Overseas anecdotes: Who pays for the first date in the UK
The man who pays for the first date has long been seen as the norm.
Now that men and women are politically and legally equal, the glass ceiling (an invisible barrier to women's advancement) has been removed to some extent, and there are plenty of women who make more money than men, and the financial crisis is making everyone tighten their belts. There are plenty of women today who have successful careers and earn more than men. So, do women still expect men to be generous? At the end of May, a famous financial management company found that the rivers and mountains are easy to change, the nature of the ...... pretend to be? Who pays for the first date?
(The first number is the female answer, the second number is the male answer)
The man pays: 11%, 22%
The woman should indicate that she is willing to share the bill, but in the end, the man pays: 14%, 8%
The woman pays: 0%, 0%
AA: 14%, 6%
Each pays for its own: 2%, 1%
Earnings: 0.1%, 0.1%
The man pays for his own: 2%, 0.1%
The man pays for his own. 1%
The one who earns more money pays the bill: 0%, 0%
The one who sends the invitation pays the bill: 12%, 7%
Have you ever had such an experience: candlelight flickering, the sound of music, accompanied by wine and food, began to think: is he my Mr Right (or Prince Charming, the return of the relationship)? Wine and dine, the waiter sent the bill, silence ...... two hours of eye to eye, the beautiful fantasy of this life, suddenly fizzled! Last year, the British dating website ukdating.com survey found that 90% of British women still love the first date the man took the initiative to pay the bill "gentlemanly". In February last year, a survey of more than 1,000 registered users of Toptable, a London based food ordering company, found that three out of ten women did suggest "let's go AA", but half of them were just pretending. Money management company moneysavingexpert.com launched an online quiz titled "Do Old Dating Traditions Still Apply Today" on May 26 this year, asking readers to vote and express their opinions in a forum on who should pay for a first date. Readers were asked to vote on who should pay for the first date and post their opinions in the forum. Within a few days, nearly 10,000 Brits took the plunge, and the forum was nearly bursting at the seams. It's clear that the issue is still very much on the minds of many Brits.
The survey found that a clear majority, nearly 60%, believe that the man should pay the bill. On closer inspection, more than 1,000 women thought the man should rightly pay, compared to just 10 women who thought the woman should pay - 100 times more than the latter.
If you're a girl, that's something to sneeze at. Most men also answered that they should pay, and the number of men who thought the woman should pay was negligible (46), which translates to a negligible percentage! Fewer men (6%) than women (14%) also think men and women should AA.
Who says the British gentleman is dying out?
British feminists "set fire to the bra" (a symbol of gender inequality) in the 1970s. Symbolizing gender inequality), but why is there still a double standard when it comes to footing the bill? The most important thing may still be the influence of tradition. Although the times have progressed, but the expectations of British society on the roles of men and women to a certain extent is still stuck in the level of "male farming, female weaving": the man went out to hunt (to pursue a career), the woman ruled the home to raise the next generation.
The first date of the initiative to pay the bill of the man, the signal is interpreted as: you can accompany me today is my honor, I am willing to take care of, take care of you. The man to pay, and for the woman to open the door, get out of the way, is still seen by many as a romantic gentlemanly manner, and even, the standard for judging the degree of male affection. One day on the radio, I heard a female marriage expert (I can't remember the name) say that when a man dates a woman, he wants to make a good impression. Although the woman wants to make a good impression too, the law of nature is that the male dances with his colorful tail and the female shyly picks and chooses. I don't have first-hand experience of today's "dating scene" but, for married couples, there is still more to a man's gift to a woman. A girlfriend once described how, after the pain of having a baby, every dollar a man spends on a woman is worth every penny. Women are tasked with raising the next generation and are much more emotionally and physically invested in their marriage. I wonder if we can conclude that men need to compensate women forever?
Who pays for dating? Different age groups will have different answers
A search of a number of media outlets and websites in the UK revealed that there is a clear generational gap when it comes to the question of who pays for a first date. The older the person, the more convinced that the man should pay the bill, after 80, 90 more inclined to AA. Not long ago had a conversation with a British post-80s boy about this issue. He said that who pays for a date these days depends on how you ask the other person. You have to say, "I can invite you to ......", means you must pay the bill; you have to say, "Let's go out together, okay? Where do you want to go?" The final may be the man to pay the bill, may also be AA, because, you have given each other the opportunity to choose to go to their own financial ability to afford the place; but, if you ask, "Do you want to invite me to dinner?" , what awaits you could be a sandwich left over for days, or you could be given a black eye by the other person. So ooey-gooey that if I needed to start over, I would choose to take a cue from President Obama, who went on a first date with his wife back in the day, went for a walk, and then went to a museum. It doesn't cost anything, and you avoid the minefield of paying the bill.
Eating the short end of the stick?
In my dating days, there used to be a running joke that a boy's attitude to paying the bills reflected how far along in the relationship he was with a girl. Completely without looking at the bill to pay, that just began to pursue; began to pay attention to, that has been chased into the hand; complained that too expensive, that the relationship has entered a stable stage; the girl to pay the bill? Description of the two immediately to (or already) married, the economic power to change hands. So, does who pays on a first date have an impact on the future direction of the relationship? If you listen to what the ladies on the moneysavingexpert.com forums have to say, you might come to the conclusion that it's "crucial". The messages generally say that paying the bill is a sign of a man's demeanor and attitude towards women. Wouldn't it be a waste of time to spend the entire evening on a first date worrying about how much the woman will eat, drink, and whether she'll split the bill? How can he prove his dedication and sincerity? If he can't afford to pay for the first date, he's not going to be able to pay for anything after marriage. Only a small number of people strongly advocate "AA", but the starting point is not because of the need to insist on equality between men and women, but for fear of "eating people's mouth short". The first thing you need to do is to pay the money, so that the other party does not have any unrealistic expectations, and you do not have to feel indebted to the other party, and you need to pay back with some kind of commitment.
Sisters, we can really use the bill as a test of the degree of love of the man standard?
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