The essence of love is the beautiful feelings between men and women based on sexual desire. If a pair of men and women with normal orientation have a good impression on each other, it means that there is love between them.
Love has two characteristics:
First, it won't be a strict one-on-one relationship, because you can't just have a crush on one opposite sex. One-on-one is a requirement for marriage, aiming at maintaining the stability of social order;
Second, it will change with sexual desire. Sexual desire is characterized by the first fire, and death for love usually occurs in this period. But with the passage of time and the increase of familiarity, sexual desire will gradually fade, which is the so-called seven-year itch.
So what is marriage? The essence of marriage is a contract for men and women to cooperate in raising children. One of the prerequisites is that both sides need children, but the man can't have them, and the woman can't afford them herself, so she can only cooperate.
Therefore, marriage must have the following characteristics:
First, the foundation of cooperation is to raise children, so there must be an economic foundation to maintain life;
Second, the characteristic of cooperative relationship is that only mutual benefit can be established. Mutual benefit means that both parties know what they want from cooperation (marriage), can give each other what they want, get what they want, and there is no more satisfactory marriage candidate;
Third, when the marriage is seriously unbalanced, which shows that at least one party can't meet the major needs of the other party, the marriage will disintegrate or exist in name only.
Make the above concepts clear, and you will know that if two people lack a correct understanding of love and marriage, they will confuse the two, and it is possible to double suicide at the stage of strong feelings. But if not dead, then the following problems may occur:
First, I think love can solve all practical problems, commonly known as "love is water". However, when we really face the dilemma of lack of money and inability to solve it, it will inevitably lead to a crisis;
Second, if two people lack effective communication methods, one party has serious dissatisfaction and the other party doesn't know it, and contradictions will inevitably break out over time;
Third, if two people are in the seven-year itch stage, one or both of them meet other opposite sex who have a good impression on each other, and the result is mental or physical derailment. And the expectation of love must include this one: "The other half can keep his life as jade." Cheating means the myth of love is shattered. There is also a logic below: "Marriage without love is unacceptable". When love is shattered, marriage comes to an end.