Take more deep breathsIf you feel shy and fearful in a crowded situation, take a few deep breaths right away, take your mind off yourself, and listen to what others are saying. Keep in mind that others are just as concerned as you are about the impression you leave on those around you, and that everyone has varying degrees of shyness. In fact, it's safe to say that no one has ever completely overcome shyness. But most people learn how to live with it. Opening up to others is not easy, and even people like politicians and famous actors who spend most of their time in plain sight admit that shyness often occurs when they face the public, and that they struggle with it every day. Working hard to overcome and control shyness brings many benefits, not the least of which is providing others with an opportunity to get to know you better and care about you.
Undoubtedly, in the early stages of overcoming shyness, it will make the shy person unnatural, and even difficult to feel, but once successfully overcome shyness, it will be in the and other people to interact, or personal prospects on the road to pave the way. In fact, overcoming shyness is not difficult, and human beings are the most advanced and intelligent creatures on earth.
1. Put your inner activities in writing and find out what really scares you.
2. Write a script, visualize yourself as a generous and composed character in a play, and train beforehand.
3. Do some social reconnaissance before you socialize, or find a few friends with similar interests to talk to.
4, pay attention to their own body language reveals the message, try to make you appear warm and generous, easy to approach.
5, open your heart, say your hidden worries, your psychological concerns will certainly reduce a lot.
6. Imagine the worst, and you'll realize that things aren't as bad as you thought.
7. Build up your confidence step by step.
Shympathy is generally caused by two circumstances, one is to underestimate their own ability, or too high expectations of themselves; the second is too much consideration of their own will leave an impression on others, worrying that it will be looked down upon by others, this kind of suffering from the mood, will lead to shyness of mind. If the shyness is caused by our lack of confidence in ourselves, then we should focus on developing our self-confidence. For example, to participate in a wilderness survival training, or in the guidance of others to help complete a thing that has not even thought of the past, and gradually reach the level of can be completed by themselves, etc., these can help us build self-confidence, get rid of the slack mentality. There is an example of a child who has always been weak and sickly, consulting a psychiatrist whether he can participate in high-intensity cross-country running races, the doctor encouraged him to participate, and told him that this is a good opportunity to exercise his will. If you can hold on and run to the finish line, then you will have accomplished a leap in your will and physical ability, and you will be able to do anything in the future. In this race, he really insisted on running the whole course and unexpectedly achieved very good results, and since then he has built up strong self-confidence, and has overcome many difficulties in his study and life that he could not overcome before. Frailty has not let him produce any inferiority complex, in front of the crowd he will not become shy, timid, to do anything with great courage and confidence. Of course, you bravely take a step
not all people will give you encouragement, and after you try, there may be a failure, but if you have not tried, you will never be able to overcome the shyness of the mind, and will never have a chance with success. Once you are able to overcome this shyness, your life will become more dashing and confident and sunny.
Standing in front of the mirror every day, said loudly to the mirror, I do, I must do, this method than you go to the doctor useful, the United States has a president's wife, in the help of her husband's speech to pull the vote on the very nervous, often forget the words, and then he succeeded in the aftermath of this event, it is to use this method, and now she has become an orator, the method is that you must adhere to, can not be halfway, and slowly will be! The method is that you must adhere to, not halfway through the fee, slowly will find self-confidence, very useful,
More to participate in the speech, see more on the habit, more to meet the big scene, I used to be the same as you. I used to be just like you. I became generous and outgoing because of my teacher's "abuse".
Try to do it!
Be confident.... Do something like this first.
Wake up every day and smile in the mirror. Tell yourself that you can do it...
Stay with it. It will work.
And then make more cheerful, lively and generous friends.
With them, you will also be able to catch their character`
I am not confident and I don't have enough grace in my speech
What can I do to become a good talker and look generous in my appearance?
Take your time, set some lower goals for yourself, accomplish them one by one, strengthen your faith, and give yourself more security step by step
I have found some reasons why I am not confident enough, such as my skin is not so good, I am a little bit fat, I am not educated enough, and what else? Then change yourself in those areas Make yourself confident, increase what you can and decrease what you can. Change is the first step to increase self-confidence. Confidence is a subjective feeling, no one can face their own shortcomings, and still have pride in the performance. In contrast, self-confident people have two characteristics: First, everyone is not perfect, self-confident people more attention to the advantages and strengths, and constantly strengthen these characteristics; Second, in the face of shortcomings, they have a more effective self-worth than those with low self-esteem protection measures. Second, they have more effective self-worth protection measures than people with low self-esteem in the face of shortcomings. For example, if you lose in table tennis, the low self-esteem person will think I am so stupid, and as others. Confident person: nothing, he is just lucky, if you play basketball, he will not be my opponent. People with low self-esteem are not really inferior to others, but they think they are inferior to others. The reason why they have such a realization is that they focus too much on their own shortcomings and compare their shortcomings with the strengths of others. Confident people are the opposite. So, low self-esteem and self-confidence, in fact, in essence, just due to different ways of thinking, caused by the subjective feeling of the difference. As long as you change your way of thinking, you can become a confident person with low self-esteem.
