"Daughter-in-law, our mother to take care of you in the month, give her 20,000 yuan salary. After all, a month sister-in-law also cost a lot of money, our mom is still not worth these few dollars?"
"I don't think so! I will not give this money, people do not come, if you give today, people come, tomorrow we see the Civil Affairs Bureau!"
When Lin Jie repeated this conversation with her husband, I thought for a moment that Lin Jie was too serious. The old man has no obligation to the young people to look after the children, had toiled all their lives, they should have their own life in their twilight years, or square dancing, or to travel travel. Since she can come to take care of her daughter-in-law in menstruation, that she has selfless contribution to the flesh, this time the younger generation should give some material compensation is normal.
But the next words of Lin Jie made me fall into deep meditation. Lin Jie said: "When the marriage before, said 50,000 bride price, but when we lead the end of the marriage certificate, mother-in-law turned the other cheek, hard to say that can not get the 50,000. My parents were afraid of embarrassing their son-in-law, took the initiative to say no, but the dowry was not a penny less, the whole 100,000 yuan.
The purpose is to let the mother-in-law focus on me. But I did not expect, mother-in-law to buy a house for the sake of the younger brother-in-law, tearful three days to 100,000 yuan clutched in my hands, so far did not buy a house for the younger brother-in-law, but constantly to the younger brother-in-law cited to go as a door-to-door son-in-law.
When I was pregnant with my first child, my mother-in-law took something to live in my house, the name is to take care of my month, but not only with my husband, her son to the salary, but also eat my mother's family to me to bring the nutrients.
Looking at her is my mother-in-law's face, these I did not take it seriously, and did not with her, just hope that she do not come to mix with my family, do not take her son as a puppet, and do not come to me to take care of the month, as long as she is away from me far away from each other, each other on the peace and quiet. In the past, how to have the face to come to the hall to say that take care of my month! Almost for old age and without shame."
02After listening to Lin Jie's words, I could understand her inner resentment. There is more than just money at stake here. Such old people are like leeches, sucking the blood of their sons. These old people never care about their children's lives, but instead are selfish and want to suck blood from their sons when they get old.
Originally, a son takes care of his parents as a matter of course, and a child who understands the situation will not be able to ignore his own parents, but when parents make such a move, even if the child has the heart to take care of, but also not willing to share a little bit of love to them.
Don't look at Xiaoying now mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, the two people like sisters from time to time to leave the two old man out of the travel, her last marriage, once but with the mother-in-law argued the day.
Small Ying's ex-husband is a "mom's baby", due to the single parent, since childhood, the mother is obedient. The first time I was in a relationship with a woman, I was a little honest, and I was careless, not expecting my boyfriend to be a mama's boy.
Before the marriage, Xiaoying chose to bare marriage, she felt there is no need to let each other spend money to buy something, she is married to, and not be bought, do not want to let the marriage mixed with any money relationship. But it is a naked marriage, she did not have the time to see what kind of family the other side.
After marrying over, my mother-in-law's words are not good enough for Xiaoying, and from time to time I praise my son's last girlfriend is a rich man, every time he came to their home with a whole lot of good things, good family and filial piety, but the two people did not have a destiny. The first thing I want to do is to make sure that my son's girlfriend has a good reputation, and that she has a good reputation for her work.
03Hearing these words, Xiaoying was furious, but she didn't want to talk to the old man, and didn't say anything. After she became pregnant, her mother-in-law's behavior was too much for her to bear, and the family was in an uproar.
Throughout the month, her mother-in-law made three meals for Ying, a cabbage stew, a tofu stew and a scrambled egg. But outside the mother-in-law said to others, she every day to my daughter-in-law, but the effort is not pleasing to the daughter-in-law is really too much, a moment of disgust in the dishes put too much salt, a moment of disgust rice is not nutritious. The fact is that the company's products and services have been widely recognized as the best in the world, and the company's products and services have been widely recognized as the best in the world," he said.
Small Ying know that her mother-in-law outside so arranged myself, but also such a lie, the fire came up, so that her husband went to find his mother to talk about it, if this continues, do not blame her face. But from a young age, used to listening to his mother's husband, how to feel that the mother's not, constantly obedient, is not to find the mother to talk about.
One look at this status quo, Xiaoying directly tear the face, the mother-in-law did all these things said in. Mother-in-law not only do not give her cooking, but also every month with my son to take two thousand dollars to buy food money. The food did not see, but the money is all gone, who understand that this money in the end is into whose pockets.
After tearing his face off, his husband could not hang on to his face, and he kept getting into trouble with Ying. Ying also did not habitual, decisive divorce with children and my money away. She said: "If the mother-in-law does not come to the home, do not give her pain, she would rather give her money to keep safe. Usually certainly my approach is a little more decisive, but I really do not want my children to live in such a family in the future."
04Fortunately, Xiaoying remarried, her mother-in-law is very good to her, not only will not ask them for money, but also take the initiative to subsidize them. The two of them have never let their mother-in-law suffer, and they are doing their best to be good to their mother-in-law, and the two of them have nothing to talk about, and they have simply become friends. The current husband of Xiaoying, but also Jingchao flirted with, as if he was a son-in-law, Xiaoying came to this family, his mother did not say a word to him!
Small Ying often lamented that this is the family that loves each other. Even if her mother-in-law needs someone to take care of her when she gets old, she will not hesitate to ask for help!
The hearts of the people are long, especially between family members, if once every penny, feelings will gradually metamorphosis, and ultimately dissipate. But if you think of each other in a good direction, a little better for each other, a little more sincere, why worry about the relationship is not good?
The more the relatives care about money, the more they care about the interests and despise the feelings, sooner or later will fall apart. Advise those mothers-in-law, do not want to get any benefit from my daughter-in-law, as long as you look at her, the future she will not be responsible for you. Also advise those who are daughters-in-law, do not want to let your mother-in-law to help you what they take the initiative to help is affection, do not intervene is normal!