Recently, I read an article titled "I don't deserve to pursue poetry and faraway places because my parents are still living in the same place?", in which a large part of the article elaborated on the idea that we should pursue poetry and faraway places whether our parents are living in the same place or not. To be honest, I have read this article no less than three times, the more I read, the more I feel wrong, the more I feel the need to comment. The author's explanation of the word "metamorphosis", his understanding of guilt and humility, and the investment opportunities he missed because he regretted not asking for his parents' money.
After reading the author's article, I can't agree with him. Because, I still know, how did I get my life and who gave me my life. At the same time, I have not more dare not forget, who gave me a chance to learn, who gave me a growing environment, and who let me be able to realize their own ideals without fear, including the pursuit of poetry and faraway places.
Everyone has the right to pursue their own happy life, and parents are no exception. However, if you look around the world, how many parents would give up their children's dreams for the sake of their own happiness? Look at China, how many parents are no longer working all the time for the happiness of their children, these labor has nothing to do with their position or have the money and power. You can't say that so-and-so's father is a real estate tycoon, so he doesn't worry at all about his children's academic performance and growth. On the contrary, the more powerful and capable parents are, the more they worry that their children will lose at the starting line. They will do their best to sacrifice their own happiness for their children's future. The way in which ordinary parents treat their children is no different.
It's funny that the teacher's impassioned chicken blood in the author's classroom not only didn't have an uplifting effect, but the author was skeptical and even misunderstood because of a few students' whispers that "parents are still alive", because of one of the teacher's words in the chicken blood: "In order to let her sleep soundly, I'm not going to let her sleep soundly. The first thing I did was to get a good night's sleep, so I huddled like a dog in the hotel hallway and rushed out when I heard a noise from one of the rooms.
I think, the teacher's words are not wrong at all, parents for their children, not to mention as a cow, that is, they have to give their lives can be. When you are sick, they urge the doctor to use the best medicine over and over again, and when you go to school, they run around in various schools begging the principal to keep a seat for you, so the parents of the life is meticulous, is humble, and their state of life is largely subject to the constraints of the children's happiness. They prefer to live proudly and happily, without having to haggle with food vendors for a few dollars, or never enter a movie theater in order to save money. They have given up too much for their children, and as children we have no right to deprive our parents of their happiness. Therefore, the author's eyes of the parents jumping square dance, with a group of big moms grab red envelopes when the joy is temporary, is the appearance, they do not want to be out of touch with society, they do not want to because of their own health problems to their children to bring the worry, if you see the parents jumping square dance, mahjong, grab red envelopes think they are not in the meticulous words, then you are very wrong, because, know the son is not like the father, the reason why they do this. On the one hand, they may also want to relax and relax, adjust the state of the self, on the other hand, and most importantly, they do not want to let their children because they see their own state of life and affect the mood affect the future. Therefore, they are the humble ones of their children.
As children, we should have a sense of guilt towards their parents, of course, you can not take your parents' hard-earned money in the KTV singing songs of filial piety to their parents, of course, you can not be nutritious meals without regard to their parents, of course, you can not often go in and out of the theater and forget about your parents that old DVD player. Because, everything you have is closely related to your parents, without them, you don't even have the opportunity to come to the world, but also talk about what poetry and faraway places? Guilt will let us know what things to do, what things should not do, have a sense of guilt, will let us have a life more cherish, have a sense of guilt will let us think of going to thank parents.
So, that said, as children, we should be sympathetic to our parents' difficulties, and should spend more time with them, rather than feeling that taking their parents' money is what they should do, and that it is right for them to pay for our schooling and marriage. No one is born owing anyone. In foreign countries, many parents will educate their children in this way: Children, you are now eating, wearing and using are spent on parents' money, and parents' money is also through their own labor in exchange. So, you should also go through your own labor to get wealth and realize your self-worth when you are an adult.
Chinese parents are not like that, they always work hard for their children's schooling, marriage, and even future life without any request, willingly, and without thinking about anything. But today's materialistic and fast-developing society has given many new-age youths different values and worldviews. Some of them may think that it is right for their parents to buy a house for them, it is right for their parents to pay for their schooling, and it is right for their parents to save money for their living expenses. In fact, we are too selfish, selfishly thought that the parents themselves willing to do so, we did not force, selfishly thought they live very well, and is not meticulous, selfishly put their so-called poetry and far away over the parents of the happiness.
So of course you have to feel guilty, a sense of guilt towards your parents. Only then will you be able to make the right and more rational choices in some things, instead of eating whatever you want and playing whatever you want. But where there is a little conscience of the children of China will first of all "filial piety" word in mind, the so-called hundred good filial piety first, filial piety to parents is the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, is the generation after generation of the children of the Yellow Emperor inherited the character, we must not allow and should not do things that are shameful to their parents, and moreover, they should not pursue their own heart that ambitious goal and the parents sleep at night behind their back. Let parents behind the back of sleepless nights, you are poetry and far away, parents?