Being generous means you know you have nothing to fear. It doesn't matter to those people whether they understand you or not, whether they give you favorable comments or not, you are honest and serious about being yourself and sticking to what you think is right. So, if you need to communicate, you will speak and speak positively, even in a crowded place, you are calm.
And you are fat or not fat, learning and what not. You do not harm people, do things out of goodwill to speak, for why you need to express and show when, to be anxious about it. And there is no need for anything to be said to surprise and kill each other. You get involved, you have something to say, of course, do not say that kind of hurtful words, in fact, everyone has their own unique characteristics. You just need to participate in it, and experience the feeling of being with everyone, you will have a sense of self-existence. You don't have to think about it. The more you are involved with everyone, the better you will be able to express yourself. All will understand the uniqueness that is exclusively yours. When you have nothing, always keep smiling. When someone helps you, remember to let her feel your gratitude.
This is a very good question What you need to develop is control over your ego The control over your ego is getting higher and higher and your inferiority complex is getting lower and lower
Look more into the other person's eyes and talk, but of course don't look at them straight in the eye. When you truly realize that all things are equal, you will have a peaceful heart, and when you have a peaceful heart, you will be able to see the power within yourself. When you see the power within yourself, you will be able to live without humility, honor or disgrace, and not be happy with things or sad with yourself.
Everything on earth is created by nature, nature is equal to everything on earth, the so-called high and low is a person who fantasizes about binding their unlimited potential. Only by removing the shackles of one's own desires can one unleash one's own unlimited potential.
This is why Buddhism advocates that all people are equal, that everyone is a Buddha, but also says that the sky is the limit. Learn more, enrich yourself, there will be no time for nonsense. Confident women are the most beautiful. First of all, we must have self-confidence in ourselves, to have a good mind, happy mood, not panic in things. Do not squirm, do not act, and treat with ease. Secondly, they should be more forging
refinement, do not let their own behavior to imitate the brain imagine good to do. Learning to resolve worries, nervous heart, not because of the loss of a thing, and let himself in a bad mood, to learn to forget. Listen to more pleasant songs or watch funny movies.
Believe that one day you will make yourself generous and loved by everyone!
Get out of your parents' cage and experience life
First of all, be confident! Secondly, as much as possible, let yourself seize every opportunity to exercise. As small as a class meeting, to participate in some faculty activities, meetings and so on! Do not take too long, and after all, they are a student, learning must have the bottom of the word! This can increase their own self-confidence!
Don't miss every opportunity to exercise! I believe I can do it!
Good luck! College is really your own!
It's possible that it's hard to change for life, and it's said to have something to do with a person's physiology. Shy people stay shy for the rest of their lives. So don't assume that everyone becomes articulate and mouthy. Don't be afraid to let go and go your own way
Most importantly, believe in yourself
Exercise yourself more if you find an occasion. Try to get a part-time job in sales, it will be good for you this. The cause of shyness is not complicated, mainly because of less contact with the outside world during the teenage years and less social practice, so that the otherwise fragile nervous system does not get enough exercise and lack of control. In addition,
Girls have a greater need for security than boys, so they are a little more shy in front of others.
Shyness, in a way, is beautiful, like a freshly blooming moon, a waddling bird, natural and fresh, but shyness is not a big advantage after all. In public, you need to be generous, and you are afraid to move and dare not speak, it seems petty.
We can find some simple ways to overcome shyness.
1, relaxation training method
When your mind feels nervous, heartbeat too fast, you can change your sight, change your posture, say a few words like chilling, so you can overcome shyness.
2, cognitive balance method
Shyness is mostly caused by low self-esteem and other psychological imbalances. In the case of timidity caused by low self-esteem, you can carry out cognitive self-balancing from the inside, do not deny yourself completely; on the contrary, think about your own strengths,
Enhancement of their own. The lack of confidence and fear is due to the lack of inner abundance, which leads to the lack of confidence to do everything in the heart. The words and expressions of the natural momentum is not enough, not persuasive enough, not attractive enough.
