It is said that a man, before and after marriage will change, and his degree of change is mostly dependent on his family of origin situation, if his family is happy and full of contradictions, then after marriage you will be very happy; on the contrary, if his family has a lot of problems in the contradiction, then you will be married to live a very tired. That's why girls should never get married impulsively, or you really don't know what will be waiting for you after marriage.
He and I have been married for three years, the child is two years old, and now at home as a full-time wife, to put it mildly is actually a free nanny, home to take care of the children, in-laws, and a pair of twins are still in school uncle and aunt, every day is a very tired, but my husband does not understand me. If I had known that I was living such a life, I would not have gotten married on such an impulse.
My husband and I were originally a company, in a company meeting, he chased me first, I did not resist him, and soon we established a relationship, in our relationship two months later, he proposed to me, I was still immersed in the honey pot of love, a hot head on the yes, soon we met both parents, then I realized that he had a younger sibling and his mom was not working at home, but he had to go to the hospital. Mom is also at home and does not work, but this does not affect my heart to marry him, so we got married.
Shortly after the wedding, my mother-in-law asked me to be a full-time wife at home, so that I could take care of my younger siblings' schooling, and prepare for the birth of a child. At the time I refused, I felt that I had a stable job and I didn't want to give it up just like that, and I was still young and didn't want to be stuck at home.
Because of this, my mother-in-law has been dissatisfied with me, but also called my husband, said I do not know considerate of her, for this reason, I also argued with my husband, my husband actually stood on the side of my mother-in-law in this matter, but also said that I do not know how to do things, I really feel very aggrieved, thinking back to the beginning of the relationship when he was a hundred times more obedient to me, and now it is like a person who has changed, and I began to regret a little bit, the first marriage is too impulsive. I'm not sure if I've ever been in a position to do that before.
Later, when I had a child, my mother-in-law brought up this issue again, saying that it was for the sake of the child's good, and I didn't have any hard feelings at first, so I compromised. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get the best out of me, but I'm sure you'll be able to get the best out of me, and I'm sure you'll be able to get the best out of me, but I'm sure you'll be able to get the best out of me, and I'm sure you'll be able to get the best out of me.
Also always in my husband in front of the reversal of right and wrong, I thought he would not believe, but I was wrong, he believed, he only listened to the fucking, listened to the fucking words, and I argued with me, do not listen to what I said, I really began to doubt that I fell in love with him at the beginning of the relationship is him, why he has become with the past is not the same. Every day because of some trivial and trivial and quarrel, I really tired, also countless times thought of divorce, but for the sake of the child I have endured.
The most excessive time, I also finally can not bear. That day, I brought the child back to buy food, home only siblings at home, the weekend they came back to the home is very messy, and on the basis of the mother-in-law backing, to me is also to call, I gave them a good meal, served to the room, I kindly reminded while hot to eat, his siblings are very impatient still playing the game, the rice bowl pushed to the side of the accidentally fell to the ground, covered in the workbook was still on the ground, did not care about!
This is the first time I've ever seen a girl with a problem like this.
This time, the mother-in-law also came back, she seems to be in a good mood today, and not very difficult for me, but also unprecedentedly called me to go over to see her new bracelet, and then let me help her wipe the bracelet to collect to her room, I was careful to take the bracelet, but I did not see a puddle of water on the ground, the bracelet is broken, and it seems to indicate that my marriage is broken.
This is the mother-in-law's beloved things, can let her find a handle, she said a lot of hard words to me. After her husband came back, she cried to her husband, saying that I deliberately broke her bracelet, some added oil and vinegar, but also said that I usually how to treat her bad, in short, crying that shocked the world and weeping.
I saw my husband's eyes disgusted eyes, I know what I say he will not believe, at this time, his younger siblings out of nowhere, aggrieved Baba said I was not willing to cook for them, but also the dishes intentionally poured on their homework books, I was really difficult to defend, I am a person where to say so many of them, and moreover, I said more, he will not believe, I silently shed tears.
Then, I heard him say this, "apologize to my mother, kneel down and apologize to my mother, with my brother and sister to make amends, or divorce" I froze for a moment, I really can't imagine, he will actually say such words, tears in the light of the tears, I seem to see his mother and his siblings pleased with the eyes of his, I am completely disappointed in him, "away from the divorce, you don't regret it," he seems to be also didn't expect me to actually so! I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that. Soon, we got divorced. On the day of the divorce, I felt an unprecedented relief. I just wanted the kids and nothing else, and I felt that freedom was more important than being confined to a home like that.
Later, I took my child out for a month of traveling, in this journey, I met the man who is sincerely willing to pay for me, and do not mind my second marriage with a child, at first we did not get together, it is later under the coincidence, we met again, he showed his heart to me, and I also told him my last marriage experience is not very happy, I am afraid, I don't dare to give my heart so easily. I'm afraid to give my heart so easily again, he also expressed understanding, willing to start with me as a friend, and took the initiative to tell me about his family's situation.
A year later, we were together, he took me to see his parents, his parents are very kind two old people, but also like my child, but also my child bought a lot of gifts, but also let us hurry to get married, they can help me with the child. Later, he and I got married, after marriage he was very good to me, I was very happy and satisfied.
So, marriage must be on the basis of mutual understanding, do not be impulsive, girls do not be sweet words blinded, after all, marriage is not a matter of two people, but is built on the basis of two families, so that the situation of the family of origin must be very important, the family of origin to a certain extent, will have an impact on the view of a person's future marriage.
So, especially the girl must be responsible for their own, not because of some boy's sweet words will be washed away, regardless of; at the same time the boy must not fail the girl, if you can not give her happiness, do not easily make a commitment. Everyone has the right to pursue happiness, but everything should have certain boundaries.