I'm 50 years old, no children, no relationship with my remarried husband, is it that there was no relationship later, or that there was no relationship between the two of them when they remarried? Are you in the city or in the country? Do you have a pension? Does your remarried husband have children?
You have a husband and yet you feel lonely. Psychologically speaking, loneliness is a feeling and experience of subjective isolation and alienation from others.
A person may still feel lonely in a living environment where everyone is involved. Loneliness is a negative emotional experience that does not make people feel happy, and in a lonely state of mind, people will feel depressed, lonely, empty, anxious, helpless, indifferent or even desperate, and accompanied by a lingering sense of spiritual loss.
Psychologist Fromm believes that people may be able to endure various kinds of pain such as hunger or oppression, but it is very difficult to endure one of the most painful of all pains, which is total loneliness.
While mild, short-lived loneliness does not lead to psychological and behavioral disorders, long-term loneliness can lead to certain emotional disorders, lowering the level of mental health, and even causing certain mental illnesses.
One, you feel lonely, and remarried husband has no feelings, including 2 aspects:
1. husband and wife life is not harmonious
Husband and wife life is the communication between the two people feelings, the most simple, the most direct method, harmonious husband and wife life let each other body and mind to have a pleasurable feeling, husband and wife will naturally be very harmonious feelings.
If there is no harmony in the couple's life, the couple's relationship will definitely be affected.
2. Can't communicate happily
No *** with the same language, *** with the same hobbies, can not say much, just some daily language, other aspects of the basically nothing to say, coupled with the fact that you do not have their own children, there is no fun, no expectations, no expectations, in this case, there is no breath of life in the home, naturally, you will feel lonely and isolated.
2. How to change this situation?
1. If your remarried husband has children, you have to strengthen contact with them more, tell them to bring their children back often, more people at home naturally will not have a lonely feeling.
2. If your remarried husband doesn't have children either, and it's just the two of you, you need to find something to do and have fun.
There are a lot of things that can make you happy, such as: going to see the volcano video, jitterbug video, Tencent video, TV series, fast hand video, etc., these can bring you happiness, so you feel that time passes quickly.
3. You can also do some small business, such as: selling melon seeds, peanuts, etc., their cost is not high, do not expect to earn much money, just to pass the time, can earn their own living expenses is also a great pleasure.
4. If you have a pension, and remarried husband really can not go on, go to the nursing home is also a very good choice, there are a lot of old people can talk, play cards, every day time is very fast, are very happy.
5. You're not too old to find something to do if you live in the city. There are several people in our neighborhood who are about your age working as housekeepers, and they are busy every day with their income, and they have a full life and don't feel lonely at all.
Three, older, should be accompanied by someone, someone and no one accompanied by the results and feelings are very different, if you remarried husband is a decent person, there are no bad habits, you live with him, each other as a companion, the two people's lives with a person's life compared to a sense of security will be more secure.
Some things are destined to be unchangeable, in that case, you have to choose to accept it and find a way to solve it. Your loneliness comes from emptiness and having nothing to do, and as long as you find something suitable for you, this feeling will surely disappear gradually.