A few suggestions: 1, to those around the generous, well-spoken colleagues and friends to learn, imitation and experience of their actions; 2, from their own usually more thought, more practice, try to communicate with others more communication, over time, will be able to do very well
Think of the people who make you feel disgusted, not the same as they do on the line
First to improve their own cultivation into you! From the heart of the spiritual needs, not anyone to force you to do so, not for promotion to make more money to do so, you want to become a better and better people, into a beneficial society, brighten the others, only then your cultivation can be from the inside out to become better.
No matter what industry you are in, try your best to excel in this industry, it will give you a lot of confidence and the process of hard work will make you become calm and composed.
Then pay more attention to every detail of your life, socialize more with educated people, observe how they do it in details, and then learn from them.
Keep a positive and sunny mindset, and don't let negative energy get to you. Stay confident, smile and be polite.
Participate in more useful social activities, communicate more, read more books and travel, broaden your horizons and see different places, people and cultures in this world.
Go out ~ go out ~ what you like, open up new circles, do not understand it's okay, can not insert the words it's okay, learn more, slowly can talk.
To try new beginnings ~
When you have a circle or two, put yourself optimistic, the first thing will be much more comfortable.
Confidence and falling is to be filled with real content, so read more books, more useful books, there are a lot of recommendations on the Internet, start with your favorite, do not keep reading unnutritious novels on the good. But there are still a lot of novels are also well written ~
Dressing with a simple and generous start, and then continue to try new collocation, learning ~
We usually pay attention to the hair, the face of a simple modification, shoes, usually these are very easy to be ordinary women ignore
slightly? Hair must not miscellaneous, head of the money do not save?
The most important thing is to start from the heart, from the new start, open their new world ~ do not head too much do not want things ~
Dare not go out, if you start from the book is also good ~
Recommended that you go to listen to the Chinese mooc university of etiquette courses. It's free and it's just in session. Etiquette and cultivation is the appearance, generous should be the subject of the desired state. From the subject's expression, the subject is very unconfident, the more upward the more unconfident. There is only one way to solve this problem, and that is to accept yourself, accept your imperfections, accept that you don't have a good family of origin, accept that you are afraid to do things, accept that you speak wrongly in public, and so on. Tell yourself that every mistake is a step forward, and compare yourself to the person you were yesterday and not to the people around you. Every person is not born with a great sense of humor, but has been trained to be able to speak well. It is not a problem to change in this direction if you have the perseverance to do so. Recently, I happen to be on the etiquette course, I hope to help the subject
1. Successful interaction generally from a good first impression, and the formation of the first impression often depends on the other side of the instrument image. Therefore, it is very important to create a good instrumental image. Here briefly mention two points
1) according to their own face and features to choose the appropriate hairstyle, dress generously, pay attention to age, shape, and occupational status, and the environment and occasion coordination.
②Appropriate make-up. Pay attention to the thickness of the makeup should be based on different times and occasions to choose. Secondly, it is important to note that the public should not make up, if you do need to make up, you should avoid the crowd, to the dressing room, restroom and other places.
2. Focus on grooming. Individual etiquette and cultivation is precisely through every move to show.
①Pay attention to the appearance of generosity, decency, natural, standing with the standing phase, sitting with the sitting phase, walking with the walking phase. To be straightforward but not reckless, lively but not frivolous, work nervous but not out of breath, rest relaxed but not lazy, and guests in contact with courteous but not arrogant and inferior.
Submitted items should also pay attention to give each other as much as possible to facilitate, for example, handing a knife to others, we must "give a person a handle", do not put the tip of the knife, the tip of the pen to others to hand over, tea, handing over books and documents, it is best to hand over both hands.
2 behavior to have the concept of distance.
Unless the special close, can not break into the 45 centimeters of the intimate boundary of the forbidden zone, the distance between the daily conversation between friends is best 75 centimeters or so.
③Picking up and dropping off business cards:
a. Delivery should be discreet. When handing over business cards, it is best to take a standing position, use the thumbs and forefingers of both hands to hold the two corners of the card, and the text of the card should be handed over to the other party. Never give it to someone with your index and middle fingers.
b. After reading the card, you should put the card away, and be careful not to put the card in a pocket below the waist.
3. The following are a few notes on language etiquette.
①In social occasions, especially in the first meeting, often have to say some compliments, self-effacing polite words, such as "I've heard a lot about you", "It's a pleasure to meet you", "I'm glad to see you! ", "Wicker" and so on, although some overstatement, but make each other feel comfortable, feel respected.
