About parents not having a life of their own, there are certainly many effects on children. Take myself as an example, my mom and dad are from a typical rural family and my parents rarely have any recreational activities of their own. In fact, I think there are two reasons why they don't have their own activities. First of all, it's probably because they grew up in the countryside, so they've seen less and, well, they don't have much of their own life.
Secondly, it's probably because they. Secondly, it may be because the family conditions, the situation is also relatively poor, so there is not too much financial ability to have their own other recreational activities ah, or want to think of parents in the city can go to dance ah, or go to the supermarket so, so their life will be relatively single. This will produce a disadvantage. When their parents, feel that they can be no other life, this time he will constrain you more think you should not always go out to run ah, or always go out and classmates party ah!
This kind of thinking. The people who are affected, not only themselves, will also affect the child's mind. So it's like a kind of feudalism. He is not only confined to his own will also affect all the people around, so when a parent if she did not have their own independent life, entertainment, this time on their children's influence is extremely bad. When I was a child, because my mom and dad would often ask me not to go out with my classmates, and if I did, I would be taught to be bad, and so on and so forth. They worry, they always worry, such as too much entertainment will bring us bad children never think of children also need a certain amount of recreational activities to be able to increase his eyesight.
This way, the child will be easy to form a kind of autism a kind of psychology, right. I was afraid to get in touch with other people when I was a kid, even my relatives were less likely to get in touch with me. When the family came to people are not willing to go and others to take the initiative to greet, always feel very shy, the heart will also have a little fear. Later gradually grew up, I realized that this kind of psychology, is an unhealthy heart, but also not conducive to future interpersonal communication, so I am slowly changing. Perhaps this is the parents do not have their own life, to bring the worst influence on the child. Perhaps this is the parents do not have their own life, to bring the worst influence on the child.
So, in the future, no matter how old we are? We all need to have our own lives so that we don't interfere with our children's lives. As the saying goes, if you want your next generation to live as what they are, then you have to be what they are, and this is the best way to teach your children by example.