I have thought countless times about what to do when I break up.
I've thought that I'm going to go and give that guy a bad name, let him know what a good girl he lost, and release all my grievances.
I thought about leaving in style, without shedding a single tear, and leaving the best looking back, and then dressing up beautifully and acting like nothing happened every day to piss off the scumbag.
I also thought, I'm going to pick up his good buddy, and from then on let him regret it, see me feel a hundred claws scratching heart.
I've even thought about how I'm going to work extra hard to become rich and beautiful so that he'll come back to me and then dump him again.
Every time I fantasize about these things, I feel especially good, I feel like a big heroine in a TV drama, but when such things really happen to me, I feel like Luo Haiyan in Shanghai Woman's Illustrated Guide, I just have a good time in my head, and then I slink away.
Don't scold me for being a wimp, and don't praise me for being kind, no, it's really neither, I just don't feel the need.
There is a saying, I'm not forgiving you, I'm just letting myself go. The person who wants to leave you, has long been iron heart, no matter you are tearing your heart or hissing, he will not turn back, he will only look down on you, will only be bored, will only be scoffed at in front of others and said, "Look at this woman, I don't love her anymore, she still can't let go of me."
You may want to retort, saying I did not let go, but you know what, you turn back again and again, is to trample on yourself.
I think the "decent" sung particularly well: leave is also very decent, so as not to live up to these years, love warmly, seriously pay the picture, don't let the obsession, destroyed yesterday, I loved you, sharp dry.
I think a girl's best look, is to leave the back of the dashing, I allow you to walk out of his realization after secretly crying, I allow you to grieve for a long time, I allow you to vent, but that is not allowed to turn back, but also do not go to you to hurt yourself.
Of course, I know what it feels like to fall out of love, so I must tell the girls today how to break up decently?
02?Don't contact, resolutely don't contact
Breaking up hurts, but turning back hurts even more, because turning back can only bring humiliation. I believe that many girls have had such an experience, endured a long time not to send each other those pretentious information, because I know that the other side already do not care about their own, but at a certain moment, the sudden collapse of the defense sent a: "I miss you."
The result, the other party has not returned to you, or back to a: "We have broken up, do not bother me again." At times like this, are you dying of regret? Did you want to slap yourself for being so humble?
Dear, I don't want you to fall into this kind of emotion, you must know, has broken up with the person, and then want to, also can't contact, because contact, may be even once that a little bit of good memories are gone.
Whether it's your pestering or the other person's indifference, it will only make your relationship worse and worse.
Break up, as a stranger, do not contact, I guarantee, as long as a month, you will be good, you contact him the impulse will be weaker and weaker, you will even forget that once a moment to contact him on the heartbreaking feeling.
Trust me, you will.
?03?No turning back, determined not to turn back
Small Xia asked me that my boyfriend looking for her to get back together, should I agree.
I shook my head and looked at her, because in my heart, the people who broke up, it is impossible to get together again, like a glass of water that has cracks, even if it is glued together, as soon as you put hot water, it will still crack off.
You once those contradictions, will always quietly run out later, let you caught off guard, and so the second injury, must be more hurtful.
The first breakup you may only be sad for one also, the second time, it may take six months. So why bother, right.
Watched a Korean movie "the temperature of love", there is a line: it is said that the probability of getting back together after a breakup is 82%, after getting back together can really go to the end of the 3%. Of those 3%, only 1% will make it to the end, and the remaining 99% will break up for the same reason they did the first time.
So don't look back, no matter how much you love.
?04?Find something to do to distract yourself
What's the hardest time after a breakup? I think it has to be late at night. During the day you work all the time and you can ask friends out, you don't feel so lonely.
But late at night, when you are sitting alone, you will remember every bit of your time with him, this is the cup he used, that is the picture frame he bought, this sofa has good memories of you guys messing around, and this room is full of his scent.
You cry uncontrollably, thinking of his many good, forgetting his bad. But honey, you are simply irrational at this point.
You forgot how determined he was to break up with you, and even more so, you forgot that your life was a mess because of him, and you almost lost your job.
So, I want to tell you to find something to do to fill your life, you can learn a musical instrument, you can learn to dance, you can read a book to go to bed early and get up early, anyway, just don't give yourself time to be pretentious.
Because at this time you, no matter what you do, he will not come back to love you. Instead of being y involved, it would be better to come out quickly, after all, the matter of lost love, can save you, only you.
05?Not rushing into a new relationship
Zhang Xiaoxian said that the best way to forget the ex is to have a new love and time. If you don't forget, then it must be that the new love isn't good enough and the time isn't long enough.
I agree with this statement about time, but about the new love, I think it is really not necessarily.
Many girls, after a breakup, don't even think about their problems, they just rush into the next relationship, so it doesn't take long to fail once again.
For those girls who cry, "Why can't I meet a good man", I would say, think about your own problems.
Is it true that you are independent and strong enough in love, that you love seven and leave three, that you don't suffer, that you give enough trust to the other?
These if you have done, that is the other side of the scum, but if you did not do, is not the need to go to the reflection to correct it.
The failure of any relationship is not a person's problem, even if the other party has ninety-nine percent of the error, you yourself must have one percent.
So, after the loss of love, you should do the most, first of all, is a good introspection, and second is to be strong, only you upgraded, in order to meet a better person, or else you can only ever be a "scum harvesting machine.
06? The thing about breaking up is that it's a sad thing, so what we can do is to leave ourselves the last decent, and when we think about it later, we can not look down on ourselves.
In fact, as a passer-by, I want to tell you, no matter how painful you are now, the future must be cloudy and light, one day, other people mention that name again, your heart will not have waves, see and his similar back, you will not have sweaty palms, you don't want to do with him as a friend, and also have no intention of being an enemy, you don't want to know how he is doing, and you can't even think of why you would be so stupid to fall in love.
There are a lot of passers-by in life, and there is no such thing as a passer-by, so if you are not the right person, let him go, and when he is gone, the right person will come.
Future days, I hope you can meet the right person, I wish someone to ask you porridge can be warm, I wish someone to accompany you to stand dusk.