② elegant language, try to use honorifics, more consultative tone, less commanding tone and tone.
4 Learning Humor
5 Hanging up the phone should be noted: if the other party is the elders or leaders, customers, should let the other party hang up the phone first; if the other party is a peer, should be for the caller to hang up the phone first.
Wanting to improve their own personal grooming, it is recommended that the subject can have more contact with people around the temperament and image of a better person, and get the experience of practicing at home in front of the mirror. In short, adjust the mindset, gradually develop good habits, I believe the subject will become more and more good. (*) There is a book called Code of Social Etiquette, which is a very interesting novel. Do not be humble, do not say anything, do not be proud, do not be proud, do not be reserved. Naturally, you will be generous.
When I was a child, my family's living environment was not very good, and when I grew up and worked, I realized that I only knew basic manners, some basic etiquette, and that I was far from good at dealing with people, especially in the past few years when I jumped from one job to the next and came into contact with more and more upwardly mobile environments, and realized that I wasn't just bored with the work, and that I wouldn't talk, wouldn't say hello, and that I was just too bored! There is no self-confidence, do things too fearful, not at all generous, want to seek change, do not know how to do to modify
Personally, I feel that the rules of etiquette and cultivation of the familiar and not difficult to buy a few etiquette tutorials can be understood. The difficult thing is to be generous, which at least requires you to be confident, not too proud of the bottom of the air, which requires more reading, more thinking, never stick to a field, more art, science, literature and other areas of the classics, the second point is more to see the world, traveling, parties and so on are good, the wider the state of mind, the more generous the more appropriate and natural.
The first thing to do, smile, practice every movement of the body's smile in front of the mirror yourself, for example, you see a new person you want to know, how to behave, practicing in front of the mirror, feel satisfied with the recording, and then look at yourself
First of all, dress, do not buy the so-called Taobao pop-ups. You can not buy high-grade clothes, but certainly do not buy a look at the very low-grade clothes and shoes.
My approach is to specialize in foreign trade ready-to-wear stores to buy, the clothes are made of high quality materials and cost-effective, although it does not feel high-grade, but definitely does not look low-end. The idea is this, you can actually analyze according to the actual situation in your city.
Secondly, inculcate. Spend more time with ladies who know how to dress. Maybe their style doesn't suit you and their body is far from yours, but being around them regularly will be a drastic improvement for your taste, at least for me. Even if you read more magazines, it doesn't compare to being up close and personal with them.
As for your comment about being ungenerous, I guess it would be acceptance of yourself. First of all, accept your imperfections, accept yourself as you are, let go of your mind, don't always think of trying to show the best version of yourself, seek naturalness first, then elegance, one step at a time. You can read more books on behavioral psychology, and perhaps have a clearer understanding of your own mind. Have the heart to want to be better, and you'll get better and better.
By watching movies about femininity and forcing yourself to do nurturing things first, you will get to know nurturing people, make deep friendships, and improve yourself.
On the one hand, he forced himself, on the other hand is the inculcation of the people around him, after all, the circle is very important, boredom of their own brain scene to practice ← ← Do not be afraid to be treated as a psychopath, know you are accustomed to the people who do not know you will not remember you
Personal opinion,
One of the study, reading books and watching movies to see other people talk, no matter what you I think it's good to say beautiful words, and philosophical and meaningful and deep so that people read y convinced words are seriously stay
intentionally, necessary and even can make notes. The second is to think over and over again, they have where it is not good, where to improve, the same situation I will say how.
Third, self-reflection, why I just did not say good? Where did I miss the mark? What should I say next time? What words should never be said just now? Four is thick skin, I personally is actually very straight-talking, sometimes also in the chagrin of their own a sentence is not appropriate, but you have to firmly believe that there is no one will be idle enough to pull your mistakes all your life, so do not be afraid, even if the last time to say the wrong thing, this time to be brave to say, anyway, have missed a time, not afraid of more wrong, maybe this time not only say good but also let a person to change the perception of you it, remember, the ...
Because you are more calm it inner, so quiet temperament to attract people it
Slowly cheerful confidence lively optimistic cheerful. Every time you go out, your back is straight, and you keep hypnotizing yourself. Wow, you simply have too much temperament, kill the opposite group of turkeys. Imagine the road as a catwalk. Although I am a bit too much, but the psychological implication is very important, the more you think you can not, the more you can not. Just like, she is white, not as tall as me, she has me tall, not as smart as me, she is smarter than me, not as good as me. Even if everything is good, then what else to say, hurry to make friends to improve their own ah. The reason for this is the fact that it is not a good idea to have a good time with your family and friends.
