother a suggestion is really love this dance partner. Secondly, you have to seriously go to understand whether this dance partner really love your mother, if if you really love your mother, physical health, dance partner's children also support. You should also strongly support them to register their marriage. Instead of cohabitation. Because people on the age, some inconvenience in life, if there is a partner to take care of each other, support each other, each other considerate, sick each other to take a water to take a medicine is not better? Children in filial piety you can every day in her body? By its night. What do you mean by filial piety? Those who are obedient are filial piety, and those who are respectful are filial piety. After my mother died, I encouraged my father to find another companion. Because I knew how lonely he was, and we children couldn't be with him every day, it would be so much more enjoyable to have a companion to talk to. My mother will also be happy in heaven.
For this matter, you think you should look at it rationally.
First of all, your father died several years ago, your mother has the right to pursue their own happy life in their old age. From your description, your mom's dance partner lives in a nursing home and wants to rent a room and live with your mom after meeting her. From this idea, he really wants to have a good life with your mom. Since he really wants to be with your mom, let him and your mom go through the marriage formalities, so that it looks more formal for the elderly, and your mom doesn't need to put up with the finger-pointing of the neighbors.
Secondly, in the matter of renting a room, your mother chose to bring a dance partner home to live, do not want to live outside, as we all know, in their own house to live certainly more comfortable than renting a room outside, through your description of the house is your father when he was alive to buy, and now this house has been transferred to your name, you do not want to let the two of them live. I think you can tell your mom that she doesn't necessarily want to live in this house, she just wants to live in a better place, and I think you can contribute some of the money to let them rent a better house after they get married.
Finally, for this kind of "twilight love", we have to be a good gatekeeper for the elderly, if the investigation for a period of time and found that the other party is really good, and then take some measures, not just know a few days to go out to "cohabitate", in love with the woman's IQ is almost zero! The first thing we need to do is to let our own mothers enjoy the joy of love, but we also need to take precautions in advance.
Your mother is a dance enthusiast, and she has become attached to her partner in the dance. Reached the point of wanting to live together, if the other single has positive energy people, as a son or daughter should support. Do not think that dancing is not a good person, on the contrary, dancing is the pursuit of life people, love of life, loyal feelings, responsible people.
Age, although sometimes children to take care of home, but can not always be accompanied by the side, when a person quiet down, the desolate feeling of loneliness will arise. Living people can not live in the figure of the deceased side, have the right to pursue marital happiness. Since your mother has found the other half of life and feel happy and joyful, as a son or daughter for them to bless and happy! Old ideas should be eradicated and new ideas should be promoted.
I am also a dance enthusiasts, witnessed a lot of this situation, some of the two sides are single, there is also a single party, the situation is not the same, after the formation of the family have been quite good, off the construction of her they have *** with the same hobbies and *** with the same words! Life adds joy and affection develops. Dancing in the morning and evening, writing poetry and painting during the day, singing and practicing dance, such a life is not exactly what they aspire to and seek?
I have a female apprentice, I brought her to dance in this circle, she has a boyfriend is also a cohabitation relationship, their interests are different, character often quarrel, dance after making a male partner, and your mother's appeal in the same situation they came together. Since they have been together since the life is very good, the relationship is also quite good life is very happy! They thanked me and said, thanks to you taught me to dance, I have today's good life, so that I am full of hope for life and the future, I hope your mother will be so happy and happy.
Originally, I wanted to let you, tell your mother and that old man to go out and rent a house to live by themselves, but on closer inspection, your mother still has to show you the child. That old man is also helping, they are gone, you really blind. Lol, think about it, just get a free old man to watch the kids!
This kind of thing, a willingness to fight a willing to suffer, nothing, you hate the old man, it is very true, who likes this kind of people, not to mention the mother's "new love", suddenly to your home to live, and, to the point, he did not have the income, you are inwardly disliked.
But there's nothing you can do about it, it's just a matter of time.
Things have happened, you don't complain, think of the good, he appeared,
One is to solve the problem of your mother's loneliness for many years
Secondly, he may also help to do the housework, look after the children.
No way, make do, in a few years, the children are older, you can let them go out to rent a house to live. I hope that at that time, the two old people, can still make do with each other!