The movie "The Hurt Locker 2" starring Andy Lau and Niki Ngai
Niki has been in the limelight for a while.
A reporter asked her if she has noticed that more and more people are "craving" your body.
Ni Ni laughed and replied: "Greedy, you can't get me anyway."
An ancient poem says: "My fair lady, the gentleman is good at martyring.
A beautiful woman always attracts people to stop by. Especially men, they naturally like to chase and conquer, and the beauty of rivers and mountains is the favorite of their life.
It's just that men like to gallop around the world constantly conquering, and the only time he'll stay for a woman is when he's really in love with someone, or when he's tired.
On many occasions, men just "crave" your body, just to fulfill the desire to conquer.
But for a woman, what she wants is a lifetime, a lifetime of beautiful love.
So, in the relationship, the woman must have a clear cognition, to be a woman as Ni Ni said, let people covet, but can not get.
Take your goodness and leave it to those who truly love you.
Actually, love is the details, and so is not love.
A man, he is "greedy" your body, or really love you, will also be reflected in the details. Usually, there will be the following three different manifestations.
First: the different time cost investment
Writer Duras said: "a person loves you, his eyes will have pain, if not love, only desire."
A man who "craves" your body is very purposeful. For him, you are just a goal, and he doesn't want to invest too much time cost in a goal.
He just wants to reach his goal quickly and then turn away.
Usually, a man who "craves" your body has an upper limit on the cost of his time, which is about one month. The most important thing to remember is that you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to get the best out of your life.
The man who really loves you is different, he will not be too much time cost. Relatively speaking, he will be more patient to cultivate feelings in the relationship.
He will give each other enough time to deepen the understanding, such as personality, outlook, family of origin, etc.
This is the first time in the history of the world that we have seen a lot of people who have been in the same boat.
Second: the difference in emotional costs
In the reality show "The Heartwarming Offer", He Gui once said:
"There is no such thing as a person who is a perfect match for you in the world, but if there is, then it's a PUA, and if you suddenly come across someone who is a perfect match for you, you must be careful that there's no such thing as a PUA.
He must be approaching you with a purpose, don't believe in fairy tales so much."
There is a harsh truth in romantic relationships, what you think is a soul fit is often because the other person's emotional intelligence and experience is a level above yours.
He may be "greedy" for your body, or he may be downwardly compatible with you for other purposes.
Like the "Sea King" Liang Zhengxian in "Just Thirty," he crushed Wang Manni on all fronts, regardless of his emotional intelligence or experience. He was able to easily get to Wang Manni.
In real life, most of the men who are "greedy" for your body, although he does not have Liang Zhengxian's IQ and experience, but he is very tolerant of you in order to achieve his goal.
He will increase the emotional cost of your investment, you are very tolerant, no matter how unreasonable you are, how to "make", he will be with you, with you crazy with you crazy.
Even if you do things that will affect your body, work, will hurt you in the long run, he does not care, he is only responsible for coaxing you to be happy now, and then take advantage of the situation.
Anyway, he won't marry you and go home, your future, he doesn't care.
The person who truly loves you, behaves completely differently, because he wants to develop with you in the long run, he will show a man's sense of responsibility, and will involuntarily restrain you.
He will let you do not drink, do not stay up late, do not overeat, do not have no planning to spend money ......
Third: the social cost of the different inputs
A man is a "greedy" your body, or truly Love you, there is a performance is very telling. That is whether he is willing to let his social relations, know your existence.
If a man is just "greedy" for your body and has no intention to develop with you in the long run, he will try not to let you appear in his social circle.
This will reduce the social cost of abandoning you later.
The man who truly loves you is different. Because for most men, his "sovereignty consciousness" is very strong, when he and you together, he will be eager to go around to declare "sovereignty".
In his eyes, you are his honor and pride, he will take you to see his colleagues, friends; he will take you to see his classmates, hair small; will take you to see his parents and relatives ......
He will take you to see the people, the closer the relationship with him, the more he wants to develop long-term with you.
Gong Yuan Qian wrote in "Cicada Girl":
"Love is something that is as thin as a cicada's wing, and the square is born and dies. You think love is coming, but it's just passing by to borrow a fire from you. Too many people are blinded by the sparks of passion and lose their footing into the corpse-strewn river of love."
In life, it's easy to fall in love with someone, but it's hard to love the right person.
Particularly the natural sensibility of the woman, it is easy to "love brain", so that they are caught in the man's false love lies, all over the body.
In fact, the man is "greedy" your body, or truly love you, are hidden in the details. The above three different manifestations, enough for you to see his true colors.
So, how can a woman in a weaker gender try to keep herself from being hurt when she loves the wrong person?
I think it's like what Ni Ni said, to be a woman who is coveted but unavailable.
As Yishu said in "Xibao":
"Be a woman to be like a painting, do not be a piece of clothing, by the man tried and tried again, but no one to buy it, try crippled old, 50% discount dumping and still have difficulties."
A woman should do a beautiful painting, can be viewed from afar but not profane play. Let a man covet your beauty, but not easily give him the opportunity to hurt you.
If you don't know how to love yourself and protect yourself, you will become the clothes that are tried and tested, let yourself get hurt and fall in the end.
Love and unlove are hidden in the details.
May every woman have a pair of eyes that can find love and keep it in the minutiae of life.