Remember, life is like a play, life needs acting! Cheek and whatnot don't even care! To be confident, to put it bluntly, to do anything to have a bottom, chest. Fear of leadership, is not worried about their work is not done? Teach you a way to go to see the leader before the idea of a rationalization. Think about what questions the leader may ask back, how do I answer. In fact, the conversation is like writing an article, there are plain narrative, there are theme sublimation. You want to think about describing the facts of the answer, if you add a
Our own insights as sublimation. Leaders will feel that you people do things quite thoughtful. Communicate with coworkers, the simplest. Do not ask right and wrong, do your own. Talk about some of the other side of the business is good at the topic. Be sincere and ask in a learning tone. If it is not in the workplace, to chat more, the simplest: today is good, ah, did not rain. It opens the topic. Socializing is slightly difficult, not only to enliven the atmosphere, but also can not steal the limelight of the leadership. This depends on their own preparation. I do not agree with the shameless. This is the appearance, the real thing is to have confidence in the heart, flexible brain, rich content. Not confident, others ask you, stumbling to say no sentence, not flexible, others ask a sentence they do not understand, can not go on will be cold, no connotation, others say a thing, they ask three do not know. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good look at this, but I'm sure you can.
No face is quite able to enliven the atmosphere, but does not accurately convey the information on your business. You need to be able to let go as well as take it in.
Actually it's harder to succeed from this starting point of endeavor because these are much more inputs and slow to produce results, and using this as a starting point can't be considered a truly strong motivated desire. Basically you say these are the subsidiary results of self-confidence, eloquence, look generous, these also and personal character related, different personality in the self-confidence of the people on the basis of the performance are not quite the same.
Confidence comes from being satisfied with yourself, so you also need to find out what you most urgently need and what you really want to achieve before you implement it step by step.
Directly forcing yourself to get closer to some traits is easy to be counterproductive, because it may be contrary to your character, and even if you reach the extreme of that trait, you may not be happy. By then, if you don't analyze it well, you will further analyze it wrongly and aggravate the degree of going against your heart, one step forward and two steps back. So there is no need to pursue the most favorable, pursue what suits you best.
People are good, the world is so, can only protect themselves.
I just think that it is important to see the world, the owner's character may be the parents as a child pressed too much? A little timid, no self-confidence, go out more to see it, read thousands of books, travel thousands of miles, in case of more brain, and, more dress themselves more love themselves. If you do, I think, these should not be a problem.
First of all, learn to accept that nobody really cares about you ~ really, realize that no one really cares if you act unnaturally or good or bad, and then you will naturally relax. I don't know what to say, so I don't have the strength, I don't have the strength, so I'm not afraid to say anything, I'm afraid of being wrong, I'm afraid of doing anything, I'm afraid that the other side will think it's not appropriate, I can change the owner. Always afraid of error, think three seconds before speaking, meet people give themselves three seconds to prepare time, my own personality is a little big, so the work, afraid to say the wrong thing, people ask what will be a little brain and then say.
Smile more and speak with a smile and you won't be so nervous. Slowly practicing the initiative, these small things for me is still relatively sense of accomplishment, I hope that one day with all the people can speak eloquently
1, appearance. There is no such thing as an ugly woman, only a lazy woman, but of course I can't help it if you're not self-absorbed. If your innate conditions are not very good, then change the day after tomorrow, beautiful clothes to wear up exquisite makeup up, dress up their own many times is also a kind of self-hypnosis, like a mask to wear will feel secure. If you can't grasp it yourself, find a friend who can dress up and help you, the change in appearance will really bring a big change to the inner.
2, eloquence. Just one word, practice, force yourself to practice, more communication with people, more talk, no words to find words. The unit can always find out a few chatterboxes it ........ I am more books and study, and then communicate with others, the key to speak on stage is not afraid of losing face? I've always felt that the point of being on stage is the content of your words rather than yourself. So I
just say to myself in my mind to say good words on the line don't think too much. And now I'm getting better at it. In addition, there are times when you really need to push yourself, you will find that you have a lot of potential yo must learn to be thick-skinned, do not worry about losing face! The first thing you need to do is to get in touch with people, talk to strangers, and practice
Since I've been shameless, I've been able to get a lot more out of my life.
Work hard, keep learning-"
Make money, save money-"
Manage your money, dress up, travel-"
Confidence, communication-"
The basis of continuous evolution, all need to be their own independent learning