With the growth of age, the view of the world will be transformed, before I do not understand some of the things, and then slowly think open, many obsessions, slowly put down, we live more and more indifference, but also more and more awake. There are some truths in life that can only be fully understood after reaching a certain stage. Every age, there is every age of life, teenagers have no way to accept the quiet life, middle-aged and older, will find that the original can be away from the noise is a kind of happiness.
Young people do not have to live a depressed life, to be able to be free and unbridled how cool how to live, do not have to care about other people's eyes. Middle-aged period, you need to collect the light, more for the sake of others, not be able to completely live in their own world, do not care about the feelings of others. When you are in your twenties, you like to have a good time, and you are proud to have a wide range of friends, and you can't stand being alone, you can't accept living alone, and you will prepare a group of people to get together when you have time, and you will laugh and joke around, and you will love to go to your friend's house and visit them all over the place.
Middle-aged people have a different outlook on choosing teachers, and they have different ideas about how to get along with people. I've seen through the reality of human nature, and I'm not going to linger on the surface anymore, but I'm gradually realizing that I'm living my own life. By the middle age stage, more and more people have begun to reject the meaningless socialization, compromise in their own heart, will no longer care about other people's eyes, not afraid of them to feel their own personality withdrawn, but to be able to live according to their own preferences. People to middle age, nothing less string door, this is not indifference, but sober.
01 Strings, for others is a kind of disturbanceSome people always like to be very lively, especially like strings, love to deal with people, to be passionate is a good thing, but not because of your passion for others to cause trouble. You want to go to someone else's home prosperity, based on the other side is also a humble and polite people, this kind of 2 good people can be considered a real performance, there are some people love to beckon the side of the people at home inside the dinner, but some people are very resistant, just want to live their own lives in peace and quiet.
Generally speaking, home is a more private place, we will not easily call others to the door, unless the relationship is particularly close to the people, only willing to show the most private side in front of the eyes of the other party, the relationship between the general people, prefer to go outside the party, but also not willing to bring to the home. And most of the situation, we are living with the family, not a person to settle, even if the other party does not care, but also inevitably the family will care, you come to the door, other people over the direct refusal, but the heart of the heart is inevitably true expression of a warm welcome.
There is a next door neighbor is very like to other people's homes, he is very passionate and very easy to mingle with people, whether it is with the square dance dancers, or together with the chess fans, always like to other people's homes after the end of the string of doors, initially, the group is reluctant to reject will respond to come out, after a long time after the group is quite a word, more than resistance to her.
With people, the main thing is to maintain a sense of boundaries, in fact, many relationships are in a particular condition produced by the involvement, once the natural environment of that one subsides, the love affair will also be eliminated. We can square dance together, we can play chess together, but it's very simple, and it doesn't lead to deeper bonds. Offering to go to someone's house to visit is in itself an intrusion.
02They can be easily provoked to compare and show offSome people live in the same residential area, work in the same unit, can chat and joke together, can party together, and get along with each other very well, and there will not be a big problem in the weekdays. The same are eating meals in the cafeteria, in the same supermarket, daily life will not show a particularly big difference. And some people will be more low-profile in the weekdays, will not easily expose the capital. Therefore, we are in the *** among the place, there will not be too big scruples, there will not be an imbalance in the heart of the feeling.
Home, however, is the area where you can show off your wealth, and it is also the place where you are most likely to grow up and show off. Some people you don't see dress is very low-key, only to go to the home, only to be able to feel the difference between people and people really big.
The two of them, Feng Xiaoqin and Xiao Fu, had a brief encounter, and on the surface, Xiao Fu was very simple, not a rich man, not outstanding in dress, and drove a car is quite general, but until he went to his new house after visiting the inspection, he marveled at it.
She saw for the first time that the original home can have a domestic elevator, can have a huge ceiling light, can have a swimming pool, people are more than people, many times we are curled up in a small space, do not know how big the world is. But in fact a mountain is more than a mountain river, there are always some people richer than you, there are always some people living a hundred times better than you.
Some people still live in crowded alleys, some people have been living in a three-bedroom, some people in the suburbs to buy a house, some people can have a number of sets of real estate in the city, to go to other people's homes, very easy for you to produce an inferiority complex, caused by the impulse to compare and show off.
03 Strings, more of a meaningless consumptionI remember once watching a variety show, a number of celebrity friends with the party activities, some people play Ji, some people talk about the electronic piano, some people sing, together to explore the songs, listen to music, its happy interface. At the moment, some people around you say you see how elegant people's party activities, you look at our party activities, and either playing cards or drinking, or chatting about gossip.
Some of the time the so-called party activities is nothing more than a group of people get together to drink and eat melon chat some of the people around the gossip, all of the party activities out of nothing nutritious, worthless. A few people to go to a good friend's home, buy a bunch of things, together with leisure and entertainment, and ultimately left behind only the scattered garbage, both to others to bring inconvenience, but also did not bring their own substantial use of the value of remembering the whole party activities, only noise, did not leave any ripples to the heart.
People to middle age, more and more feel that time is precious, there are too many things to do, there is really no need to waste time on some meaningless socializing, than to go to a friend's house strings, and some people bullshit, not as long as the time spent on the family's watch, accompanying the child traveling, accompanying the parents to chat, this more meaningful.
04 people to the middle age, the real sober people have begun to enjoy the solitudepeople to the middle age, do not easily strings, this is not indifference, but sober. Young pursuit of perfect prosperity, love to meet a variety of good friends, that there are people can go a lifetime, after the invisible in the middle of some people go away, scattered, stay around the people more and more low.
People to the middle age, has long seen through some shallow social, will no longer be able to waste time in some meaningless thematic activities, and will not waste feelings in the body of some worthless people. Than and a group of people to talk, than not to be alone, quietly superb self, to beat their own. Than to go to other people's homes, will prefer to leave a little private space for their own, the energy spent on the family to build out on.
Knowing the boundaries and limits of interaction between people, understanding the sense of boundary, will not easily disturb others, and figure out the good relationship should be spaced, no need to contact at all times, in their own runway secretly strive to meet at the summit. Than to maintain some polite false relationship, will prefer to quietly point out their own, live their own comfortable life.