"Why don't the people born in the 1990s around me get married?" This question feels a bit too exaggerated. I can only say that there may be a small number of people born in the 90s around me who are unwilling to get married.
For example, there are a group of sisters around me who are unwilling to get married. They are either single, fearful of marriage, or simply think marriage is meaningless.
To give a simple example, what role do girls play in a family? According to the conventional plot, she will become a wife, a mother, a grandma, and an office worker. If something happens to the family, she may also bring a "40-meter sword" and become a witty mistress. ’s “quasi-ex-wife”, here she has five identities.
Let’s analyze it carefully, the first level: wife.
In a conventional family, a wife needs to be considerate, filial to the elderly, and take care of her husband and children. In real life, many boys take it for granted that girls should do the housework.
A small number of boys have learned to share housework with girls and have begun to try to understand girls' hard work. This accounts for about 40%, and the remaining 60% When boys come home, they still have clothes to put on, hands to eat, and food to eat.
Second floor: Mom.
Many articles will mention one thing: "How to judge whether a man is a human or a dog, you only need to give birth to a child to know."
Putting aside the matter of favoring sons over daughters, There are some boys who think that taking care of children is always a girl's job. If the child cries in the middle of the night and he has no milk, his wife must get up to take care of it. Other girls do not give birth to children in the same way and take care of them by themselves.
I am the breadwinner of the family and I have to make money to support the family! It is impossible to get out of bed, it is impossible to get out of bed in this life.
It can be seen from here that those advertising slogans may be deceptive, "How to give birth to a child and be a queen for a lifetime", is it possible? Will the Queen get up by herself to nurse her baby? A queen is not allowed to have several servants, funny.
Third level: grandma or grandma.
When your children grow up, marry and have children, your children will tell you, "Mom, we are under too much pressure. We all have to go to work to make money to buy milk powder. Can you help take care of yours?" Just wait for your grandson to go to kindergarten soon?"
Seeing the difficulties of your children, you put down your travel plans and forgot about your square dance plan that you said you would become famous when you were old. Concentrate on helping take care of your grandson.
If you are lucky and your wife retires and has nothing to do at home, he may help you take care of the children. At that time, he may suddenly sigh, "Oh, it turns out that taking care of children is so tiring. How did you bring it down alone?" Faced with such a sigh.
There is only one thought in your heart: "I might be a superman. When you meet a loser, you can only be strong yourself."
The fourth floor: office workers.
According to my statistics, this is the biggest reason why the post-90s generation does not get married, because both boys and girls born in the 90s now like to be independent, earn their own money and spend it themselves, and spend it with their girlfriends or boyfriends when they are in love.
There is no problem with this, but putting the status of "office worker" on a wife means that she not only has to fulfill the obligations of a wife, but also the obligations of an office worker.
It may not be too concrete to say this, but let’s be specific in real life. Suppose you are a post-90s generation and are now married. Both you and your husband are working, and you are doing a job that is not easy. Work, but gets off work earlier than your husband.
In order to match the time when your husband gets home, you always run to the vegetable market early after get off work, buy your husband’s favorite dishes, then rush home to cook, and start again after you finish the meal. Wash or put away the clothes and wait for your husband to come back.
When your husband comes back, if he is in a good mood today, he will happily praise you while looking at the table full of dishes, making you feel that your hard work is recognized by the family. If he is in a good mood today, No, everything he looked at was dissatisfying. Even the dishes carefully prepared for him, he could give three reasons why he was dissatisfied.
At this time, you still have to comfort him and ask him to tell him the reasons for his unhappiness to enlighten him. But when you go to bed at night, you suddenly remember how wronged you were by being scolded by the customer at work today.
The fifth floor: The "quasi-ex-wife" who outsmarts the mistress
I don't want to explain this. All I want to know is to watch the recently popular Korean drama "The World of the Married". An episode full of high energy.
Returning to the question itself: Why don’t the people born in the 1990s around me get married?
After reading the five levels of status above, do you want to get married? Wouldn’t it be nice to be single or always in love? You have to be an "old mom" to be happy.
Of course, the situation here is that boys are the ungrateful type and have the oldest thought: "Men should be at home, and women should be at home doing laundry, cooking and taking care of the family. There is a trace of complaint."
What is the point of marrying such a boy? Is it because he is not happy enough to make money, or is he not tired enough from work, or is he happy enough just because he is handsome and does nothing at home?
Anyway, not getting married is pretty cool, but another reason for not getting married may be "One person is very good, and if the other person can get along well, marriage is okay, but the other person has not come yet, So it’s good to be alone.”