In life, there are always some people, there is no sense of boundaries, no matter whether others are willing or not, either like to intervene in other people's affairs, or like to give people complain about their own misfortune, no matter whether they are sick and tired of, and has been saying non-stop.
Even some people, in the work, not their own things, grabbing to do, thinking they are irreplaceable, mixed like a fish out of water. I don't know, people have long been tired of it, just not good to say it.
01
I have a friend who got married the year before. She said that their neighbor had an Auntie Li, who was known to her mother-in-law through square dancing . We weren't familiar with each other, but one day she came home and saw that Auntie Li, with her shoes off and her feet on the coffee table, was watching TV while leaning on the sofa and chatting with her mother-in-law. And her mother-in-law was picking vegetables at the dining table.
Seeing that it's time for dinner, this Auntie Lee is still not home, so she made more of her meal. Then this Auntie Lee is really nonchalant, just mix the noon meal in her house, eat before leaving.
The key is that she is also a broken mouth, what are raised outside the pouring, the original son in law went back to his mother's home, her own lazy cooking.
After Auntie Lee left, her mother-in-law just told her, her mother-in-law on the square dance to recognize Auntie Lee, only know the same building, not familiar at all, as a result, today, Auntie Lee see her back to buy food, together with the upstairs to come, the beginning of the people she thought they went home, and the result is that the people with the family to rub the meal to come.
Then my friend told her mother-in-law to lessen her dealings with this kind of people in the future, or else she couldn't get rid of the trouble. The mother-in-law also said that it should not be so serious, and then people are followed to come, it is not good to throw out is not, my friend is not good to say anything.
One day, my friend's mother-in-law asked her if she was married for more than two years, and she wasn't going to have a baby. My friend is incredible, her husband asked, how suddenly remembered to say this, her mother-in-law said, Auntie Li said, women and other older, it is not good to have children.
My friend was shocked! She's only 27 years old, so how can she be older? The first thing she said was that her mother-in-law said, "Auntie Li, who is almost as old as I am, has grandchildren who are a few years old. The first time I saw her, she said, "I don't know what to do with you, but I don't know what to do.
After that, both of them assured that the epidemic is easy, as soon as possible to have children, so as not to cause family conflicts. Let her not interact with that kind of people also do not believe.
One day, Auntie Li brought her grandson to my friend's house, even eat with take not to say, go home and allergic, which can not be, go to the hospital to check the mango allergy. The first thing I did was to ask my friend's mother-in-law if she could not see her grandchildren, so she did him a favor. Finally or her daughter-in-law rushed to the hospital, the old lady said, said their own family knows the child allergy, the family does not buy mango, on other people's homes, you still let the child mess eat, other people know the child mango allergy? Successfully let the old lady shut up.
After that time, my friend and her husband, hard to give the old man a lesson, said fortunately no big deal, or finished. The old lady also knows, he was wrong, should not be with this no sense of boundaries of the people to interact, after all, the mango put there, is really not her to give, people come as their own home.
After that, Auntie Li looked for her to dance again, she said that she was old and could not dance anymore, and never went back. The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley, and I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley.
02
The old man in the family was hospitalized, and I often ran to the hospital in those days, and I had to go to work, and I also had to make some soup at home, and I was very tired, and I just wanted to find a place to rest. The first thing I did was to get a chair, and I was able to get a chair, and I was able to get a chair, and I was able to get a chair.
An old lady in the neighboring bed has been looking for me to talk to, and started to say that we take care of the elderly, which is good, and I took her as a polite person, and asked her if she was better.
The result was a hornet's nest, and she told me how her partner was bad for her, and that she was too old to be honest, and that she didn't spend any money, and that she had four sons and no daughters, and that she had a family.
And said that there are two close to the hospital, no one to send her soup, are outside the takeaway, oil, but also not nutritious, a mess of complaints, all negative emotions. I don't have the heart to not let people say that, so I didn't rest, and I don't have the energy to go to work in the afternoon.
The result of the next day and give me a complaint, a lot of the first day to say those, I did not say anything, after all, people's family.
The third day, I went to the other side, although there is no chaise longue, at least against the wall, the ear can be clean clean, after all much more comfortable.
In fact, her son and daughter-in-law and grandchildren have come to see her, that is, we all have something to be busy, can not always be accompanied, not there is still her old man accompanied it! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that.
It doesn't matter if you're talking about negative energy, it doesn't matter if it's a problem for you. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of what you're doing and how you're going to do it.
03
In the old days, when I was working at that place, there was a small staff, and everyone called her Sister Zhang. She was the first to arrive at the company every day, and often cleaned up the office properly, and some people like to drink tea, so they made tea for people, and also put flowers on the table.
She can talk to anyone, a day happy, typical of the "Post-It", who need to find her, she is also willing to help. The first time I saw her, I was able to get to know her, and I was able to get to know her better, and I was able to get to know her better.
One day, there was a problem with the budget, which led to the company losing a lot of money. The company's budget was a problem, and the company lost a lot of money. The company asked the person responsible for the problem, and the result was a circle down to the head of Ms. Zhang, who had made a mistake in entering the data. But originally that was not her job scope, because she is a good person, people make use of the habit, only to find her to do.
In the end, Zhang was fired. At first, people mentioned her and felt sorry for her. But not two days later, there were rumors that just because Ms. Zhang was there, the cleaning aunts were often lectured, saying that cleaning was her responsibility, how to let others clean for her. Later, someone said that the manager's secretary had also been lectured, saying that her tea-making skills had deteriorated. But she didn't dare to say that it was Sister Zhang who did it, or else the manager doesn't like people to just move her things ......
Such gossip began to multiply, and then slowly faded away. Everyone seems to have forgotten that there is such a person, but Sister Zhang, still in the job market to put the resume.
Because of this time, she did not grasp the ability to enhance their own, the office who can make her, she did those, basically as long as the heart, will do, alternative is too strong. It's too hard to find a job without too much skill.
@MeetThePotato thinks that people should have a sense of boundaries, loved ones, parents, friends, coworkers, and even husband and wife, everyone has their own space, their own privacy, do not easily meddle in other people's affairs, other people do not like it, and may even be difficult to please.
Don't see people complaining about their own lives, like "Sister Xianglin", the pain between people is not connected, no one can empathize, and no one need to listen to you complain, listen to more, but also numb.
Don't meet people to tell them all about your family, if you have value, it is the life that is being utilized, if you have no value, it is the life that is disliked.
Don't just help others, like Ms. Zhang, if someone else has a need, she will ask you, and then you choose to help or not, don't live your own life as a "Post-It", so no one will thank you.
People live a lifetime, do not complain, do not overstep the boundaries, confident but not gullible, more not blindly follow the trend, go with the flow, maintain a sense of appropriate boundaries, not far from not close, in order to better life.