First, I want to be a positive person and useful to society. Even though the path they planned for me is not the one I chose, they will be pleased that I have the ability to pave another path for myself and walk solidly and steadily. Our parents don't expect much from us, and although we can't be rich and famous, as long as we have a healthy personality, a job that can support us, and make friends and lovers who love us, our parents will be relieved.
The second thing is to keep in close contact with them and maintain our kinship. Many young people go to work in a foreign country after graduation, and their parents become a worry on the other end of the phone. I have read a data that by 2030, 90% of the elderly in our country will be empty nesters, and more than 200 million elderly people will die alone at that time. As an only child, the thought that my parents may become empty nesters in the future makes my heart bleak.
Whether they stayed with their parents or drifted to the north, I think children should contact their parents often and at regular intervals. To the extent that they can understand, we tell them about our lives and status, mainly to report good news, but when we really encounter a big setback, I will choose to seek their psychological support in the first place. Maintaining our need and reliance on them is an important bond that sustains our relationship. For children who are already married, it is important to bring your significant other and children home often to visit them. Our companionship is the best filial piety.
Third, lead your parents to keep up with the times. As parents get older, they will slowly lose the pace of the times. They can't understand new ideas and technology, and the generation gap gets wider and wider. But why should we force our parents to try to keep up with our pace? Children should lead them to adapt to new changes, just like our parents holding our hands to learn to walk when we were young. I just taught my parents how to use Internet banking, and now they can use their cell phones to check out at the grocery store.
Fourth, care for your parents' spiritual life. Parents get lonely and lost easily when they get older. I hope my parents can find their own hobbies after retirement and live a full and happy life. Whether it's square dancing, attending a college for the elderly, or raising flowers at home, I'll help them as long as they like. If they do not have the ability to find hobbies, I will help them to expand their horizons and social circle, so that they can live a colorful life. And I will support them to go out for traveling. They have struggled hard all their lives, they should also go to see the wider world, see the poetry and faraway places.
Fifth, do not kidnap your parents and do not burden them. Many young people, when they reach the age of buying a house or a car, shift the burden to their parents, thinking that this is what they should bear. Parents pour their life savings to finally buy their children a house, but then face the pressure of seeing their grandchildren. We young people have to solve our own difficulties if we can, and we should never morally kidnap our parents if they are not happy about it.