Is that her? Girl of my dreams .....

Do you believe that? After eight years of marriage, I often dream about a girl who was a child (of course, she is also a mother now). We still meet sometimes, but only once or twice a year. Every time I see her, I am always excited (not necessarily on my face), but I know very well that we can't have any results in reality. If I do it again, I would still like to marry my present wife.

Do not talk about me. But in the same way, what you are talking about is a typical unrequited love, which basically everyone of us will experience. If you really want to sum up this situation as "love", at best, it is an initial state. But unrequited love is really beautiful and worrying. There will be four situations when this situation develops. One is to pursue her (I don't mean puppy love) with a perfect ending; Second, the pursuit of failure may be very painful and may be relieved after hard work; Third, both of them secretly love each other, but for various reasons, they don't pursue it and regret it all their lives. Fourth, whether both sides have a crush on each other, but they are not together. Later, they found true love and only put the girl in a small corner. After a long time, it is not immoral to pick it up occasionally, as long as the mentality is right.

I'm a little wordy, but I understand how you feel. When there is no better girl to replace her, the girl you secretly love is of course all you yearn for. If the reality permits, you can try to pursue it, first put aside the secular vision and work hard. If she still refuses or even hates your practice after several attempts, wave your hand and give up. No regrets. After all, we really pursued it. Think of this as an experience, and after many years, it will always appear in my heart, laughing or sighing, and nothing will change.