Young people are not recommended to live with their parents after marriage. We can choose to live closer to our parents, so that it is convenient for us to take care of, but if we live together all the time, it is very easy to cause family conflicts, think about it, some of the loss is not worth it, so it is better to live separately.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations in China is a problem for the ages, can not say who is right and who is wrong, this is mainly to look at the problem from a different perspective and different concepts of the conflict caused by no matter how the family, there are always all sorts of kinks between the wife and the mother, and the proportion is even more than 90%, the two sides do not live together okay, if they live together, the conflict will be difficult to avoid. Here is not to disparage women, but it is true that some times women deal with the problem of thinking and men are different, the relationship between women and women has always been more complex, rising to the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is a mess, cut and cut and cut.
Nowadays, many children are only children, at home by the parents of the favor, so in the habits of life has a lot of unique personality, the general parents have a characteristic, their own children how to do it, but other people's children can not. After the young people get married, there will be conflicts between the wife and the mother-in-law because of such a conflict of ideas. Because in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is still someone else's child, so she is also more strict in her demands. And in the eyes of the wife also did not really treat the mother-in-law as her own person, people do not not recognize, in fact, many people are such ideas. And before the young people get married, the mother-in-law and his wife do not get along with a lot of opportunities, for each other's habits and lack of understanding, after marriage, if living together, a lot of problems will gradually appear in life, and ultimately evolved into conflict.
For men, caught between their wives and mothers, it's really hard to balance the two. Whether male or female, when you live at home after adulthood, for their parents a lot of accusations will choose to compromise, as far as possible not to conflict with their parents. But after getting married, it is difficult for them to compromise on both sides in the beginning as the wife and the mother-in-law are not very close to each other. Sometimes men feel that this small matter as long as to endure a past, even if the door is closed to yell at his wife to clean up their own good, but in front of their parents or hope that his wife can be more tolerant, after all, the old man his way of dealing with things will be more rigid, and many times more like a small child, want to let the old man take the initiative to bow to not only the difficulty of the larger, but also psychologically is not very easy to accept. But in the heart of the wife is not willing to willingly give in, but feel that their husbands do not help themselves, but on the one hand, mom, on the other hand, wife, help who will hurt the other side. So the way I look at the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is that the young give in to the old, and not get overly hung up on what's right or wrong.
Many people usually work outside, seldom go home, vacation at home, the first few days the mother will think you come back to stay with her really good, the next few days will think you at home nothing to do, all day laziness, most likely waste, this emotion in their own children will show so obvious, for daughter-in-law certainly will not let go.
So two people do not choose to live with their parents after marriage, but to do often go home to see, so that get along with a short period of time, there will not be too much conflict, and family relations will become more harmonious, which is also a good choice. If you have to live with your parents, then you must do a good job of communicating in advance, do not think of the three parties together to solve things, but the man in the middle of the two ends of the regulation, as far as possible to ensure that the relationship is harmonious.
Modern life, everyone's independence is relatively strong, do not like to be subject to the constraints of others, and Chinese parents are more like to discipline their children, this is the concept of the difference between the traditional Chinese culture and the modern culture of the conflict, since this conflict is unavoidable, we have to find the best possible way to try to solve the problem, which is sweet and sour only to feel it.