But for us widowed or divorced old people, they will not adopt the above method when they are looking for a partner again for various reasons, but will only adopt this way of living together without getting married.
Perhaps most of us old people think that we are all old people, and there is no ambiguity or love between two people. Why do two people have to get a marriage certificate to get married? Isn't it unnecessary to do so?
Therefore, our old people's idea seems reasonable and feasible, but in real life, is it really feasible for the old people to live together without a marriage certificate? Let's listen to the true stories and experiences of these three old people.
Old people remarry, can they just live together and not get married? Three old people in their sixties told their experiences.
1.60-year-old Uncle Zhao: It is basically feasible to live together without marriage. Anyway, my experience speaks for itself.
My new wife is three years older than me. I discussed it with her when we were together. That is to say, we just live together without any marriage certificate, so as to avoid adding some unnecessary contradictions and misunderstandings to our children and family. She also agreed at that time.
I live with my new wife, and all the expenses at home are shared equally. Nobody took any of them. Even if someone is sick, they pay for medicine themselves. When we are together, we just support each other and help each other. I think it's good. At least, we don't have to be suspicious of each other.
We were together for five years, and then she became seriously ill, especially serious. Her son came to pick her up and took all her things. It can be said that there is no longer any relationship between us.
Maybe some people think my behavior is a little cruel, but I don't think so. After all, we are all at this age, and two people together just live together, that's all. Besides, when people are old, anything can happen, so "living together without getting married" seems heartless, but I think it is actually the best "protection" for both sides, so I recognize this practice.
Grandma Wang, 60: It's no good just living together without getting married, at least I think so.
My husband and I divorced 0/0 years ago. Later, I found myself a wife. My new wife is the same age as me, but she is a widow. When we were ready to move in together, I insisted on getting a marriage certificate from him. Although he and the children are not very willing, they still applied for a marriage certificate with me. It turned out that my approach was very wise.
After all, the new wife is a man. He can't wash clothes, cook, do housework and so on. I did all these things, and he was responsible for all the expenses in the natural family. Originally, his bank card, medical insurance card and so on were with the child, but later I returned them in the name of his wife.
We can make our own decisions about what the old couple usually do, and we don't need to discuss with them at all. After all, we are legally married, and our marriage is decided by ourselves, and others have no right to make irresponsible remarks.
Some people may think that my approach is a bit too "gain". Actually, I don't think so. I think old people still have to get a marriage certificate to live together. As the saying goes, "the name is not right" is actually what it means, which is a guarantee and constraint for both sides.
Imagine if two people don't get a marriage certificate and there are disputes and problems in marriage. So I think it is very necessary to apply for a marriage certificate.
3. Grandpa Sun, 60 years old: You can't just live together without getting married. I suffered greatly from it.
My wife and I divorced last year. It wasn't long before I met a woman who danced square dance with us. We both liked each other, and then we moved in together. I wanted to get a marriage certificate at that time. She said it was too much trouble. I think so, and it turns out that my approach is very wrong.
In those years when I lived together, all the expenses at home were my pension and savings. She has no money, and I don't care. After all, when we live together, how can we calculate it so clearly?
But then there were her children who came to our house for dinner from time to time and took some with them when they left. In addition, her children are always looking for us in borrow money to spend, but they always just borrow and don't pay back. Over the years with his new wife, more than 300,000 people don't know where they spent it.
Later, I didn't know what to do, so I let her go, but we spent so much money together, which became a confused account. I can only say that the dumb can't say that eating Rhizoma Coptidis is bitter. If I had got a marriage certificate, it might not be the situation today, so I would never agree to the practice of "living together without getting married". I think the elderly should be responsible not only for others, but also for themselves.
Although the answers given by the above three elderly people are different, I think the elderly must apply for a marriage certificate when they remarry. This is beyond doubt and can't be discussed. This is the general direction and cannot be changed.
Only in this process, we can adopt the method of "trial marriage", that is, the two sides agree on a time limit. If two people are very happy together, they can get married completely. If not, they can leave quickly without delay, which is "good for both sides".
Marriage is essentially an ethical relationship. Marriage is an ethical love with legal significance. -Hegel
So: "Is it okay for the elderly to remarry and not get married but just live together?" We can't be realistic, so for the sake of our elderly people's vital interests and happy old age, we still have to adopt the correct way of getting married: "Since we are remarried, we must register to get married." Do you think this is true?